Anonymous wrote:No slurs or epithets directed at people.

The idea that some words can’t be used, ever, because they are indelicate is an offense to human intelligence.

That also goes for the word “hate.” It’s a good word and God himself tells us to hate certain things. You’re going to argue with God?

If my child tells me he hates sin, then sure, I wouldn't correct him. I don't think that's what we are talking about here.

Please teach your kids the correct biological terms for their body parts and don't be afraid to use them. It's so important for sexual abuse prevention and reporting.

Anonymous wrote:I've told the never, ever use the n-word.

Because its "the word that gets you fired" no matter where you are, what you're doing. It means you have to go on an "apology tour" and its >50% chance you come back from it.

If it wasn't this word it would be something else. I guess every society needs one thing to fill this spot.

Excellent reasons not to use the n word

This reminds me of a time a few years ago I was feeling frustrated by the clutter in the house and I was muttering that we had to get rid of all this crap. My then 8-year old's eyes got big and he said, "Mom! You said the c-word!" I was so pleased that his life had been so sheltered to that point that he thought that was the c-word.

Save this thread to look back on in the future, OP. You’ll probably give yourself a chuckle.

Anonymous wrote:Unless it’s a slur, I don’t care. Read the room and be mindful of where you are. That’s all.

I agree with this.

And also, guys? You do realize your kids are using these words, right? Most kids, anyway and certainly the more innocuous ones like poop and butt. I wouldn't focus so much on telling your kids not to use specific hurtful words like the n word or the r word but instead make sure they understand how hurtful words like that are so they wouldn't want to use them or be the type of person who uses them.

We swear sometimes so it sometimes comes out of my kids mouth (4) and then I just tell her there’s a time and place for the language. We don’t use words like “n” or “r” or any other racist, ableist, etc words so she doesn’t elbow those.

We openly talk about pooping and farting in our house. Again time and place— she knows not to go around school saying she farted. But an almost daily conversation in our house is “where’s Daddy?” “He’s upstairs pooping.” Who cares? We talk about our bodily functions so she feels comfortable doing so too...

Anonymous wrote:Unless it’s a slur, I don’t care. Read the room and be mindful of where you are. That’s all.

+1

No slurs or epithets directed at people.

The idea that some words can’t be used, ever, because they are indelicate is an offense to human intelligence.

That also goes for the word “hate.” It’s a good word and God himself tells us to hate certain things. You’re going to argue with God?

I've told the never, ever use the n-word.

Because its "the word that gets you fired" no matter where you are, what you're doing. It means you have to go on an "apology tour" and its >50% chance you come back from it.

If it wasn't this word it would be something else. I guess every society needs one thing to fill this spot.

It’s very middle class to care about shit like this.

I don't allow "Oh my God" or cursing using Jesus or God etc. That's the one I really fight for religious reasons.

This type of thing will change significantly as your child gets older. The language of a 5 year old is different from that of a teen.

My mom is from Charleston, SC. So am I.

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mom from out of curiousity?

My mom did not want us to say: Lie (we could not say that's a lie or you are lying - instead we had to say "you're telling a story"); butt (bottom or fanny or arse instead); fart; doo doo; stupid; nasty; stink; trashy to describe a person; any racial epithet or slur; oh my god or gosh (had to say oh my goodness or gah). From the rural south.

oh and "shut up" (please be quiet instead) and no cuss words of course.