Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Then this is incredibly easy:

No mask, no car.

She has zero need to go anywhere right now. There is no school, sports, work or internships that she needs to go to. She is showing you she can’t handle the responsibility—believe her.

Confiscate the car keys.

Not OP, but dear lord you people are clueless. Her friends will pick her up.

Yiu can't control a 17yr old with a hammer. It won't work. She can walk right out thr door and if the parents decided to kick her out they will be arrested.

OP will get better results with diplomacy and compromise.

For the record my son works at Wegmans and picked up more shifts when school closed. He did not wear a mask, not did 90% of his coworkers until it became the law. No ody died at his Wegmans and nobody in out house died, or even got sick. He does no social distancing and has an active social life and I'm alive to tell the story.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Well Jesus Christ then take away her car keys!

She just will have her friends pick her up; all are driving. I do not want to get involved as a step-parent.

She could kill you with what she's doing. You are allowed to get involved.

WAY too dramatic. Seriously. What is wrong with you?

What is wrong with you? She could kill her. What don't you understand? I am not a drama queen at all, but until people start taking this seriously nothing is going to change.

Let her come live with you if it isn't that big of a deal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

No brainer, parent.

No mask, no car, no mask, no money.

Your DH needs to sit her down and explain all of this to her. If he doesn't you do it.

Explain to her now she's not that special.

Don’t come too close to her at home, if possible. Try to not have family dinners. Make excuses to eat early and leave food for her. Don’t clean the bathroom she uses. She should be anyway at her age. Hopefully you don’t need to share a bathroom.

You can’t kick her out. You can demand she wear a mask and she can comply but she will take it off the second she is around the corner and out of view. It’s the age and all of your insisting isn’t going to do anything. Continue to have calm discussions about how it is important for all of you to not take any chances bringing anything to her mother and how wearing a mask is needed for her mom’s safety.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Then this is incredibly easy:

No mask, no car.

She has zero need to go anywhere right now. There is no school, sports, work or internships that she needs to go to. She is showing you she can’t handle the responsibility—believe her.

Confiscate the car keys.

1) Her dad needs to deal with this, not you
2) Her dad needs to tell her that if she won't wear a mask then she cannot be anywhere near the family so she will have to live in the basement and figure her meals out
3) if your husband won't tell her this then you need to tell him that he needs to stay in the basement

Anonymous wrote:I have a 17yo step-dd refusing to wear a mask. I have to remind her constantly to bring a mask with her and she does not care at all. I am concerned for my safety and safety of my kids. Her mother is high risk, but she just does not care. She started going to malls, restaurants, and house parties. I am afraid she will be bringing COVID home.

Masks are not mandatory where you live?

OP, we have tenants in our house from January until now, including people from overseas. We never required them to wear masks and we are totally fine.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Well Jesus Christ then take away her car keys!

She just will have her friends pick her up; all are driving. I do not want to get involved as a step-parent.

She could kill you with what she's doing. You are allowed to get involved.

This is your home and if you have other kids, even worse. You have a husband/Dad issue and I would take the car.

You are an adult in the house. You need to take the car or dad needs to step up and take the car. Get her tons of masks so when she loses them, you always have another to give her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Well Jesus Christ then take away her car keys!

She just will have her friends pick her up; all are driving. I do not want to get involved as a step-parent.

She could kill you with what she's doing. You are allowed to get involved.

WAY too dramatic. Seriously. What is wrong with you?

If there is not you can do about it, then she has to wear a mask at home and eat her dinner in her room.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Well Jesus Christ then take away her car keys!

She just will have her friends pick her up; all are driving. I do not want to get involved as a step-parent.

She could kill you with what she's doing. You are allowed to get involved.

Anonymous wrote:What does your spouse/her parent think? I would be concerned too, but as the stepmom you have limited options.

Your spouse needs to step up and parent.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?

From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.

Well Jesus Christ then take away her car keys!

She just will have her friends pick her up; all are driving. I do not want to get involved as a step-parent.