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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your mom‘s distress. There is no asset testing on social security income - it’s based on your age and history of earnings/work. There is no discussion of what you own or finances you have. What kind of vehicle she has does not affect SS qualification or income, just depends on what she’s paid into SS from her prior employment over the years. Has she applied for some other sort of compensation instead of SS that does means testing? Taking SS before her full age will cost her money over the rest of her life, may not be best short term decision if she’s close to full benefits age. Could you fly her out to stay with you for awhile until things can get sorted out? Sounds like there is more to this story, for her to be homeless with nobody around to help her there. Perhaps there are homeless shelters that can help her get back on her feet and offer housing and food?

When she lost her job she applied for everything...unemployment, food stamps, govt financial assistance, social security retirement. She said that she hasn't heard back from anyone except the social security folks. At first I thought she might have been confusing the asset testing with another one of these programs but it doesn't seem likely since she hasn't heard from back from anyone else.

She can stay with me for up to two consecutive weeks each year. To get her here with me permanently would require me to break the lease where I'm at and look for a place that's suitable for us all which will take time and effort. I'm barely staying afloat as is trying to keep up with working from home during COVID-19 with no childcare plus homeschooling and feeding my children daily. It's a lot to have to do all this while trying to help mom. I'm prepared to do the best I can but I cannot jeopardize my own living/financial situation at this point.

She was originally living in CA with her husband and stayed once their marriage broke down. We have no other family in CA.

The homeless shelters near her are all at capacity even more so due to all of the financial hardships in the midst of COVID-19.

I'm also looking into senior community type places in VA to see if I can get her into a reduced rent 1 BR or studio for seniors that are 55+.

Would it be possible for you to move into a larger unit within your current complex? I know most apartment buildings will let you do this as a way to break the lease without penalties.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you focused on getting her car? That makes no sense. That’s expensive and she doesn’t have anywhere to drive to anyway. Buy her ticket to come fly to you and make her quarantine in a bedroom alone for 14 days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your mom‘s distress. There is no asset testing on social security income - it’s based on your age and history of earnings/work. There is no discussion of what you own or finances you have. What kind of vehicle she has does not affect SS qualification or income, just depends on what she’s paid into SS from her prior employment over the years. Has she applied for some other sort of compensation instead of SS that does means testing? Taking SS before her full age will cost her money over the rest of her life, may not be best short term decision if she’s close to full benefits age. Could you fly her out to stay with you for awhile until things can get sorted out? Sounds like there is more to this story, for her to be homeless with nobody around to help her there. Perhaps there are homeless shelters that can help her get back on her feet and offer housing and food?

When she lost her job she applied for everything...unemployment, food stamps, govt financial assistance, social security retirement. She said that she hasn't heard back from anyone except the social security folks. At first I thought she might have been confusing the asset testing with another one of these programs but it doesn't seem likely since she hasn't heard from back from anyone else.

She can stay with me for up to two consecutive weeks each year. To get her here with me permanently would require me to break the lease where I'm at and look for a place that's suitable for us all which will take time and effort. I'm barely staying afloat as is trying to keep up with working from home during COVID-19 with no childcare plus homeschooling and feeding my children daily. It's a lot to have to do all this while trying to help mom. I'm prepared to do the best I can but I cannot jeopardize my own living/financial situation at this point.

She was originally living in CA with her husband and stayed once their marriage broke down. We have no other family in CA.

The homeless shelters near her are all at capacity even more so due to all of the financial hardships in the midst of COVID-19.

I'm also looking into senior community type places in VA to see if I can get her into a reduced rent 1 BR or studio for seniors that are 55+.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re both single moms and you both have limited incomes. Buy her a ticket tonight to come to VA and use her SSI benefits to upgrade to a smaller rental for you, her and your kids.

+1. This is what I would do. I live in LA and rent is prohibitively expensive. She will be better off pooling her resources with yours in VA.

We have a strained relationship and will probably be at odds with each other daily but ultimately I believe this to be the best long term solution. Right now I'm trying to figure out a short term solution which I believe is to get her into a working vehicle asap but I'm trying to figure out the whole registration/insurance situation.

Your mom has nowhere to shower.

A vehicle is the least of your concerns.

Just get her a flight and tell her you guys can figure it out after she gets to your house.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your mom‘s distress. There is no asset testing on social security income - it’s based on your age and history of earnings/work. There is no discussion of what you own or finances you have. What kind of vehicle she has does not affect SS qualification or income, just depends on what she’s paid into SS from her prior employment over the years. Has she applied for some other sort of compensation instead of SS that does means testing? Taking SS before her full age will cost her money over the rest of her life, may not be best short term decision if she’s close to full benefits age. Could you fly her out to stay with you for awhile until things can get sorted out? Sounds like there is more to this story, for her to be homeless with nobody around to help her there. Perhaps there are homeless shelters that can help her get back on her feet and offer housing and food?

When she lost her job she applied for everything...unemployment, food stamps, govt financial assistance, social security retirement. She said that she hasn't heard back from anyone except the social security folks. At first I thought she might have been confusing the asset testing with another one of these programs but it doesn't seem likely since she hasn't heard from back from anyone else.

She can stay with me for up to two consecutive weeks each year. To get her here with me permanently would require me to break the lease where I'm at and look for a place that's suitable for us all which will take time and effort. I'm barely staying afloat as is trying to keep up with working from home during COVID-19 with no childcare plus homeschooling and feeding my children daily. It's a lot to have to do all this while trying to help mom. I'm prepared to do the best I can but I cannot jeopardize my own living/financial situation at this point.

She was originally living in CA with her husband and stayed once their marriage broke down. We have no other family in CA.

