Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:59
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
I have no way to judge tone, but from your description, it sounds like she was trying to make a friendly overture and you were stand-offish and snooty. I would have assumed she was making small talk. You turned it into the cat vs. dog issue. I can see the conversation going the same way if you received TP, diapers, or (if you had a dog) poop bags. Actually anything unpleasant like cleaning products, pest control, plumbing supplies, etc., might have prompted a similat response.
She may have been making a snooty dig at ypur pet choice, but with any chance of ambiguity, it's best to respond to the best case scenario. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and by being the bigger person and being friendly to her, you might bring her around.
We’ve been neighbors for years and she has NEVER been friendly. I’ve tried talking to her and she is very short with me. So in the last year I haven’t made any more efforts to be friendly and I pretty much ignore her now.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:54
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
lol, if you live next door you have the same rich person qualifications and possibly the same attitude, so careful.
Cat litter isn't fun. It isn't a new game to play or book to read, or something to pass the time, it's a necessity of pet ownership. My kid says the same thing when we get a package of dog food or poop bags. It's just a boring package when he was hoping for something entertaining. I'd apologize to your neighbor for the misunderstanding before the relationship sours further. You have to live in proximity to one another so you might as well get along.
Actually we’re moving next month so maybe that’s another reason I don’t give a crap and have no filter.
Hopefully you can be a little more courteous to your new neighbors.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:52
Subject: Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
You're insane.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:49
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
I have no way to judge tone, but from your description, it sounds like she was trying to make a friendly overture and you were stand-offish and snooty. I would have assumed she was making small talk. You turned it into the cat vs. dog issue. I can see the conversation going the same way if you received TP, diapers, or (if you had a dog) poop bags. Actually anything unpleasant like cleaning products, pest control, plumbing supplies, etc., might have prompted a similat response.
She may have been making a snooty dig at ypur pet choice, but with any chance of ambiguity, it's best to respond to the best case scenario. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and by being the bigger person and being friendly to her, you might bring her around.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:49
Subject: Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
How in the world did that offend you?
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:42
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
But you live NEXT DOOR. So aren't you close to being just as rich? Regardless, it sounded like a perfectly fine comment to me. You seem nuts. Maybe you always come across that way and that's why she's stand-offish and snooty to you. Maybe YOU are the problem here.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:42
Subject: Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
It sounds to me like she was saying that kitty litter wasn't really a fun package as opposed to clothes or puzzles. But you want to be offended so go on with that.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:41
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
lol, if you live next door you have the same rich person qualifications and possibly the same attitude, so careful.
Cat litter isn't fun. It isn't a new game to play or book to read, or something to pass the time, it's a necessity of pet ownership. My kid says the same thing when we get a package of dog food or poop bags. It's just a boring package when he was hoping for something entertaining. I'd apologize to your neighbor for the misunderstanding before the relationship sours further. You have to live in proximity to one another so you might as well get along.
Actually we’re moving next month so maybe that’s another reason I don’t give a crap and have no filter.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:41
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
Based on this interaction, I think you've been misunderstanding her all these years.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:41
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are nuts.
It’s not fun to change kitty litter. Get a grip.
+1. I would have assumed that's what she meant. Dealing with cat litter is the opposite of fun. I have cats and dogs.
Compared to walking a dog and picking up dog s*** even when it’s raining or cold. Not being able to sleep in ever! Hmmmmm that’s a big no from me. Live in condo btw.
I live in a condo and have a dog. I get up, walk the dog, and then we have what I call "morning nap time" where we go back to sleep. Walking the dog in all weather is a labor of love - I don't mind it. Probably the way changing cat litter is a labor of love for a cat owner.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:40
Subject: Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
I don't understand why you thought she was being rude, OP. She was empathizing.
Are you that high-strung all the time? Your poor neighbor.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:38
Subject: Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:Wow you need to get a grip! And apologize to your neighbor. You have officially earned the crazy cat lady moniker
+1
I understand that sheltering-in-place can make anyone more cranky.....
Yet your response was very rude.
Yes, apologize to your neighbor. 🤝
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:37
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
lol, if you live next door you have the same rich person qualifications and possibly the same attitude, so careful.
Cat litter isn't fun. It isn't a new game to play or book to read, or something to pass the time, it's a necessity of pet ownership. My kid says the same thing when we get a package of dog food or poop bags. It's just a boring package when he was hoping for something entertaining. I'd apologize to your neighbor for the misunderstanding before the relationship sours further. You have to live in proximity to one another so you might as well get along.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:33
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.
Anonymous
05/17/2020 21:23
Subject: Re:Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?
While I certainly appreciate being able to restock in toilet paper because it’s necessary for household sanitation, there are many things I’d find far more enjoyable to receive in the mail. Same for your kitty litter - necessary but far from enjoyable.