NOT tacky. My daughter was just invited to a virtual birthday party!

"Is it Tacky?" is the most commonly posed question on DCUM. I would love to see an entire forum dedicated to these threads.

No, it isn't tacky. Devastated is a bit extreme, sure, but whatever....People get sad about things. I do, don't you?

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Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

kids are allowed to be devastated when this is one more thing on top of a whole lot of shitty things. A child can feel crushed and also move past it and be resilient. I can’t believe a child being upset about a missed birthday when they’re already missing school and friends and family and likely sports or hobbies is being judged as not tough enough.

Devastated to me implies that they are in mourning, and the unhappiness is taking over their lives. Maybe “disappointed” is the word you’re looking for? Again, moderate your emotions.

So based on what seem to be the implications of a single word possibly chosen by a mom you've never met about a kid you've never met whose age and circumstances you know nothing about (all reported second hand), you've decided to go off on someone who isn't even here? Sounds like you're the expert on emotional health, no question.

Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

Having you kid find alternative ways of celebrating and helping them see that there are still things to enjoy about your birthday even when you can't have a party seems exactly like teaching them to be resilient.

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Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

kids are allowed to be devastated when this is one more thing on top of a whole lot of shitty things. A child can feel crushed and also move past it and be resilient. I can’t believe a child being upset about a missed birthday when they’re already missing school and friends and family and likely sports or hobbies is being judged as not tough enough.

Devastated to me implies that they are in mourning, and the unhappiness is taking over their lives. Maybe “disappointed” is the word you’re looking for? Again, moderate your emotions.

Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

kids are allowed to be devastated when this is one more thing on top of a whole lot of shitty things. A child can feel crushed and also move past it and be resilient. I can’t believe a child being upset about a missed birthday when they’re already missing school and friends and family and likely sports or hobbies is being judged as not tough enough.

I’m the tacky police, and I don’t think this is tacky. Send the kid a card!

Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

Says the woman spending her time bitching on an anonymous forum about a Facebook post involving a child. Get a grip (and a life).

The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's really sweet. What's wrong with you OP?

Agreed. The mother is trying to do something nice for her kid’s birthday. Sending a card to a child you know requires very little effort. Posting it on her social media accounts allows people to choose whether they want to participate. I’m not sure why this would ever be considered tacky or something to criticize the mom for.

It's fine. Kids like mail. This is a nice way to celebrate as best they can. If children are concerned about COVID, this kind of thing can make them feel like they are helping out.

I just got myself some of these stamps and they are holographic! https://store.usps.com/store/product/buy-stamps/tyrannosaurus-rex-S_479204

Sesame Street stamps:
https://store.usps.com/store/product/buy-stamps/sesame-street-S_479504

Maybe you can send a few nice stamps as a birthday gift and the child would write back, that could be a fun literacy activity.

I think it's really sweet. What's wrong with you OP?

Not tacky. Kids love to send and receive mail, and it's a good way to learn life skills as well as to practice reading, writing, and drawing.

Why would this be tacky? Maybe the kid is in a bad place because of the quasi-quarantine/school being cancelled/etc and missing his/her birthday just feels like the world is ending? Mom is trying desperately to cheer kid up. Seems like a good mom.