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Anonymous wrote:You were doing life wrong if a pandemic quarantine has made your life better.

No, the American way of work was doing it wrong, insisting that everyone needed their butt in an office chair 5 days a week.

And have each child in at least one sport, with practices 2x week and games on weekends, usually to locales over 1.5 hours away.

i used to finish the work week and wish that I could just rest and relax, sleep late, be together as a family and not have to do even more driving and running around. My weekends were filled with taking one DC to one game, DH would take the other. Then I'd spend time home doing laundry, running errands, grabbing something to eat. Repeat.

I do not miss travel sports and interestingly enough, neither does my DC.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way but it's not something I say to others. I'm just quietly enjoying the family time.

OP here. This is what I’m curious about and wanting to put words too. Why is it not? Why is it fine to say this is miserable but not fine to say that I’m finding peace and gratitude? I definitely agree based on the conversations I’ve had and have stopped saying it. But why?

I think because this is a miserable, insecure time for many, who are broke, sick, or dying.

OP here. And yes, the gratefulness that has come with this has been wonderful. Appreciating what I have.

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way but it's not something I say to others. I'm just quietly enjoying the family time.

OP here. This is what I’m curious about and wanting to put words too. Why is it not? Why is it fine to say this is miserable but not fine to say that I’m finding peace and gratitude? I definitely agree based on the conversations I’ve had and have stopped saying it. But why?

I am not "loving" it but I don't feel oppressed by it, either. I'm introverted and quite content with my own company, my family, and the tasks and chores I've created for myself during this time. I'm using my time constructively and I'm a patient person by nature. I feel incredibly grateful we are all healthy and able to stay home.

I feel the same way but it's not something I say to others. I'm just quietly enjoying the family time.

Same.

I wouldn’t say I’m loving quarantine, but I’m adapting quite well to it and don’t mind it so much. I used to be a very negative, anxious person. Lately, however, I feel a sense of peace and gratefulness that I’ve never had before. Thankful that my home is comfortable and safe for my family of 4 (whereas b4, I hated my house bc it wasn’t as fancy or neat as others). Thankful that we have enough food and supplies and that I have the skills to make meals that are nourishing, tasty, economical, and waste-free. Thankful that my kids are bumping along with their online school work and that I no longer have to manage them (or care if they are not overachieving). I no longer buy things I don’t need to impress people I don’t like with money I don’t have. I have been blessed with a lot of economic security compared to most and don’t want to squander that and give to those in need. My values and perspectives have definitely changed and I’m much happier because of it. I miss restaurants and vacations, but I’m finding joy in movie and game nights and group chats with friends.

Absolute, this is devastating for many, and we could die and our parents could die and we could lose our jobs. All those things that I would normally worry and worry about in regular life, I’ve felt released from. Yes, awful things can happen, but it’s making me realize that enjoying current life as best I can is key. Then when a bad thing happens, because it will, I didn’t ruin my good times with worry.

I can definitely relate, OP! Especially your third paragraph. Removing any external expectations about what I should or shouldn’t be doing is really good for my mental state. I’m also an extreme introvert who doesn’t crave much social interaction at all.

TLDR but the answer to your question is no. This sucks.

Anonymous wrote:You were doing life wrong if a pandemic quarantine has made your life better.

OP here. Thanks for all the thoughts so far! This one made me giggle. Yes! Clearly I was! This post for me is about putting things in place to do it right as we ease back in.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am loving it too. I think my whole family will look back on this time fondly. We are all getting along and I am enjoying the slow days.
But I also realize how privileged I am to be able to enjoy it.

It’s also helpful when I put way back in my mind the possibilities of me and/or DH losing our jobs and our parents dying from this. Both of which could happen.

You and your husband could also die. Young people die from it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were doing life wrong if a pandemic quarantine has made your life better.

No, the American way of work was doing it wrong, insisting that everyone needed their butt in an office chair 5 days a week.

You sound lazy.

You sound uncreative.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were doing life wrong if a pandemic quarantine has made your life better.

No, the American way of work was doing it wrong, insisting that everyone needed their butt in an office chair 5 days a week.

You sound lazy.