OP,

I'm curious why your husband drunk-texted angry comments to his father about the inheritance.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but why do your children deserve anything? The vast majority of inheritance is only left to children and not grandchildren. No you can’t take them to court

+1

And why are you getting involved with your husband’s families estate issues? Not your place, OP.

I hope you've been saving for your retirement and your kids' college educations because if you were expecting FIL to die and foot the bill for all that...Ooops!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

He's still responsible for his actions, addiction or not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

Whose fault is his addiction, if not his own? You are enabling and in denial.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it why everyone is so hard on OP. It’s very dumb of someone to give money to a young wife and not his own flesh and blood.
Apparently the wifey worked for it pretty hard though, and the son didn’t quite work on the relationship... maybe OP didn’t also... the right strategy would have been being nice to young wife and making sure FIL bonds with grandkids...

The son is inheriting a property so he can pass it down to his kids. He’s not completely forgotten.

You are out of line. This was never your money nor is it your children's money. Your FIL can give money to whoever he wishes, I can't believe you spoke on the phone with him about this.

Your DH was left property be grateful for that.

How presumptuous of you to ask your FIL about inheritance while he was still in good shape.

OP, all that matters is what is legal. What's written in the will. That's why wills exist.

No, you can not do anything. Story and your details are unimportant.

Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

Oh my god. I can’t believe you asked your father in law about your kids inheritance! That is beyond rude.

Most people leave directly to kids and frequently do no include grandkids.

You would not win a dime in court.

It sounds like DH is inheriting a property. Be thankful for that.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it why everyone is so hard on OP. It’s very dumb of someone to give money to a young wife and not his own flesh and blood.
Apparently the wifey worked for it pretty hard though, and the son didn’t quite work on the relationship... maybe OP didn’t also... the right strategy would have been being nice to young wife and making sure FIL bonds with grandkids...

Lots of people do that. My Dad has given tons of money to his girlfriends and not even a birthday gift to us or my kids. I have no issue with it but now he wants me to take care of him and I'm not doing it, especially with my money.

OP FIL is married. She probably took care of him till the end. She deserves the money. Grandkids don't have a right to inheritance. Its a nice thing to do, but not all grandparents care or love their kids or grandkids that way, like mine. OP needs to provide for her kids vs. waiting for someone else to.

How much money are we talking about here?