I had three kids before 30. I wanted to make sure that when I am 50, I can enjoy traveling again and have time for myself and my husband to reconnect like we used to without the interruption of children. I also wanted to make sure that when they have children I am there for them and can help watch them so they can build their career and life.

Anonymous wrote:It’s the perfect time. It only seems young in this unusual area. Go for it. You will have less trouble getting pregnant, more energy, and you will have more of your youth left by the time the kids are grown. I had mine at 29 and 32.

Agree.

Just fyi - I started trying at 29 but it took a few years so had my first at 32.
Had my second quickly afterwards because I didn't know if it would take several years again (but took about 6 months the second time, something like that, so long ago now).

Had DS at 25. I should have waited until I graduated from my PhD. Otherwise no regrets.

Anonymous wrote:Hell no. I'm 46, and my 18 year old is off to college (whatever that actually looks like) this fall.

This! I had my oldest when I was 23. He is 31. My youngest is 18. I loved having young children...when I was young. At 53, I’m enjoying having adult children. My DH is 2 years from retirement. I’m teaching yoga part time. Life is so simple and so quiet. If you’re ready, do it!

No wish I had them sooner. Not easy to lose weight as metabolism slows. I had one at 27 and another at 30.

I also was married at 25 and had been together since 20. We also had all our ducks in a row. We started trying at 27 and couldn’t get pregnant until 30. I’m 34 now and am so glad I was 30 when I had my first. Being in the same stage of life as all your friends is a big deal. I had my kids at 30 and 32 and so did nearly everyone I know who was married. A lot of my friends had their first at 32 which was nice too. In my moms group I’d say 90% of the moms are 30-35. I was on the younger side. We spend the rest of our 20s renovating a house we bought and traveling. We spend 20k a year on daycare (For 1) so there is just less of everything now.

But 27 isn’t too young. Being in a great marriage and having enough money to provide for a baby is the most important (I don’t mean rich, but stable middle class at least).

Anonymous wrote:I had my oldest at 29 (he's now 15). We had been married a little over 4 years when he was born. Like you, we had stable jobs and had already bought a house. My only regret was not having traveled more before we had him. If I wasn't already pregnant right now, I don't think I'd choose to get pregnant during a pandemic at age 27. You are so young!

Me too. Eldest at 29, I also wish we had traveled more. Otherwise it's been great.

No regrets, but I agree that you feel out of step around here. The people my age didn’t have kids and the people who had kids were a decade older. I loved having so much energy to run around after my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I regret not having a baby a couple years earlier. Had my first at 28.

Really, why? 28 is still really young

If 28 is young (it’s not) your window is 30 to 40. That’s not a long time.

I turned 29 just before my first was born, zero regrets about timing (he's 7 now). I'll only be in my mid-40s when he's off to college which will give us time to travel and save more during our key earning years before we retire. The early baby years are so exhausting, even in your 20s, so I can't imagine doing it when I'm nearing 40.

Anonymous wrote:I regret not having a baby a couple years earlier. Had my first at 28.

Really, why? 28 is still really young

I regret not having a baby a couple years earlier. Had my first at 28.

Depends. My husband and I married at 22 and started trying when I turned 29. It took us that long to be stable and have the income we needed. I’m still in medical training so we thought about waiting until that was over but it would be a long long road and I would be in my late thirties before I would be “done”. I’m very happy I tried when I did. Although we got pregnant within 2 months, just trying made me realize that if I suffered from infertility in my late thirties, I would not psychologically recover. Something about trying for a baby changes you and I am thankful for such a healthy and low risk pregnancy - that alone makes me happy I tried earlier rather than later. I’m also happy that I’ll be around (hopefully) for more years of her life. Late twenties/ early thirties is perfect in my opinion- not too early and not too late

Do it. I had mine at 30 and 35 and wish I would have had them younger.

Hell no. I'm 46, and my 18 year old is off to college (whatever that actually looks like) this fall.