Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

You can go ahead and prod your brothers, but please leave their significant others alone.

My brothers are 19.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

“Let my mother get hurt.” Damn that’s some straight up bona fide managing of other’s feelings. How condescending to treat one’s mother or anyone like an emotional invalid who can’t take care of herself. You must spend a lot of time picking out splinters from that wooden cross you’re carrying all the time.

No, drama Queen, I just love my mother. Reminding my brothers to call her is easy. Trying to follow your ego driven justification for laziness and cruelty is hard.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

You can go ahead and prod your brothers, but please leave their significant others alone.

Right! Exactly.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

You can go ahead and prod your brothers, but please leave their significant others alone.

I wouldn't even respond to a text like that. I fail to see how something like that is my problem or even my business.

Anonymous wrote:Hi Karyn, I’m looping Brad in to this text chain so you two can communicate about this directly. As you know, I am not his secretary, so he is in charge of his own tasks and calendar. I’m going back to enjoying my Mother’s Day now.

This is really rude. First sentence is sufficient.

Ignore.
Later, if asked, say your phone was turned off

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Wow! You should definitely let Mike know how disappointed your mom is! His number is 703-555-1212."

This!!!

That shallow passive-aggressive bit*h stuff does more harm.

Anonymous wrote:"Wow! You should definitely let Mike know how disappointed your mom is! His number is 703-555-1212."

This!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

“Let my mother get hurt.” Damn that’s some straight up bona fide managing of other’s feelings. How condescending to treat one’s mother or anyone like an emotional invalid who can’t take care of herself. You must spend a lot of time picking out splinters from that wooden cross you’re carrying all the time.

Not PP but it's pretty normal for people to be hurt if big days like a birthday or Mother's Day isn't acknowledged at all. That's not rocket science or being condescending.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

Guess what will never change?

DP but who cares? You can spend your life trying to teach your grown brothers some big life lesson or you can send a quick reminder text in the hopes that Mom gets her phone call. People aren't perfect. My sister reminds me, a woman, of upcoming birthdays or graduations or anniversaries in our family because she knows I can be a bit flakey sometimes. And sometimes I remind her of these things if they are on my mind. Life's too short to get upset about these things.

i can understand it is annoying but don't you have bigger life issues to deal with? if not, your life must be nice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

“Let my mother get hurt.” Damn that’s some straight up bona fide managing of other’s feelings. How condescending to treat one’s mother or anyone like an emotional invalid who can’t take care of herself. You must spend a lot of time picking out splinters from that wooden cross you’re carrying all the time.

I don't think this is a big deal at all. Sorry, can't relate. I would have just said "Hey DH, did you call your mom?" and not thought twice about it after that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text SIL to text your DH directly. My brothers need prodding sometimes and I would NEVER text their wives about it.

Nope. Your brothers are grown ass adults. They do not need female prodding. If they choose not to call their mom, that is their choice. Choices have consequences. Get a life, you are not in charge of your brothers.

Sorry, no. NP here and I’m not going to let my mother get hurt on mother’s day or her birthday because my college-aged brothers are selfish assholes. Yeah, I prod them and will continue to do so for my mom’s sake.

Guess what will never change?