OP, it sounds like you need a break from being the primary parent of your 6 yo. At that age there shouldn’t be these kinds of power struggles because you, as the adult, have the means of managing behavior and enforcing consequences without it. It sounds like you are burning out, though, and are falling into bad patterns with your parenting. Under those circumstances, a great solution could be for your husband to step in so you can get a break and he can get your 6 yo back in track with a cooler head, it that does mean your husband has to fully engage, he can’t just swoop in to defuse one moment in a way that undermines you and then never follow up or take over the situation.