Anonymous
Post 06/18/2020 06:27     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:I had zero parental guidance. Took absurd classes like "AMERican Cool" and "empathy in journalism." Met my husband and popped out a bunch of kids. I am a cautionary tale to myself!

bahaha, one of the better DCUM posts
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2020 00:06     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friends husband would drive 2 hours each way to help his son with his economics homework. Unbelievable. He did this drive many times specifically to do/help with the economics homework.

I think that is really sweet and helpful. He got to spend time with his son and they probably had dinner as well. Plus, if dad knew it and son needed help, why is this that different than paying for a tutor or going to tutoring center? Plus if you are paying all that money for tuition, why not help kid understand the material. Maybe his kid had a LD that you don't know about?


It was a 2 hour drive each way on multiple occasions. His wife (the step Mom) thought it was crazy but did not say anything to her husband.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2020 00:04     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:Well, my kid recently asked me my opinion. We picked his classes together. He was switching fields and needed advice.


PP, since your kid asked your opinion that is a totally different matter and okay.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2020 00:03     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:Op here. One friend also plans to track his phone so she knows if he is in class every day. And she was also able to set it up where she will has access to log onto his college email to monitor every message he gets.

Still cool with all of you?


Really, really weird.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2020 00:01     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Op here. One friend also plans to track his phone so she knows if he is in class every day. And she was also able to set it up where she will has access to log onto his college email to monitor every message he gets.

Still cool with all of you?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 23:56     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
I helped my kid register because the website was impossible to figure out. I practically had a panic attack dealing with the website. My DC mostly picked his classes but I pointed out a few he wasn’t aware of. He has an awesome schedule and that’s what’s important.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 23:55     Subject: Re:My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Well - I was an international students whose parents had no idea how college in the US worked. But I was ambitious and hardworking and my parents knew that. If I had a kid who always tried to take the easy road, I would absolutely help pick classes and pay for tutors - considering that the experience costs 70k/year.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 23:47     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care what other parents are or aren’t doing?

Raise your kids the way you want. Live and let live. It is t hurting your kid or you.


+1 Stay in your lane, OP. You need to keep your eyes on the road in front of YOU, not someone else.


Haha.

So you are the parent the OP is talking about!
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 23:18     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
My rising Freshman has been doing orientation all week. He wants us to be involved in no way whatsoever. I agree.

Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 22:52     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
I had zero parental guidance. Took absurd classes like "AMERican Cool" and "empathy in journalism." Met my husband and popped out a bunch of kids. I am a cautionary tale to myself!
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 22:27     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:
I have several friends with seniors and they are doing everything for them since it's all online over the summer (orientation, registration, selecting classes). The hand-holding going on is jawdropping.

This generation of parents has made this generation of kids incompetent!

How much help are you giving your kid? Shouldn't they just step up and figure it out?


Let's see. My parents drove me to college orientation over the summer, walked the campus with me, helped me select courses the old fashioned fill-out-a-form way AND then when they moved me into my dorm room, we walked the routes for my courses.

I turned out just fine. YMMV.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 22:24     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Well, my kid recently asked me my opinion. We picked his classes together. He was switching fields and needed advice.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 22:15     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:Some kids mature slower than others.
The kids who don’t need the help won’t let their parents help. The kids who do need coaching or organizational help should benefit from it, because ADHD-type kids can be very successful once they develop the skills.

The goal is to get everyone up to speed, recognizing that different young adults won’t all reach that point at the same time.

Moral: do what you must for family, and understand others are doing the same for theirs.



Thank you. I always feel huge guilt when I read these posts. Mom of an ADHD kid.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 22:13     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care what other parents are or aren’t doing?

Raise your kids the way you want. Live and let live. It is t hurting your kid or you.


+1 Stay in your lane, OP. You need to keep your eyes on the road in front of YOU, not someone else.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2020 21:35     Subject: My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!
Why do you care what other parents are or aren’t doing?

Raise your kids the way you want. Live and let live. It is t hurting your kid or you.