Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:59     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Try to let go of needing a man. They are a headache!


I don’t need a man, but I married for companionship and want that again. I like being married and having a husband.

Apparently your DH didn't like the same things in you. So take some time alone and figure yourself out.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:57     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Use the word “ sensual” in your online dating profile and the men will flock. Good men, as someone said, are hard to find at any age. Good luck!


Someone told me to put "with a naughty streak" in my profile and my match rate exploded. Men are fairly simple, rock them in the bedroom and they will treat you like gold.


I'm a woman, but the word "sensual" creeps me out, but "with a naughty streak" would intrigue!!
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:55     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:Half of people are of below average attractiveness*


*Shocking but true!


It IS shocking. Because once you get to know them (provided they are good people) their looks start to go up.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:54     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Try to let go of needing a man. They are a headache!


I don’t need a man, but I married for companionship and want that again. I like being married and having a husband.


I do too, so I get it. But why does your husband want a divorce?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:51     Subject: Re:Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
You sound awesome OP. It might take time, but I'm positive you will find some who will appreciate you.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:42     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:My husband wants a divorce. I’m wondering if there’s any hope for a regular skinny fat chick, no Botox, not great at doing makeup or fashion. I just want a nice guy who actually likes and loves me. Possible?


What men think is "super attractive" and what women think is "super attractive" are wildly different. Men like someone who is confident, happy, and cares about them. That's pretty much it. You don't need to be great at doing makeup or fashion, and you don't need Botox.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:40     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Half of people are of below average attractiveness*


*Shocking but true!
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 09:38     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
I would consider spending some time away from dating and figuring out how you are living your single life before leaping into a relationship, but yes, plenty of women in their forties go on and find boyfriends and even remarry.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 08:04     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:Use the word “ sensual” in your online dating profile and the men will flock. Good men, as someone said, are hard to find at any age. Good luck!


Someone told me to put "with a naughty streak" in my profile and my match rate exploded. Men are fairly simple, rock them in the bedroom and they will treat you like gold.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 07:59     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:As a man, to me, how a woman carried herself and takes care of herself would be more important than how attractive she is.

I have dated some beautiful woman that just couldn’t “get it together”. Just couldn’t carry themselves well in public, always looked “out of place”.


Looked out of place? What on earth does that mean? What does “carrying oneself well in public” mean? She got sloppy drunk?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 07:57     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
OP, the good guys want someone who is a good partner, not just the hottest woman they can get. I have two male relatives who met and married divorced women with kids in their 40's. Both relatives are high earners, one of them ridiculously high earning. Neither of the women is a bombshell. They're decent looking, but that's it. But the big issue is that both women are great partners and wonderful moms and now grandmas several years later.

For the extremely high earner, he had kids from a previous marriage and so did his now second wife. She's educated, involved with the community, and took over a lot of parenting duties for all the kids. She's a wonderful person and he's lucky to have her.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 07:52     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Anonymous wrote:My husband wants a divorce. I’m wondering if there’s any hope for a regular skinny fat chick, no Botox, not great at doing makeup or fashion. I just want a nice guy who actually likes and loves me. Possible?

Totally impossible. Make amends with your husband.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 07:33     Subject: Re:Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
You’ll probably find someone nice! There’s a lot in the middle of the pack. It will be easier for you to find love than if you were a high earning woman or were drop dead gorgeous- you’re more of an outlier then
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 07:31     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
Op - you don’t want a nice guy. You’re not wired to respect a nice guy. Just find another a-hole like the ones you’ve always been attracted to.

Or stay single and realize you simply are not marriage material.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2020 06:26     Subject: Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
As a man, to me, how a woman carried herself and takes care of herself would be more important than how attractive she is.

I have dated some beautiful woman that just couldn’t “get it together”. Just couldn’t carry themselves well in public, always looked “out of place”.