We will see my parents next week. They’ve been distancing. We’ve been distancing. Baby #2 is due soon, and they are providing childcare for DC#1. We are all aware of risks and comfortable with them.

My parents are either a two day drive away or a long flight. Mid seventies. I honestly think it will be at least a year - hoping to wait until a vaccine is available. It breaks my heart but it's too dangerous for them given the exposures we would have to take to see each other (hotels/flights). I don't trust myself to travel to them and keep to a six foot distance - I'd want to hug them and so would the kids.

Anonymous wrote:My parents are visiting us sometime in May. They have been staying home. We have been staying home. They will be the first people we see.

I’m considering this for my sons birthday in June.

In August when we have another baby (after quarantining for two weeks after the birth).

I don’t know. My mom has a lung issue and COVID could kill her. They live five minutes away. I will absolutely have to go back to work when daycare opens and then it will be even more dangerous for my mom to see the kids.

Do they live nearby? We see the grandparents every so often but set up chairs 10 feet apart in the yard or on the porch. They stay for a few hours at an appropriate social distance and then go home.

Put away the sense of entitlement. There are families out of work and without food or where the Grandparents or other family members are in the hospital. Tell Junior he doesn’t always get what he wants and when it is safe for society to do so he can visit with the grandparents.

Not in 2 weeks. Probably not before fall tbh

My parents are stuck in Arizona at a time of year when they would normally be back in their Kansas home. They're not that happy about it, because AZ is unseasonably warm this year and it's already close to 100. (normally they'd be using the community pool, but... yeah.)

We were supposed to see them this August in KS, but at this point, nothing is planned. And I love them, but I am not flying to AZ in August. August in AZ SUCKS. There's a reason people snowbird. Plus the long flights from DC. So, no.

We are social distancing. Mother in law 5 miles away doing social distancing (she lives alone). Kids see her regularly. We have no contact with anyone else and neither does she. We both do grocery and takeout delivery which is left on the porch so no other human contact.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents are visiting us sometime in May. They have been staying home. We have been staying home. They will be the first people we see.

So have both been living off the food you've had in your house since March? Or have you been doing grocery deliveries? Getting Amazon and other packages? I'm not saying you shouldn't see your parents, and everyone needs to assess their own risk tolerance and make decisions that work for them and their family, but the people who act like they haven't been in contact with anyone are generally wrong in a lot of ways. Just own it.

This, on all counts, including not saying you shouldn't do it.

But nearly every time I've heard of someone "totally isolated, I don't know how I got it!!" getting COVID-19 (or any contagious illness) during this quarantine, it turns out they did at least one of the following (sometimes more!): physically went to the store at least once a week; didn't go to the store, but got loads of deliveries, like almost every day; went to work (!!-- but it "doesn't count" because they had to); had "social distance happy hours;" traded off custody of their kid; allowed outside workers in their homes, etc, etc.

DS's grandfather will come to the house next week for a couple of hours. DH & I have a court proceeding (virtual, but we still need to go to the lawyer's office), and Grandpa is our only option for child care. No way am I ready for babysitters or child care.

I know where my family has been (basically nowhere) and we are not sick. Grandpa already lives in the middle of nowhere so it's not like he's around people on a normal day-to-day basis, let alone now.

We already had another situation where Grandpa had to step in for a short time a few weeks ago for another unavoidable child care need.

I would not ask a babysitter or drop him off at child care. I feel fine doing this, though I wouldn't ask for more than an hour or two.

This is taking our circle from tiny (3) to slightly larger (4). I'm okay with that.

We are not for awhile. Grandparents have been going all.over.the.place, while we have only had grocery delivery (and been super careful with that) for over a month.

Anonymous wrote:DS will be 7 in two weeks and really would like to see his grandparents.

It depends on how old and healthy grandparents are. But for the small happiness of a 7-year-old, think before putting the elderly in danger.

Anonymous wrote:If you are socially distancing and they are socially distancing then what is the problem?

The problem is that even with the 'social distancing' one comes in contact with delivery people, grocery store employees and other customers, etc, etc. Have you not heard of anyone that isn't an essential worker and is social distancing yet got sick with Covid???