I tend to think so to be honest. I'd still go and be supportive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under most circumstances, yes.

There are exceptions.

What is the situation here, OP?

OP here. I was going to add more details earlier but I got busy. A friend of my had a huge baby shower for her first child ( a boy). She is having a girl in the fall and her mom planned a baby shower for her in July. They canceled it but sent out emails telling people where to send the gift. They got many items and rally don’t need any big ticket items, but she is asking for everything in pink. Her cheapest item is $200. My husband said not to send her anything. They are both doctors and can afford to get these items.

My husband and I have one toddler boy and plan to get pregnant later this year. I would never think to have another baby shower, even if I have a girl. I purposely got everything in neutral colors. I probably will send her a gift but I think it’s really tacky.

Wow. Usually I don’t get the hate for baby showers. I love buying baby clothes, seeing my friends, and eating “shower” food. But this is pretty bad. What are they thinking?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under most circumstances, yes.

There are exceptions.

What is the situation here, OP?

OP here. I was going to add more details earlier but I got busy. A friend of my had a huge baby shower for her first child ( a boy). She is having a girl in the fall and her mom planned a baby shower for her in July. They canceled it but sent out emails telling people where to send the gift. They got many items and rally don’t need any big ticket items, but she is asking for everything in pink. Her cheapest item is $200. My husband said not to send her anything. They are both doctors and can afford to get these items.

My husband and I have one toddler boy and plan to get pregnant later this year. I would never think to have another baby shower, even if I have a girl. I purposely got everything in neutral colors. I probably will send her a gift but I think it’s really tacky.

I do think it is rude to be told where to send gifts. Wow.

I do not think it is rude to have a baby shower. They are usually called sprinkles.

How close of a friend is it? If it is a good friend, I would drive by and drop off gift and food after baby is born. I would want to see my friend. If it was a good friend who isn’t local, I would send a gift after the baby was born. If it is just a casual friend, I agree with your DH and would not send a gift at all.

OP here. We are friends through our good friends but not super close.

In that case, don’t send a gift.

People’s weddings are getting cancelled. You don’t need to send a gift for a second baby shower that got cancelled. Wish her congratulations on Facebook.

super tacky

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under most circumstances, yes.

There are exceptions.

What is the situation here, OP?

OP here. I was going to add more details earlier but I got busy. A friend of my had a huge baby shower for her first child ( a boy). She is having a girl in the fall and her mom planned a baby shower for her in July. They canceled it but sent out emails telling people where to send the gift. They got many items and rally don’t need any big ticket items, but she is asking for everything in pink. Her cheapest item is $200. My husband said not to send her anything. They are both doctors and can afford to get these items.

My husband and I have one toddler boy and plan to get pregnant later this year. I would never think to have another baby shower, even if I have a girl. I purposely got everything in neutral colors. I probably will send her a gift but I think it’s really tacky.

I do think it is rude to be told where to send gifts. Wow.

I do not think it is rude to have a baby shower. They are usually called sprinkles.

How close of a friend is it? If it is a good friend, I would drive by and drop off gift and food after baby is born. I would want to see my friend. If it was a good friend who isn’t local, I would send a gift after the baby was born. If it is just a casual friend, I agree with your DH and would not send a gift at all.

OP here. We are friends through our good friends but not super close.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under most circumstances, yes.

There are exceptions.

What is the situation here, OP?

OP here. I was going to add more details earlier but I got busy. A friend of my had a huge baby shower for her first child ( a boy). She is having a girl in the fall and her mom planned a baby shower for her in July. They canceled it but sent out emails telling people where to send the gift. They got many items and rally don’t need any big ticket items, but she is asking for everything in pink. Her cheapest item is $200. My husband said not to send her anything. They are both doctors and can afford to get these items.

My husband and I have one toddler boy and plan to get pregnant later this year. I would never think to have another baby shower, even if I have a girl. I purposely got everything in neutral colors. I probably will send her a gift but I think it’s really tacky.

I do think it is rude to be told where to send gifts. Wow.

I do not think it is rude to have a baby shower. They are usually called sprinkles.

How close of a friend is it? If it is a good friend, I would drive by and drop off gift and food after baby is born. I would want to see my friend. If it was a good friend who isn’t local, I would send a gift after the baby was born. If it is just a casual friend, I agree with your DH and would not send a gift at all.

Anonymous wrote:Yes omg all Baby showers are tacky.

Especially if you are older than 30

What? A baby shower for the first child is not tacky. Why does it matter how old the mother is? It’s to celebrate the baby.

Anonymous wrote:Under most circumstances, yes.

There are exceptions.

What is the situation here, OP?

OP here. I was going to add more details earlier but I got busy. A friend of my had a huge baby shower for her first child ( a boy). She is having a girl in the fall and her mom planned a baby shower for her in July. They canceled it but sent out emails telling people where to send the gift. They got many items and rally don’t need any big ticket items, but she is asking for everything in pink. Her cheapest item is $200. My husband said not to send her anything. They are both doctors and can afford to get these items.

My husband and I have one toddler boy and plan to get pregnant later this year. I would never think to have another baby shower, even if I have a girl. I purposely got everything in neutral colors. I probably will send her a gift but I think it’s really tacky.

I love baby sprinkles. It is more an excuse to get together to hang out and celebrate the mom to be. We usually go for brunch or afternoon tea. Everyone brings a small gift for the new baby.

During a pandemic, it doesn’t seem appropriate. Would it be a virtual one with a baby registry?

I never think parties are tacky. I don’t know who is paying for the shower/sprinkle but the cost of shower often costs more than the gift you are bringing.

I did not have a baby shower/sprinkle for my second child. My boys were 2 years apart and born in the same month. All my friends brought me a gift when they came to visit my second. I got a lot of gift cards.

We moved to the DC area and I had a third child 5 years later. We thought we were done after 2 and gave all our baby gear away. My new friends threw me a sprinkle. DH paid for it. All the people who attended were new friends and they brought me cute baby clothes for the girl since I had 2 boys and gave everything away anyways. Multiple friends gave me baby gear they were done with.

I do not think you should have a full shower for seconds. Baby sprinkles are totally fine. I love them. We always have one whenever one of our friends has a baby.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah but I think you can have exceptions for office parties (because the gifts are smaller/group and there can be a push to just do every pregnancy for equity. Also no one has to go anywhere) and small gatherings with close friends and fewer/smaller gifts.

Like if the invitation said “John and Jane have what they need from baby 1 but have put together a list of books for baby 2” or whatever, idk. Not a big registry though.

no no no.

Yes!

Anonymous wrote:Is a second baby shower tacky?

Yes.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes omg all Baby showers are tacky.

Especially if you are older than 30

Of course. I don't even know why this is a question. This information should be handed out with tampons and pads.