Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 23:06     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Anonymous wrote:Are daycares open?



Some are. Some never closed. Georgia is reopening pretty much everything next week and some states never closed anything.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 22:42     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Are daycares open?
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 22:23     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Anonymous wrote:OP, it is human nature. When someone is going to do something that deep down they know could go wrong, like a teenager with underaged drinking, they NEED to take people down with them. They need the "everyone was doing it" defense to live with themselves if things do go wrong. It is called peer pressure.



So, so true!
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 22:19     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Well our camp with JHU for August just cancelled, so clearly many people think this will be a problem for a while, and I would think JHU might have a clue.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 22:16     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
OP, it is human nature. When someone is going to do something that deep down they know could go wrong, like a teenager with underaged drinking, they NEED to take people down with them. They need the "everyone was doing it" defense to live with themselves if things do go wrong. It is called peer pressure.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 22:12     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Anonymous wrote:Where are you running into all these people to have the same conversation with over and over and every one of them reacts aggressively and starts calling you names?

You live a strange life.


Nah, lots of people in certain circles start having group think and are easily influenced (see: reopen protestors.) Then, if you express an opinion outside the group, they circle.the wagons and work on you to confirm. It's worse here than many other places I have lived.

I just don't say anything when they start to attack, criticize or make fun, or rolls eyes. My SIL from Fairfax does all these things nonstop. If you argue your point they will just keep escalating. Saying , well, we'll see or some other wishy-washy answer has been my best bet.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 21:50     Subject: Re:Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Anonymous wrote:Other parents just feel afraid that they made the wrong decision in sending their own kids back to daycare and camps. Parents today, especially mothers, take everyone else’s decisions as a threat if the decisions are contrary to their own. You see this all the time in small things and pre-corona. You’ve seen it here many times.

Just smile and follow your gut. Know their reaction and attacks come from their own fear.



This.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 21:23     Subject: Re:Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Other parents just feel afraid that they made the wrong decision in sending their own kids back to daycare and camps. Parents today, especially mothers, take everyone else’s decisions as a threat if the decisions are contrary to their own. You see this all the time in small things and pre-corona. You’ve seen it here many times.

Just smile and follow your gut. Know their reaction and attacks come from their own fear.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 19:27     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Where are you running into all these people to have the same conversation with over and over and every one of them reacts aggressively and starts calling you names?

You live a strange life.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 19:25     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
You do you. Hibernate as long as you want. Just don’t expect me to hibernate with you.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 19:22     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
No one I know is even talking about this kind of thing. Places aren't starting to open back up. Its not like school has started - work is not asking anyone to come back.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 19:03     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I NEVER volunteer information on how we are doing or what we are planning during this pandemic. But when people ask if I plan to send my oldest to camp or my youngest back to daycare soon, I just say “no”. I do not say more than that.

And the diatribes begin! I’ve been told I am hysterical, catastrophizing, insane and over-protective. I’ve been reminded countless times of all the way kids die unrelated to COVID 19 (as if that matters or makes one bit of sense).

This is my family and my life. If I want to keep my kids home for the summer that is my choice. STFU.


Frankly, if you're already made a decision about camp, you do seem alarmist and prone to snap judgments that may not stand the test of time.


NP. If OP wants to keep kids home from camp she is not "alarmist and prone to snap judgements." The opposite, in fact. She's paying intelligent attention to the news and seeing the big picture as it's being projected by reputable scientists, who increasingly are warning that summer will not be a time to slack off on distancing.

OP, don't let "I wanna go back to 'normal'" complainers and critics get to you. If acquaintances fume at you for your choices, they're projecting their own frustrations onto you. Their problem, not yours. Just never offer information and be circumspect about whatever you do say. "We'll decide that nearer the time" followed by to stay change of subject.


Nowhere did I say that keeping kids home would be unreasonable. I expect that my kids won't go to camp. But making that determination now is premature, absent a trigger date for payments (which OP didn't mention). As you yourself said, these are just projections. That many people think those projections will be accurate.

There are decisions that need to made well in advance. Absent imminent reasons Op didn't mention, this is not one of them.

You need to learn to read, or understand, more carefully.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 18:52     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I NEVER volunteer information on how we are doing or what we are planning during this pandemic. But when people ask if I plan to send my oldest to camp or my youngest back to daycare soon, I just say “no”. I do not say more than that.

And the diatribes begin! I’ve been told I am hysterical, catastrophizing, insane and over-protective. I’ve been reminded countless times of all the way kids die unrelated to COVID 19 (as if that matters or makes one bit of sense).

This is my family and my life. If I want to keep my kids home for the summer that is my choice. STFU.


Tell them instead of us



A lot of the “us” here on DCUM are doing the same. We are the “them”.

No we aren't. We are anonymous. OP needs to tell the actual people that she's speaking to. Let them then come on DCUM and eye roll someone else...at least it won't be her anymore.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 18:51     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.
OP, if you telling us and not them, then that's why they're eye rolling you. They know you're easy to get to. Toughen up and grow a spine and they will stop messing with you.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2020 18:48     Subject: Enough with the eye-rolls and being called hysterical.

You know your audience, OP:

1. A handful of trolls who have switched from rabid pro-Trump posts to rabid pro-opening posts.

2. A large number of people who scare easily and who have difficulty understanding novel opinions. And in this situation, the first people who say what they’re planning will by definition have novel opinions.

Conclusion:

Choose your words carefully, explain thoughtfully, do not generalize or make extreme or offensive statements.