Anonymous
07/08/2020 17:49
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
My kids cost way more than $2k/mo to raise, sounds like a bargain to me.
You are supposed to provide payment from your side too and not just ask from your ex-H. If you can't raise a child within $2K/month then there is a serious spending issue there. I don't think a middle income child would have any problem in getting raised on this amount unless you have decided to not use money from your side at all.
On $2K, not including my share, if I was divorced, I could easily put away $1K for college and pay for sports and two private lessons a week. Makes no sense.
Anonymous
07/08/2020 08:01
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
My kids cost way more than $2k/mo to raise, sounds like a bargain to me.
You are supposed to provide payment from your side too and not just ask from your ex-H. If you can't raise a child within $2K/month then there is a serious spending issue there. I don't think a middle income child would have any problem in getting raised on this amount unless you have decided to not use money from your side at all.
Anonymous
07/07/2020 22:50
Subject: Re:Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:How do your kids cost more than $2K. My child is in 4 day a week sports, 1 private sport lesson, 1 private music lesson and one other activity and its not even close to $2k a month.
This doesn’t even touch on the costs of raising a child, it’s just extracurriculars. What about the basics like food/clothing/shelter? So groceries, new shoes, rent/mortgage, utilities, etc. Then there is transportation - do you drive a bigger car due to kids? Gas? What about child care? Lots of single parents need babysitters/nannies/aftercare. How about therapies? Tutors? Orthodontia? My three kids all needed braces, and two needed school tutors. For extracurriculars, kids might need an instrument or sports equipment. The list goes on. Seriously, do you even have kids??
Yes, we have our house and cars for us and would have the same without kids. No difference in cost. Mine are in multiple activities and two private lessons a week. No child care. We tutor ourselves. We have a sn child so copays and when insurance did not cover it, full price but it was not $2k per child ever. Clothing is all new but get it on good deals. You have a spending issue. Even in braces it is not $2k. Only time we spend that maybe is for a few camps but that is a want not need we could cut out a lot if we needed to. You have 3 kids. A car is fine.
Anonymous
07/07/2020 10:22
Subject: Re:Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
How do your kids cost more than $2K. My child is in 4 day a week sports, 1 private sport lesson, 1 private music lesson and one other activity and its not even close to $2k a month.
This doesn’t even touch on the costs of raising a child, it’s just extracurriculars. What about the basics like food/clothing/shelter? So groceries, new shoes, rent/mortgage, utilities, etc. Then there is transportation - do you drive a bigger car due to kids? Gas? What about child care? Lots of single parents need babysitters/nannies/aftercare. How about therapies? Tutors? Orthodontia? My three kids all needed braces, and two needed school tutors. For extracurriculars, kids might need an instrument or sports equipment. The list goes on. Seriously, do you even have kids??
Anonymous
07/05/2020 19:11
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
I gave up all child support so I could have custody. Please provide links to the peer reviewed research you reference. I do not know I single instance of this.
There is no accountability on how child support is used.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 19:10
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
My kids cost way more than $2k/mo to raise, sounds like a bargain to me.
How do your kids cost more than $2K. My child is in 4 day a week sports, 1 private sport lesson, 1 private music lesson and one other activity and its not even close to $2k a month.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 19:10
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.
The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 09:07
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
My kids cost way more than $2k/mo to raise, sounds like a bargain to me.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 08:33
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 08:28
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.
I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 08:22
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
My XH pays $100/mo (when he pays) and I have the child 80% of the time. Trust me, it costs many hundreds a month to raise a child. Financially, I’d be much better off with 50/50 and no CS. I’m not in it for CS. I want my child to be safe and have a stable home. Her father values buying weed over buying school supplies.
Well, I guess that means you got screwed.
Anonymous
07/05/2020 08:19
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Lesson to men who feel they are being used as a source of income: use a condom every single time, or get a vasectomy. Same old story.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 22:18
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
Anonymous
07/04/2020 09:39
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
My XH pays $100/mo (when he pays) and I have the child 80% of the time. Trust me, it costs many hundreds a month to raise a child. Financially, I’d be much better off with 50/50 and no CS. I’m not in it for CS. I want my child to be safe and have a stable home. Her father values buying weed over buying school supplies.
Well, you chose to reproduce with him.
Anonymous
07/04/2020 09:34
Subject: Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
I have to agree with the PP here. Have experienced a lot in handling divorce cases(not mine but in other settings) and can say that it is very true for some women to be using their kids as a source of income. It's sad but true. Lots of them ended up having kids(without marriage) with a rich guy just to have the income flowing for 18 years. It's a stereotype for a reason.