Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood it as check was written for (example here) $500 but OP is in the process of asking for $1,000. If OP cashes the check, does that mean OP forever accepts $500 as the amount?

OP here. Yes, this is what I meant. However, we haven't started negotiating the agreement yet, due to life priorities that had to take precedence over pushing through a divorce, so I haven't asked for a specific amount yet. In the meantime, I've received several checks from STBX, at random intervals (not every month), and for random amounts. This is the first one that says it's for "[month] payment", so I don't know the implications. All the checks, including this one, have been for almost insultingly low amounts compared to how much child support is reasonable and necessary, even compared to the court formula (however, CS won't go by a formula in our case, because income is above the formula threshold, so I think that means a judge can make it whatever they want). I've gone into debt, so I could use this money, and want to cash the check, but am worried about boxing myself in, and don't have a lawyer to ask at the moment.

There is no agreement. Go file in the child support office. It is free. It is fine to take the money. Get a lawyer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand. Your ex sent you a check intended for child support andyou're trying to mess with them by not cashing it so you can claim they did not pay?

You are not this Fing dumb. Please go away. I yield my time . F u.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood it as check was written for (example here) $500 but OP is in the process of asking for $1,000. If OP cashes the check, does that mean OP forever accepts $500 as the amount?

OP here. Yes, this is what I meant. However, we haven't started negotiating the agreement yet, due to life priorities that had to take precedence over pushing through a divorce, so I haven't asked for a specific amount yet. In the meantime, I've received several checks from STBX, at random intervals (not every month), and for random amounts. This is the first one that says it's for "[month] payment", so I don't know the implications. All the checks, including this one, have been for almost insultingly low amounts compared to how much child support is reasonable and necessary, even compared to the court formula (however, CS won't go by a formula in our case, because income is above the formula threshold, so I think that means a judge can make it whatever they want). I've gone into debt, so I could use this money, and want to cash the check, but am worried about boxing myself in, and don't have a lawyer to ask at the moment.

There is no agreement. Go file in the child support office. It is free. It is fine to take the money. Get a lawyer.

Let’s assume ex is trying to do the right thing.
Support is based on calculations and around here is retroactive. So a court will pull your income and ex’s income and plug into a calculated and get a number. Ex may offset what is retroactively owed with what they’ve paid. Or maybe they won’t even ask because kids ... they eat.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood it as check was written for (example here) $500 but OP is in the process of asking for $1,000. If OP cashes the check, does that mean OP forever accepts $500 as the amount?

OP here. Yes, this is what I meant. However, we haven't started negotiating the agreement yet, due to life priorities that had to take precedence over pushing through a divorce, so I haven't asked for a specific amount yet. In the meantime, I've received several checks from STBX, at random intervals (not every month), and for random amounts. This is the first one that says it's for "[month] payment", so I don't know the implications. All the checks, including this one, have been for almost insultingly low amounts compared to how much child support is reasonable and necessary, even compared to the court formula (however, CS won't go by a formula in our case, because income is above the formula threshold, so I think that means a judge can make it whatever they want). I've gone into debt, so I could use this money, and want to cash the check, but am worried about boxing myself in, and don't have a lawyer to ask at the moment.

There is no agreement. Go file in the child support office. It is free. It is fine to take the money. Get a lawyer.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand. Your ex sent you a check intended for child support andyou're trying to mess with them by not cashing it so you can claim they did not pay?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood it as check was written for (example here) $500 but OP is in the process of asking for $1,000. If OP cashes the check, does that mean OP forever accepts $500 as the amount?

OP here. Yes, this is what I meant. However, we haven't started negotiating the agreement yet, due to life priorities that had to take precedence over pushing through a divorce, so I haven't asked for a specific amount yet. In the meantime, I've received several checks from STBX, at random intervals (not every month), and for random amounts. This is the first one that says it's for "[month] payment", so I don't know the implications. All the checks, including this one, have been for almost insultingly low amounts compared to how much child support is reasonable and necessary, even compared to the court formula (however, CS won't go by a formula in our case, because income is above the formula threshold, so I think that means a judge can make it whatever they want). I've gone into debt, so I could use this money, and want to cash the check, but am worried about boxing myself in, and don't have a lawyer to ask at the moment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood it as check was written for (example here) $500 but OP is in the process of asking for $1,000. If OP cashes the check, does that mean OP forever accepts $500 as the amount?

OP here. Yes, this is what I meant. However, we haven't started negotiating the agreement yet, due to life priorities that had to take precedence over pushing through a divorce, so I haven't asked for a specific amount yet. In the meantime, I've received several checks from STBX, at random intervals (not every month), and for random amounts. This is the first one that says it's for "[month] payment", so I don't know the implications. All the checks, including this one, have been for almost insultingly low amounts compared to how much child support is reasonable and necessary, even compared to the court formula (however, CS won't go by a formula in our case, because income is above the formula threshold, so I think that means a judge can make it whatever they want). I've gone into debt, so I could use this money, and want to cash the check, but am worried about boxing myself in, and don't have a lawyer to ask at the moment.