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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's why student who want to defer should not be allowed to do so. They should have to reapply next year.

Yes because they haven't been screwed over enough this year.

Other than missing graduation (which is boring AF anyway), how have they been more "screwed over" than the class of 2021? I would argue the juniors have it even worse. Many fewer times for testing. Missing out on the most important semester for grades into their transript--and now the 2020 class taking away possibly up to 20% of possible spots for top colleges next year.

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I think it's pretty selfish to think that seniors are the only students suffering in this. My junior is at a private school where they are not doing pass/fail, she missed her SAT that she had been training for and then the next two got cancelled as well, her spring varsity season was cancelled and this is one that colleges look at for recruiting, her prospect days were cancelled and she needs to start the pre read process soon with no scores and limited information about the schools. She will likely be fine because she's a recruited athlete and far ahead of her peers in terms of narrowing her college choices but I do feel for other juniors who have been dealing with cancelations as well (junior prom, junior ring ceremony, junior summer abroad trips all cancelled).

Class of 2021 is not in a good position so please don't say they're not "carrying their share of the burden".

Do you realize how tone deaf and privileged this sounds?

People please!! I have a senior who is missing out on the most fun months of school life: senior prank day, final theater production, senior ditch day, prom, graduation. Also at a small private. You know what? She is taking it like a champ, with maturity and grace. More mature than this poster who is obviously a parent!!

Nobody is WINNING on the "who has it worse" in this crisis. Juniors and seniors are both facing big challenges this year and next - it's not a competition. I am so, so proud of my senior who has risen to the occasion and has not complained much at all about losing out. Our school is hoping for a weekend of celebrations in August if it's safe, and DC is holding out hope that we can do that. Otherwise, she is looking forward to college in the fall - however that takes place. She is NOT deferring. DC hasn't made a final school decision yet - so this week is a bit stressful because she has three amazing choices that are all highly ranked. That's a great, privileged problem to have and we know it.

Please put things in perspective and help your junior handle this with maturity. They will all be fine - a little adversity is good for our snowflakes as they embark on adulthood.

It's like none of you read the post this was referring to: Why can't your junior take a bit of the hit? They will get to be a second semester senior, prom, etc. Come on, teach your kid to be a good team member - they need to carry their share of the burden. They are basically getting to skate by on half of what is supposed to be the hardest academic year (open book APs, pass/fail classes).

This isn't about someone complaining, it's about reacting to a parent earlier in the thread being rude and saying things like "carry their fair share" as though they aren't. My junior certainly is taking it all in stride and doing great and not complaining at all. But come on, don't go saying that people aren't taking their fair share. That's rude.

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Anonymous wrote:That's why student who want to defer should not be allowed to do so. They should have to reapply next year.

Yes because they haven't been screwed over enough this year.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's why student who want to defer should not be allowed to do so. They should have to reapply next year.

Yes because they haven't been screwed over enough this year.

So because one kid doesn’t want to start school online in the fall they get to screw another kid out of a spot in a college altogether? How is that fair? Play the hand your dealt.

They are playing the hand they are dealt. Their play is to defer. You act like that is what the seniors want. They want to go to school in Fall 2020. Deferring is a sacrifice.

Why can't your junior take a bit of the hit? They will get to be a second semester senior, prom, etc. Come on, teach your kid to be a good team member - they need to carry their share of the burden. They are basically getting to skate by on half of what is supposed to be the hardest academic year (open book APs, pass/fail classes).

Anonymous wrote:I think most seniors that defer will be taking classes close to home so they will start as Sophomores standing wise. What else would they be doing...job - no travel no.

Anonymous wrote:I think most seniors that defer will be taking classes close to home so they will start as Sophomores standing wise. What else would they be doing...job - no travel no.

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Anonymous wrote:

I think it's pretty selfish to think that seniors are the only students suffering in this. My junior is at a private school where they are not doing pass/fail, she missed her SAT that she had been training for and then the next two got cancelled as well, her spring varsity season was cancelled and this is one that colleges look at for recruiting, her prospect days were cancelled and she needs to start the pre read process soon with no scores and limited information about the schools. She will likely be fine because she's a recruited athlete and far ahead of her peers in terms of narrowing her college choices but I do feel for other juniors who have been dealing with cancelations as well (junior prom, junior ring ceremony, junior summer abroad trips all cancelled).

