Anonymous wrote:August? You’re insane to wait so long.

OP here. I am going away mid June for 6-8 weeks. I won't see him before then. But it'll be good when it happens.

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Anonymous wrote:OP how old are you and him?
Like are you single, hoping to be married one day? Or in a totally different place?

I'm old so take my advice with a grain of salt.. but don't give your heart to guys who won't give you more than FWB. You're worth more than that and you will find someone better who will give you more than that. I know far too many people who wasted prime years in this kind of arrangement instead of dating stand up guys and ended up being single/no kids in their 40's. It is rarely fun for the woman.

You know, ma'am, some women are looking for a FWB, even if the man wants more.

Or tell themselves that. Because this woman clearly wants more or she wouldn't be on a MB posting about it and stressing about how it will come off. Woman are wired to want an emotional connection with sex and can rarely separate the two. Extended FB and FWB don't work for women. Every single one of my friends who spent their 30's in these relationships are single in their 40's and desperately want a partner and kids.

Can you send some of those dudes my way? All I want is a FWB but they always develop the feels and demand more. I just want to be able to Netflix and chill without a dude buying me flowers or asking me to move in.

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Anonymous wrote:OP how old are you and him?
Like are you single, hoping to be married one day? Or in a totally different place?

I'm old so take my advice with a grain of salt.. but don't give your heart to guys who won't give you more than FWB. You're worth more than that and you will find someone better who will give you more than that. I know far too many people who wasted prime years in this kind of arrangement instead of dating stand up guys and ended up being single/no kids in their 40's. It is rarely fun for the woman.

You know, ma'am, some women are looking for a FWB, even if the man wants more.

This is OP. LOL, thanks PP. Thank you for recognizing that. PPP, I am 50, he just turned 47. This ain't our first rodeo. We've known each other for 25 years and have done this on and off (depending on our respective situations) for years (and for years in between) and just started up again. And through all that time, I've actually wanted his **** more than anything else he has to offer. It's just so good. And I am 50 but he still wants my bod, so that feels gratifying. He has teenage daughters and there's no way I'm willing to take that on. Now he's riled up and he just texted me about an hour ago, but I will make him wait.

August? You’re insane to wait so long.

They just didn't have the confidence to ask for more.

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Anonymous wrote:OP how old are you and him?
Like are you single, hoping to be married one day? Or in a totally different place?

I'm old so take my advice with a grain of salt.. but don't give your heart to guys who won't give you more than FWB. You're worth more than that and you will find someone better who will give you more than that. I know far too many people who wasted prime years in this kind of arrangement instead of dating stand up guys and ended up being single/no kids in their 40's. It is rarely fun for the woman.

You know, ma'am, some women are looking for a FWB, even if the man wants more.

Or tell themselves that. Because this woman clearly wants more or she wouldn't be on a MB posting about it and stressing about how it will come off. Woman are wired to want an emotional connection with sex and can rarely separate the two. Extended FB and FWB don't work for women. Every single one of my friends who spent their 30's in these relationships are single in their 40's and desperately want a partner and kids.

Anonymous wrote:OP how old are you and him?
Like are you single, hoping to be married one day? Or in a totally different place?

I'm old so take my advice with a grain of salt.. but don't give your heart to guys who won't give you more than FWB. You're worth more than that and you will find someone better who will give you more than that. I know far too many people who wasted prime years in this kind of arrangement instead of dating stand up guys and ended up being single/no kids in their 40's. It is rarely fun for the woman.

You know, ma'am, some women are looking for a FWB, even if the man wants more.

OP how old are you and him?
Like are you single, hoping to be married one day? Or in a totally different place?

I'm old so take my advice with a grain of salt.. but don't give your heart to guys who won't give you more than FWB. You're worth more than that and you will find someone better who will give you more than that. I know far too many people who wasted prime years in this kind of arrangement instead of dating stand up guys and ended up being single/no kids in their 40's. It is rarely fun for the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:A little desperate just because we're in the middle of a pandemic. He might get a big head that he's so impressive in bed you're willing to risk COVID.

OP here. I'm not willing to risk Covid. That's why I was going to say "... but it's not to be..."


Anyway, I ended up saying I'd "give him a great birthday present if I could" and he got all riled up, which was the intention. He actually sent me a **** pic. I told him I couldn't see him before August so now he's waiting in anticipation. Good.

Have you sent him a teddies pic in return? I hope so, OP.

Anonymous wrote:A little desperate just because we're in the middle of a pandemic. He might get a big head that he's so impressive in bed you're willing to risk COVID.

OP here. I'm not willing to risk Covid. That's why I was going to say "... but it's not to be..."


Anyway, I ended up saying I'd "give him a great birthday present if I could" and he got all riled up, which was the intention. He actually sent me a **** pic. I told him I couldn't see him before August so now he's waiting in anticipation. Good.

Anonymous wrote:Accompany the text with a pic of your boobs and it's perfect.

+1

Why is this bad? You’re sleeping with the guy. It’s ok to be flirty. You didn’t ask him to marry you! 😂 Go for it, OP. Also the boob shot.

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Sounds desperate. Just say Happy Birthday and looking forward to seeing him again soon

Agree.

This has to be written by a woman. And seconded by a woman.
The first text is great. Not passive/aggressive. Unless he's an idiot, he'll know you mean it's because of the pandemic.

Anonymous wrote:If you are putting this much thought into this text to the guy, you're more into him than a casual fling.

That was my thinking, too. Be careful with your heart, OP.

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Sounds desperate. Just say Happy Birthday and looking forward to seeing him again soon

Agree.

She is desperate. That's why she's putting so much thought into a breezy text and we're trying to help her.