Anonymous wrote:OP get a grip. This is not a big deal.

So what you say I don't know and then they have a choice to decline.

Seriously find something else to complain about.

+1,000

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.

+1

Maybe in march we were.

They probably assumed that YOU would care and only invite people who are socially distancing and therefore would know so not entitled. Not a big deal to just say you don’t know

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.

Kids aren’t getting covid from watching a movie in someone’s backyard.

Kids aren’t great at social distancing - and, arguably, shouldn’t have to be.
Many households and/or family circles have high risk members.
Connect the dots.

Read up on transmission. You need to be in close proximity for extended duration. Outdoors - even in close proximity- is low risk due to air flow.

OP, perfect response from you.

How are you handling mosquitoes?

So how do you feel about parents asking you about handguns in the house before drop off playdates? It's not nonequivalent right now.

I feel fine about that because it is asking me something about my own house, rather than asking me to go out and ask my other guests for a list of their social contacts. Like I said, it is totally fine to turn down invites where you don't know all the other guests, even outdoors ones with 1-2 kids. That's legitimate and understandable. Asking for a list of who other families kids can play with, or whether mom or dad has to interact with coworkers or the public, is unreasonable to me. But you're right, "I don't know" is fine. I'm not obligated to do more and am not going to.

I think your response is fine, but I probably wouldn't send my child unless we knew the other family and could ask them ourselves. So maybe that's your solution - only invite 2 - 3 kids whose families already know each other.

I think it's a little weird that you are irritated by this.

If I were inviting multiple kids over I'd invite all on the same platform -- email, text -- so the discussion could be had. I view it as my responsibility. I also have been telling the two families we see that DH protested and that's caused some people to change their behavior (say no, ask to limit X, Y, or Z) and I support that.

It's not really about you being irritated -- it's about people trying to do the right thing, and I'm surprised anyone would be annoyed by that!

Anonymous wrote:Parents are just scared, OP. Please don’t take it personally.

You don’t know whether they have a condition that puts them at greater risk or a family member who does. Be gracious and open your mind a minute.

So how do you feel about parents asking you about handguns in the house before drop off playdates? It's not nonequivalent right now.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s just you.

+1

I think it’s just you.

OP get a grip. This is not a big deal.

So what you say I don't know and then they have a choice to decline.

Seriously find something else to complain about.

Parents are just scared, OP. Please don’t take it personally.