Class of 2021 is not in a good position so please don't say they're not "carrying their share of the burden".

Do you realize how tone deaf and privileged this sounds?

People please!! I have a senior who is missing out on the most fun months of school life: senior prank day, final theater production, senior ditch day, prom, graduation. Also at a small private. You know what? She is taking it like a champ, with maturity and grace. More mature than this poster who is obviously a parent!!

Nobody is WINNING on the "who has it worse" in this crisis. Juniors and seniors are both facing big challenges this year and next - it's not a competition. I am so, so proud of my senior who has risen to the occasion and has not complained much at all about losing out. Our school is hoping for a weekend of celebrations in August if it's safe, and DC is holding out hope that we can do that. Otherwise, she is looking forward to college in the fall - however that takes place. She is NOT deferring. DC hasn't made a final school decision yet - so this week is a bit stressful because she has three amazing choices that are all highly ranked. That's a great, privileged problem to have and we know it.

Please put things in perspective and help your junior handle this with maturity. They will all be fine - a little adversity is good for our snowflakes as they embark on adulthood.

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I think it's pretty selfish to think that seniors are the only students suffering in this. My junior is at a private school where they are not doing pass/fail, she missed her SAT that she had been training for and then the next two got cancelled as well, her spring varsity season was cancelled and this is one that colleges look at for recruiting, her prospect days were cancelled and she needs to start the pre read process soon with no scores and limited information about the schools. She will likely be fine because she's a recruited athlete and far ahead of her peers in terms of narrowing her college choices but I do feel for other juniors who have been dealing with cancelations as well (junior prom, junior ring ceremony, junior summer abroad trips all cancelled).

Class of 2021 is not in a good position so please don't say they're not "carrying their share of the burden".

Do you realize how tone deaf and privileged this sounds?

Anonymous wrote:

I think it's pretty selfish to think that seniors are the only students suffering in this. My junior is at a private school where they are not doing pass/fail, she missed her SAT that she had been training for and then the next two got cancelled as well, her spring varsity season was cancelled and this is one that colleges look at for recruiting, her prospect days were cancelled and she needs to start the pre read process soon with no scores and limited information about the schools. She will likely be fine because she's a recruited athlete and far ahead of her peers in terms of narrowing her college choices but I do feel for other juniors who have been dealing with cancelations as well (junior prom, junior ring ceremony, junior summer abroad trips all cancelled).

Class of 2021 is not in a good position so please don't say they're not "carrying their share of the burden".

Do you realize how tone deaf and privileged this sounds?

I think it's pretty selfish to think that seniors are the only students suffering in this. My junior is at a private school where they are not doing pass/fail, she missed her SAT that she had been training for and then the next two got cancelled as well, her spring varsity season was cancelled and this is one that colleges look at for recruiting, her prospect days were cancelled and she needs to start the pre read process soon with no scores and limited information about the schools. She will likely be fine because she's a recruited athlete and far ahead of her peers in terms of narrowing her college choices but I do feel for other juniors who have been dealing with cancelations as well (junior prom, junior ring ceremony, junior summer abroad trips all cancelled).

Class of 2021 is not in a good position so please don't say they're not "carrying their share of the burden".

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's why student who want to defer should not be allowed to do so. They should have to reapply next year.

Yes because they haven't been screwed over enough this year.

So because one kid doesn’t want to start school online in the fall they get to screw another kid out of a spot in a college altogether? How is that fair? Play the hand your dealt.

They are playing the hand they are dealt. Their play is to defer. You act like that is what the seniors want. They want to go to school in Fall 2020. Deferring is a sacrifice.

Why can't your junior take a bit of the hit? They will get to be a second semester senior, prom, etc. Come on, teach your kid to be a good team member - they need to carry their share of the burden. They are basically getting to skate by on half of what is supposed to be the hardest academic year (open book APs, pass/fail classes).