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Anonymous wrote:When I think about how fast colds and norovirus spreads through a daycare room, I am terrified to think how fast COVID 19 would spread. So the answer for us is “never”. We are dipping into the money we’ve been saving to buy a house to pay a good nanny for the next two years. DS is 18 months.

If you're dipping into house funds, I assume you don't have nanny money upfront.

Can you look into a nanny share or other smaller arrangement?

No, we don’t have the money budgeted for a nanny so we’ll be making up the difference between daycare costs and nanny costs with our savings. It’s okay. We feel very grateful that we have savings.

Hiring a nanny and pulling from savings to cover the extra cost to do so. It's mostly money that would have gone toward vacations which seem unlikely to happen anytime soon.

Our hope is that things will improve some and we can transition to a nanny share with close family friends, but we're prepared to stick with the nanny solo until there is a vaccine if we have to.

In terms of socialization, I feel better about the thought of eventually seeing close friends with kids than doing larger public exposures like daycare, music class, etc. There is so much we don't know about what the future looks like with this, but I just can't envision a scenario where daycare 5 days a week feels low-risk to me.

Anonymous wrote:When I think about how fast colds and norovirus spreads through a daycare room, I am terrified to think how fast COVID 19 would spread. So the answer for us is “never”. We are dipping into the money we’ve been saving to buy a house to pay a good nanny for the next two years. DS is 18 months.

If you're dipping into house funds, I assume you don't have nanny money upfront.

Can you look into a nanny share or other smaller arrangement?

PP your 18 month old only needs you.

Anonymous wrote:When I think about how fast colds and norovirus spreads through a daycare room, I am terrified to think how fast COVID 19 would spread. So the answer for us is “never”. We are dipping into the money we’ve been saving to buy a house to pay a good nanny for the next two years. DS is 18 months.

I’m in a similar position as you, PP. I struggle with thinking my 18 month old won’t get key socialization this next year and a half or two years. I don’t know what to do...

I think I am going to be more cautious re: my parents long term, but we'll have to adjust to go I no back as a family unit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I think about how fast colds and norovirus spreads through a daycare room, I am terrified to think how fast COVID 19 would spread. So the answer for us is “never”. We are dipping into the money we’ve been saving to buy a house to pay a good nanny for the next two years. DS is 18 months.

Yeah, but your kid in theory has to go to school at some point. Are you going to avoid all social activities, playgrounds, etc for the next 2 years? Not trying to be a brat, just genuinely curious. I wish I could wrap my kid in a bubble until there is a vaccine, but I just don’t think it’s possible. I’m hoping to send my LO back to daycare about 2 weeks after it re opens, but I just assume absent a vaccine in the next year, she will at some point interact with someone who has COVID, whether she goes back to daycare or not.

In all honesty, I don’t know what we’re going to do in regard to playgrounds, play dates, music classes, library, etc. I just know that 8 hours a day, five days a week of two room care with 9 other one-year-olds and two teachers feels unsafe to me.

Anonymous wrote:When I think about how fast colds and norovirus spreads through a daycare room, I am terrified to think how fast COVID 19 would spread. So the answer for us is “never”. We are dipping into the money we’ve been saving to buy a house to pay a good nanny for the next two years. DS is 18 months.

Yeah, but your kid in theory has to go to school at some point. Are you going to avoid all social activities, playgrounds, etc for the next 2 years? Not trying to be a brat, just genuinely curious. I wish I could wrap my kid in a bubble until there is a vaccine, but I just don’t think it’s possible. I’m hoping to send my LO back to daycare about 2 weeks after it re opens, but I just assume absent a vaccine in the next year, she will at some point interact with someone who has COVID, whether she goes back to daycare or not.

If our daycare opens before the end of June, we'll probably keep DD pulled until I have DC2 in June. Then we'll probably transition her back to daycare when my husband goes back to work after his 2-3 week paternity leave. Depending on the state of things, we may keep her pulled until October when I go back to work.

When I think about how fast colds and norovirus spreads through a daycare room, I am terrified to think how fast COVID 19 would spread. So the answer for us is “never”. We are dipping into the money we’ve been saving to buy a house to pay a good nanny for the next two years. DS is 18 months.

Anonymous wrote:Our school Safety protocols
-Students enter classroom from fire door (ie, direct access from outside avoiding lobby area and hallways)
-teacher takes child from parent at doorway, no parents allowed in classroom
-before leaving for school each family member must take temp
-student temp taken again before they go in classroom
-nap bedding left in hallway until naptime and then taken home nightly for washing
-no water bottles brought in, they use disposable paper cups instead

This sounds all well and good, but what about the inevitable sharing of toys using hands that have been in the kids' eyes, nose, mouth, etc? I have two boys, and one sucks his thumb constantly. His germs would be on everything that he touches. I know he is not the only one like this. I think all of these safety protocols are good but it seems like the biggest risk is just when the kids play together.

Our school Safety protocols
-Students enter classroom from fire door (ie, direct access from outside avoiding lobby area and hallways)
-teacher takes child from parent at doorway, no parents allowed in classroom
-before leaving for school each family member must take temp
-student temp taken again before they go in classroom
-nap bedding left in hallway until naptime and then taken home nightly for washing
-no water bottles brought in, they use disposable paper cups instead

Anonymous wrote:I put my son back in. The school has very strict safety protocols in place and I felt comfortable with the risk. He is doing really well now, much better than he was at home.

I was unpleasantly surprised though by the handful of people that felt the need to shame me for this decision🙁

What are the safety protocols? And would they work if daycare was mostly full vs mostly empty?

I will send my dd while my husband and I continue to wfh

Probably a month after it opens. It’ll be really hard for us to pay for a service we’re not using longer than that.