I divorced over this and many other issues. Can’t fix lazy, don’t give an F about anything.

I think this is an ongoing issue for OP not a one day thing.

OP I leave my kid a list of things she needs to do because while my spouse is not as bad as yours they def do a lot of screens and cant seem to think of other things.

I am work today and DD's list says" Zoom ( math) at X time, Read 30 mins, piano lesson at X time 30 mins, Do 2 pages of workbook, Building something with popsicle sticks, make a rainbow out of Lego.

Even on a weekend I would try and do something similar and tell you kid they need to do it before screens.

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Anonymous wrote:Is your husband depressed? Because he was interactive before, I’d cut him some slack during this time.

This is definitely a possibility. I’m depressed and having a hard time engaging with my kids like I used too. I’m also incredibly stressed.

DP.. you don't think OP is stressed?

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Anonymous wrote:You needed downtime from noon to 9pm without engaging your kid? That sounds weird, OP.

Maybe she needed that time to get work done?

NP. It was ONE DAY. It is FINE to have time to yourself, even that much, as a mom. Especially during a pandemic. Jeez.

I guess it’s just a weird dynamic to me. If I take 9 hours to lock myself in a room and watch Netflix, it feels hypocritical to care that other people are also doing nothing productive. But hey, to each his own. If I thought my family would leave me alone for any period of time at all, I’d take downtime too.

The point is that it is ONE DAY. Not every day. And...teach them to leave you alone. That’s a dynamic you are allowing. If you are fine with it, cool. If not, change it. I have no problem telling the folks that live in the house with me that I’m closed when I need some time to myself.

Ok.

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Anonymous wrote:You needed downtime from noon to 9pm without engaging your kid? That sounds weird, OP.

Maybe she needed that time to get work done?

NP. It was ONE DAY. It is FINE to have time to yourself, even that much, as a mom. Especially during a pandemic. Jeez.

I guess it’s just a weird dynamic to me. If I take 9 hours to lock myself in a room and watch Netflix, it feels hypocritical to care that other people are also doing nothing productive. But hey, to each his own. If I thought my family would leave me alone for any period of time at all, I’d take downtime too.

The point is that it is ONE DAY. Not every day. And...teach them to leave you alone. That’s a dynamic you are allowing. If you are fine with it, cool. If not, change it. I have no problem telling the folks that live in the house with me that I’m closed when I need some time to myself.

My dh also always parks the kids in front of electronics. We have a lot of arguments because he thinks 10+ hours of Roblox a day is fine for a 8 year old, because the kid really enjoys it.

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Anonymous wrote:You needed downtime from noon to 9pm without engaging your kid? That sounds weird, OP.

Maybe she needed that time to get work done?

NP. It was ONE DAY. It is FINE to have time to yourself, even that much, as a mom. Especially during a pandemic. Jeez.

I guess it’s just a weird dynamic to me. If I take 9 hours to lock myself in a room and watch Netflix, it feels hypocritical to care that other people are also doing nothing productive. But hey, to each his own. If I thought my family would leave me alone for any period of time at all, I’d take downtime too.

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Anonymous wrote:You needed downtime from noon to 9pm without engaging your kid? That sounds weird, OP.

Maybe she needed that time to get work done?

NP. It was ONE DAY. It is FINE to have time to yourself, even that much, as a mom. Especially during a pandemic. Jeez.

OP, What does your DH actually enjoy doing? What are his hobbies?

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live where people are going to the beach and taking little kids out to the store?

That’s what I was wondering, too. Does OP realize this is a pandemic?!

I don't think you can change this. Most of what people suggested sounds annoying to me and wouldn't motivate me to do anything different. Maybe if your DH has interests and things he likes to do, when your son gets old enough to enjoy those activities, they will do more together. Some people are just better parents to older kids.

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband depressed? Because he was interactive before, I’d cut him some slack during this time.

This is definitely a possibility. I’m depressed and having a hard time engaging with my kids like I used too. I’m also incredibly stressed.

Anonymous wrote:You needed downtime from noon to 9pm without engaging your kid? That sounds weird, OP.

Maybe she needed that time to get work done?

Your dh a loser

Where do you live where people are going to the beach and taking little kids out to the store?