Anonymous
06/06/2020 17:54
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Anonymous wrote:My teenage son made us (whole family) a chicken casserole for lunch. It had peas in it. Dh doesn't like peas. So instead of sitting down to eat, he stood at the kitchen sink so when he got a bite of casserole with a pea in it, he could just spit it directly into the sink.
He thinks this is fine since he doesn't like peas.
Seriously, do your DHs have any modicum of grace or maturity? Jeezus H Christ. Your DH is a grown up child - does he throw tantrums when things don’t go his way? I pray your son didn’t have to witness too much immaturity from your DH.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 17:52
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
I bet it hurt your son's feelings. That would be unacceptable for me.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 17:50
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
I'm just so jealous that your son is cooking a meal. Your husband may have been trying to be funny, but he's also an ahole. Let your son deal with it himself, trust me.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 17:48
Subject: Re:This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
What does your husband do when you’re dining out and there’s something unexpected he doesn’t like? Does he spit it out on the floor? Couldn’t he just have pushed the peas aside with his knife?
Anonymous
06/06/2020 17:46
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
OK, now give us the pre-story. What would DH say if we asked him?
Anonymous
06/06/2020 17:37
Subject: Re:This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
It’s bad, especially for how it makes your son feel for trying something new. Don’t even get why you would do something like this.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:48
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
This can’t be new behavior from your dreamboat husband. Why are asking about this behavior now?
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:46
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Rude and gross and seriously poor parenting.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:45
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Rude
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:33
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
This is bad in that it’s very rude behavior.
Next time your DH gets annoyed at your son for doing something he considers disrespectful, I would remind him of this incident and tell him he doesn’t have a leg to stand on.
Respect is a 2-way street.
Next time your DH gets annoyed at your son for doing something he considers disrespectful, I would remind him of this incident and tell him he doesn’t have a leg to stand on.
Respect is a 2-way street.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:10
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spitting the peas out is going that extra mile to communicate unambiguous disgust. Your teenage son isn't likely to forget that visual, which is probably what your husband intended.
Sad putdown of something nice that your son did for the family. Seems like your husband doesn't like his son very much.
OP, just writing to add a question: how are you helping your son manage his feelings about this?
"Manage his feelings?" OP wants to raise a man.
Men manage their feelings. That's what mature adults do with their feelings
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:04
Subject: Re:This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, it’s obnoxious. Not everyone likes peas but it’s not like they have a particularly strong taste. So your DH is basically registering a protest vote that his own preferences weren’t being catered to, and discouraging your son from cooking again in the process.
You should have told him to sit down and that he’d get a lollipop at the end if he ate his meal.
+1
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:03
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spitting the peas out is going that extra mile to communicate unambiguous disgust. Your teenage son isn't likely to forget that visual, which is probably what your husband intended.
Sad putdown of something nice that your son did for the family. Seems like your husband doesn't like his son very much.
OP, just writing to add a question: how are you helping your son manage his feelings about this?
"Manage his feelings?" OP wants to raise a man.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:01
Subject: Re:This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Immature, but in the scheme of things, it's a let it go moment.
Anonymous
06/06/2020 16:01
Subject: This is really bad, right? (husband behavior)
Anonymous wrote:Spitting the peas out is going that extra mile to communicate unambiguous disgust. Your teenage son isn't likely to forget that visual, which is probably what your husband intended.
Sad putdown of something nice that your son did for the family. Seems like your husband doesn't like his son very much.
OP, just writing to add a question: how are you helping your son manage his feelings about this?