What do you mean by LMC - what professions? Are you actually meeting these men and determining that they don’t know what quinoa is? Some LMC trades are quite lucrative. I would keep an open mind, but I guess you are clear on what you want, and what you don’t want.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? This has not been my experience at all.

Describe you're experience and some of us will try to help.

*your. Ugh at my haste.

Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? This has not been my experience at all.

Describe you're experience and some of us will try to help.

What are you talking about? This has not been my experience at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Your pickings on the dating apps at your age are the men who are now divorced but have a good career and money.

I know because I'm one of them and dating single women in their late 20s and early 30s is a breeze.

As an early thirties newly separated woman where can I meet men like you? I can't seem to cross paths with your type on dating apps.

I'm still ok asking out women I meet in public or through friends, but also use the apps. Most women I meet on the apps do have horror stories, but almost say they have met cool, intelligent, men with good careers as well. It's a numbers game is a cliche because it's accurate.

Lots of people meet in their 30's and get married and have kids. OP, try changing the age range from 28-38. I'll likely get flamed for this, but there's something wrong with most guys who are pushing 40 and haven't been married yet.

Join events through either sports, religion, hobbies, etc. where you can meet men who like to do the same things you can. Ask your friends to set you up with guys. You have to approach this like a part-time job. It might take a while but hopefully one of the guys will work out. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there.

I met my soon to be ex husband in graduate school. And yes my career doesn't pay "UMC salary" but I have had the "UMC life" of international travel, intellectual conversations about foreign policy, art books and politics. Its hard to chat with someone who's best trip ever was NYC. Or someone that doesn't know about quinoa.

Anonymous wrote:Your pickings on the dating apps at your age are the men who are now divorced but have a good career and money.

I know because I'm one of them and dating single women in their late 20s and early 30s is a breeze.

As an early thirties newly separated woman where can I meet men like you? I can't seem to cross paths with your type on dating apps.

Anonymous wrote:Your pickings on the dating apps at your age are the men who are now divorced but have a good career and money.

I know because I'm one of them and dating single women in their late 20s and early 30s is a breeze.

Maybe you and OP should meet?

Your pickings on the dating apps at your age are the men who are now divorced but have a good career and money.

I know because I'm one of them and dating single women in their late 20s and early 30s is a breeze.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

Try church.

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Anonymous wrote:Blunt answer - there are very few men in their 30s who have a good education and are single, and the ones left rule the dating world and date younger. I agree if you want to expand your search, date older divorced men.

OP here. Yes. When I change my match criteria I match with plenty of attractive UMC late twentysomethings. My criteria which is 32-39 are all LMC guys or weirdos or losers.

There are a few successful thritysomething men who appear to be UMC but they only want hookups and are enjoying being playboys.

Are there really no newly divorced UMC 30something men? I can't be the only one whose marriage blew up!

The ones I know who had starter marriages are great guys who didn't jump into the dating scene on apps. They met people through work and recreational sports.

OK. That is helpful. My social circle is all women right now or women who have husbands....I'll have to find a way to socialize with more men.

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Anonymous wrote:Blunt answer - there are very few men in their 30s who have a good education and are single, and the ones left rule the dating world and date younger. I agree if you want to expand your search, date older divorced men.

OP here. Yes. When I change my match criteria I match with plenty of attractive UMC late twentysomethings. My criteria which is 32-39 are all LMC guys or weirdos or losers.

There are a few successful thritysomething men who appear to be UMC but they only want hookups and are enjoying being playboys.

Are there really no newly divorced UMC 30something men? I can't be the only one whose marriage blew up!

The ones I know who had starter marriages are great guys who didn't jump into the dating scene on apps. They met people through work and recreational sports.

Is your marriage beyond fixing? Many times people divorce thinking there is something better out there when many times there isn't.