Anonymous wrote:Sweetest things? Nope, it's creepy.

Define "creepy".

Good for you OP for not responding.

It really is the right thing to do in this case.
I would suggest that you consider also blocking him from your phone, email, etc.

I would be a tad suspicious that he moved on so quickly after breaking up.
Four months later he got married....??!
That was really quick.

I agree - he could have been cheating on you.
But even if he didn’t, I would feel disrespected either way.

OP here. I have remained friends with 2 exes, they are good people and there are clear boundaries, we have exchanged well wishes during this time and it feels nice.

But with him, I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, and I never got a sincere apology, it's not possible to be friends with unsolved issues. Since I initiated the breakup, I didn't want any drama, so I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him.

I guess I just don't believe it was a genuine message that deserves a reply, that's why my first thought was he must have cheated on me, lol.

I'm betting a lot of people are reaching out to people they were once close to, because of the pandemic. It's the sense of things falling down and impending doom. They want to touch base, wrap things up, whatever. I think it's human nature.

Why haven't your blocked his number if you don't want to hear from him?

Sweetest things? Nope, it's creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:I email twice a year with an ex on our respective birthdays. We’re both married and have kids but one upon a time we were the most important things in each other’s lives and that doesn’t disappear entirely when a relationship ends. I’ve been meaning to reach out to him to check in. Why? Because it’s a pandemic and people are getting sick and dying and it makes you reflect on who is important to you. That doesn’t mean I’m about to leave my husband for my ex. It means I still care about him even if we don’t work as a couple.

This is one of the sweetest things I've read in a while.

I agree.

Anonymous wrote:I email twice a year with an ex on our respective birthdays. We’re both married and have kids but one upon a time we were the most important things in each other’s lives and that doesn’t disappear entirely when a relationship ends. I’ve been meaning to reach out to him to check in. Why? Because it’s a pandemic and people are getting sick and dying and it makes you reflect on who is important to you. That doesn’t mean I’m about to leave my husband for my ex. It means I still care about him even if we don’t work as a couple.

This is one of the sweetest things I've read in a while.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, I'd like my ex to reach out and say hi. Probably won't though. I'll just have to stalk him.

"Hi" baby. Stalk me please . . .

Can do, will do.

If you dumped him, it’s a pride thing. If he dumped you, he’s in reality now with his new partner and having regrets. I mean, who knows but it’s good you’re not responding.

Anonymous wrote:I email twice a year with an ex on our respective birthdays. We’re both married and have kids but one upon a time we were the most important things in each other’s lives and that doesn’t disappear entirely when a relationship ends. I’ve been meaning to reach out to him to check in. Why? Because it’s a pandemic and people are getting sick and dying and it makes you reflect on who is important to you. That doesn’t mean I’m about to leave my husband for my ex. It means I still care about him even if we don’t work as a couple.

I like this

He’s happy and wants the whole world to know about it. Don’t waste time analyzing his behavior, congratulate him if you feel like it and move on. If he was a jerk to you, karma will take care of him .

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I'd like my ex to reach out and say hi. Probably won't though. I'll just have to stalk him.

"Hi" baby. Stalk me please . . .

He's looking for an ego boost. Anyone who would get married 4 months after a breakup has serious issues.

He got the ego boost from getting this woman to marry him so quickly, but that's worn off. Now he's looking for it elsewhere. If you respond, he's going to think you're still interested, which will make him feel better about himself.

Ignore.

I would put toothpicks under my fingernails before contacting on ex. Men are usually the ones who do this and it just makes them look weak.