Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 21:22     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
I have a 3.5yo and 1yo and we just sent the older one back to her daycare. It's made a huge huge difference in our mental health and productivity. 2 working parents can actually get work done with just the 1 year old around.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 21:20     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Anonymous wrote:Shout out to the others who don't have help. We don't either. DH and I have flexible work hours and some leave saved up, so we're going to each work less than a full week this summer so we can switch off on child care. It's far from ideal, but it's what we've settled on.


We have a 4 and a 2 year old. We don’t have help or family nearby to give us a break.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 15:28     Subject: Re:Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Anonymous wrote:Op, the only folks I know who have young kids (5 and under) and no help have one parent who is not “working” I.e., their employer is fine with them doing minimal work while they stay at home. Everyone else with two FT working parents who actually need to perform has brought in grandparents/family, hired a babysitter/nanny, or put their kids in a daycare for essential workers.

My employer was understanding for about 2 weeks only because they knew I was looking for a nanny. Otherwise they would have asked me to use leave and then FMLA. DH works long hours and his worked has only gotten busier. His employer was not flexible at all.

You are amazing for having done so much for so long. You should hire some help.


We have a 2 yo and 5 yo, and DH and I both work full time. We lasted until last week and have someone coming 3 days a week now. I can't believe we waited this long. It's been so nice.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 15:15     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Hire help. You aren't socially distancing anyhow, so it doesn't matter.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 14:59     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Check out Jills House in Tyson’s for respite care
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 14:21     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes I told my dh I needed help either hired or I was moving to my parents for the summer. Now here we are with my parents. Life is good. They are still working but part time (mom is a healthcare worker and dad consultant). My cousin and brother are in town and helping too. Such a mental relief.


Did the same. My husband doesnt love it and I feel bad but it’s so much better for the rest of us.

Lol yes previous pp here. Dh seemed quite insulted but this is infinitely better for us and him.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:59     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
I agree. Hire someone.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:57     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Anonymous wrote:Yes I told my dh I needed help either hired or I was moving to my parents for the summer. Now here we are with my parents. Life is good. They are still working but part time (mom is a healthcare worker and dad consultant). My cousin and brother are in town and helping too. Such a mental relief.


Did the same. My husband doesnt love it and I feel bad but it’s so much better for the rest of us.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:51     Subject: Re:Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Anonymous wrote:Op, the only folks I know who have young kids (5 and under) and no help have one parent who is not “working” I.e., their employer is fine with them doing minimal work while they stay at home. Everyone else with two FT working parents who actually need to perform has brought in grandparents/family, hired a babysitter/nanny, or put their kids in a daycare for essential workers.

My employer was understanding for about 2 weeks only because they knew I was looking for a nanny. Otherwise they would have asked me to use leave and then FMLA. DH works long hours and his worked has only gotten busier. His employer was not flexible at all.

You are amazing for having done so much for so long. You should hire some help.


we are in this position and haven't yet hired help but grandparents are coming soon...I just need to hold on one more month.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:47     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Shout out to the others who don't have help. We don't either. DH and I have flexible work hours and some leave saved up, so we're going to each work less than a full week this summer so we can switch off on child care. It's far from ideal, but it's what we've settled on.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:45     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Yes I told my dh I needed help either hired or I was moving to my parents for the summer. Now here we are with my parents. Life is good. They are still working but part time (mom is a healthcare worker and dad consultant). My cousin and brother are in town and helping too. Such a mental relief.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:40     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Definitely hire someone.

The point is to lower your risk and exposure of both contracting and spreading the virus. The point is not to create bigger burdens that are unmanageable in your life. At some point the increased risk outweighs the struggle to isolate. Only you and your family (and your hired help) can determine when and how that's done.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:36     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Absolutely hire help. I hit my breaking point a few weeks ago and was only dealing with 1 kid at home. This former daycare in DC is closed with no timeline for reopening. So we found a spot in a local daycare (VA) for him and everyone is way better off for it, no regrets.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 13:28     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
We hired help and have no regrets. There are A LOT of people looking for nanny jobs.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2020 12:46     Subject: Doing this till September isnt sustainable for me...now what?
Time for help. Your kid with autism desperately needs it. Do it today. Therapy consistently is essential at this age.