The homeless shelters near her are all at capacity even more so due to all of the financial hardships in the midst of COVID-19.

I'm also looking into senior community type places in VA to see if I can get her into a reduced rent 1 BR or studio for seniors that are 55+.

Have you ever considered this could be the solution you’re looking for?

Even if her SSI is only $500/mo that will cover a larger place for your family and her.

You might not even have to break your lease if you move within the building. Plus she could provide childcare which you just said you need.

Unless she was a drug addict or something, why are you so resistant to her moving in?

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a statewide moratorium on evictions in CA (currently) through May 31st. There may be more going on with your mom and her previous living situation (or it’s possible she was taken advantage of). Are you certain that she was living alone?

Are you certain she was working recently?

Regardless of the problems behind this situation I’m not sure a used car would be the best use of financial resources. I would look up resources for transient individuals in the city she’s located in currently in CA and see what resources exist. It may be possible to get a space at a shelter or a hostel. Aside from that it would seem better to spend the money on trying to get her to a city where a family member lives, now that she’s filed for early retirement.

She became homeless right before COVID. Yes she was living alone renting a mother in law type suite. Yes, positive she was working at the airport recently.

Shelters are full. As much as mom and I don't get along I think a move to VA would be in her best interest as a long term solution. I'm just trying to figure out how to help her today/tomorrow/immediately.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you are confusing Social Security with SSI. Your mom qualifies for Social Security Retirement at 65 and there isn’t an asset maximum.

Anonymous wrote:There’s a statewide moratorium on evictions in CA (currently) through May 31st. There may be more going on with your mom and her previous living situation (or it’s possible she was taken advantage of). Are you certain that she was living alone?

Are you certain she was working recently?

Regardless of the problems behind this situation I’m not sure a used car would be the best use of financial resources. I would look up resources for transient individuals in the city she’s located in currently in CA and see what resources exist. It may be possible to get a space at a shelter or a hostel. Aside from that it would seem better to spend the money on trying to get her to a city where a family member lives, now that she’s filed for early retirement.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your mom‘s distress. There is no asset testing on social security income - it’s based on your age and history of earnings/work. There is no discussion of what you own or finances you have. What kind of vehicle she has does not affect SS qualification or income, just depends on what she’s paid into SS from her prior employment over the years. Has she applied for some other sort of compensation instead of SS that does means testing? Taking SS before her full age will cost her money over the rest of her life, may not be best short term decision if she’s close to full benefits age. Could you fly her out to stay with you for awhile until things can get sorted out? Sounds like there is more to this story, for her to be homeless with nobody around to help her there. Perhaps there are homeless shelters that can help her get back on her feet and offer housing and food?

When she lost her job she applied for everything...unemployment, food stamps, govt financial assistance, social security retirement. She said that she hasn't heard back from anyone except the social security folks. At first I thought she might have been confusing the asset testing with another one of these programs but it doesn't seem likely since she hasn't heard from back from anyone else.

She can stay with me for up to two consecutive weeks each year. To get her here with me permanently would require me to break the lease where I'm at and look for a place that's suitable for us all which will take time and effort. I'm barely staying afloat as is trying to keep up with working from home during COVID-19 with no childcare plus homeschooling and feeding my children daily. It's a lot to have to do all this while trying to help mom. I'm prepared to do the best I can but I cannot jeopardize my own living/financial situation at this point.

She was originally living in CA with her husband and stayed once their marriage broke down. We have no other family in CA.

The homeless shelters near her are all at capacity even more so due to all of the financial hardships in the midst of COVID-19.

I'm also looking into senior community type places in VA to see if I can get her into a reduced rent 1 BR or studio for seniors that are 55+.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re both single moms and you both have limited incomes. Buy her a ticket tonight to come to VA and use her SSI benefits to upgrade to a smaller rental for you, her and your kids.

+1. This is what I would do. I live in LA and rent is prohibitively expensive. She will be better off pooling her resources with yours in VA.

We have a strained relationship and will probably be at odds with each other daily but ultimately I believe this to be the best long term solution. Right now I'm trying to figure out a short term solution which I believe is to get her into a working vehicle asap but I'm trying to figure out the whole registration/insurance situation.

Your mom has nowhere to shower.

A vehicle is the least of your concerns.

Just get her a flight and tell her you guys can figure it out after she gets to your house.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your mom‘s distress. There is no asset testing on social security income - it’s based on your age and history of earnings/work. There is no discussion of what you own or finances you have. What kind of vehicle she has does not affect SS qualification or income, just depends on what she’s paid into SS from her prior employment over the years. Has she applied for some other sort of compensation instead of SS that does means testing? Taking SS before her full age will cost her money over the rest of her life, may not be best short term decision if she’s close to full benefits age. Could you fly her out to stay with you for awhile until things can get sorted out? Sounds like there is more to this story, for her to be homeless with nobody around to help her there. Perhaps there are homeless shelters that can help her get back on her feet and offer housing and food?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re both single moms and you both have limited incomes. Buy her a ticket tonight to come to VA and use her SSI benefits to upgrade to a smaller rental for you, her and your kids.

+1. This is what I would do. I live in LA and rent is prohibitively expensive. She will be better off pooling her resources with yours in VA.

We have a strained relationship and will probably be at odds with each other daily but ultimately I believe this to be the best long term solution. Right now I'm trying to figure out a short term solution which I believe is to get her into a working vehicle asap but I'm trying to figure out the whole registration/insurance situation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re both single moms and you both have limited incomes. Buy her a ticket tonight to come to VA and use her SSI benefits to upgrade to a smaller rental for you, her and your kids.

+1. This is what I would do. I live in LA and rent is prohibitively expensive. She will be better off pooling her resources with yours in VA.