Anonymous
04/02/2020 17:40
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Tell him all money goes into the joint account for you to appropriately spend what you need or you want a divorce and alimony.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 17:37
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
You have a joint account, but asked him for a check. That doesn't make sense.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 17:18
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:OP here
Do you think there is an audience out there for webcam grannies?
Yes, there is an audience for everything/everyone.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 17:15
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
You have no kids and you only ever worked part time for spending money?
I am guessing you are 25 and he is 50.
What adult doesn't take on any financial responsibilities in life and just mooches off someone else?
I am guessing you are 25 and he is 50.
What adult doesn't take on any financial responsibilities in life and just mooches off someone else?
Anonymous
04/02/2020 17:07
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Wait, no debit or credit card? You have problems girl.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 17:00
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:I had a similar issue. We got married during law school when neither of us had any money. Fast forward fifteen years and he was making seven figures while I raised our kids. He couldn’t see the money as anything but his. Now we’re divorced and I get 40% of “his” money.
Lucky!! Not that you didn’t deserve it!
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:45
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
I had a similar issue. We got married during law school when neither of us had any money. Fast forward fifteen years and he was making seven figures while I raised our kids. He couldn’t see the money as anything but his. Now we’re divorced and I get 40% of “his” money.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:32
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have kids? I hope not. If you do have kids, how old are they? If they're at the ages where they have activities, beware--he may start nickel and diming you on their activity costs. Then it'll be complaints about how middle school clubs or field trips are "so expensive." And how high school costs money--all those testing fees! Cap and gown! Etc. Then it'll be about how college application fees are a ripoff, college tuition is too high, etc. etc. Very wearing.
Does he think in terms of how his earning are HIS and not yours together? That's the big red flag. My DH has always, always said his earnings are OUR earnings. Even when I was working full-time. Everything of his and mine was and is combined. The "my money is my money and you need to beg for it" mentality is not conducive to being married. At least, not happily married.
No kids. It’s never been much of an issue till now. Like I said because I never really needed to ask for $ till now. He’s bought me a few luxury vehicles and nice jewelry but for some reason he has an aversion to giving me money.
This is so weird. What are you, his fancy woman?
Actually in my first marriage years ago I drove a luxury vehicle too but that spouse wouldn’t even give me a credit card. I even had to beg for grocery money! He was a 100xs worse believe it or not.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:29
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
OP here
Do you think there is an audience out there for webcam grannies?
Do you think there is an audience out there for webcam grannies?
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:27
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have kids? I hope not. If you do have kids, how old are they? If they're at the ages where they have activities, beware--he may start nickel and diming you on their activity costs. Then it'll be complaints about how middle school clubs or field trips are "so expensive." And how high school costs money--all those testing fees! Cap and gown! Etc. Then it'll be about how college application fees are a ripoff, college tuition is too high, etc. etc. Very wearing.
Does he think in terms of how his earning are HIS and not yours together? That's the big red flag. My DH has always, always said his earnings are OUR earnings. Even when I was working full-time. Everything of his and mine was and is combined. The "my money is my money and you need to beg for it" mentality is not conducive to being married. At least, not happily married.
No kids. It’s never been much of an issue till now. Like I said because I never really needed to ask for $ till now. He’s bought me a few luxury vehicles and nice jewelry but for some reason he has an aversion to giving me money.
This is so weird. What are you, his fancy woman?
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:24
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, interesting how you wrote, "he's worth millions". Just let that marinate for awhile.
I'm not the OP but what the heck? OP mentioned that he's worth millions so that we know that it isn't that they're struggling.
OP, I would hate to be in that situation. You can help your husband by taking over paying bills. Insist on it.
Exactly! I think he is just loving having this control right now. He would never let me pay any bills! I think it’s just another control thing.
Sorry OP but he's always had control over you.
Yeah you’re probably right. I think it’s being out of work right now that’s really making me aware of it..
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:22
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have kids? I hope not. If you do have kids, how old are they? If they're at the ages where they have activities, beware--he may start nickel and diming you on their activity costs. Then it'll be complaints about how middle school clubs or field trips are "so expensive." And how high school costs money--all those testing fees! Cap and gown! Etc. Then it'll be about how college application fees are a ripoff, college tuition is too high, etc. etc. Very wearing.
Does he think in terms of how his earning are HIS and not yours together? That's the big red flag. My DH has always, always said his earnings are OUR earnings. Even when I was working full-time. Everything of his and mine was and is combined. The "my money is my money and you need to beg for it" mentality is not conducive to being married. At least, not happily married.
No kids. It’s never been much of an issue till now. Like I said because I never really needed to ask for $ till now. He’s bought me a few luxury vehicles and nice jewelry but for some reason he has an aversion to giving me money.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:17
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, interesting how you wrote, "he's worth millions". Just let that marinate for awhile.
I'm not the OP but what the heck? OP mentioned that he's worth millions so that we know that it isn't that they're struggling.
OP, I would hate to be in that situation. You can help your husband by taking over paying bills. Insist on it.
Exactly! I think he is just loving having this control right now. He would never let me pay any bills! I think it’s just another control thing.
Sorry OP but he's always had control over you.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:08
Subject: Re:Never knew my DH was so controlling!
OP, do you have kids? I hope not. If you do have kids, how old are they? If they're at the ages where they have activities, beware--he may start nickel and diming you on their activity costs. Then it'll be complaints about how middle school clubs or field trips are "so expensive." And how high school costs money--all those testing fees! Cap and gown! Etc. Then it'll be about how college application fees are a ripoff, college tuition is too high, etc. etc. Very wearing.
Does he think in terms of how his earning are HIS and not yours together? That's the big red flag. My DH has always, always said his earnings are OUR earnings. Even when I was working full-time. Everything of his and mine was and is combined. The "my money is my money and you need to beg for it" mentality is not conducive to being married. At least, not happily married.
Does he think in terms of how his earning are HIS and not yours together? That's the big red flag. My DH has always, always said his earnings are OUR earnings. Even when I was working full-time. Everything of his and mine was and is combined. The "my money is my money and you need to beg for it" mentality is not conducive to being married. At least, not happily married.
Anonymous
04/02/2020 16:04
Subject: Never knew my DH was so controlling!
Anonymous wrote:Maybe he just lost everything and hasn't told you yet.
No silly. Plus his business is still allowed to stay open rt now..