Some people have a hard time remembering this is a business relationship. I would not be happy being asked to pay thousands of dollars for a service I am not receiving. It has nothing to do with how much you like your teacher.

I just want them to restructure it into a donation so I can deduct on my taxes. I've emailed our non-profit daycare center's executive board and they have not responded with an acknowledgement.

They are expecting payment but this seems like an easy way to lessen the burden on all parties. I want them to get paid, but give me something in return. I'll let my accountant figure out the legality.

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Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! OP, we are currently paying FULL tuition, 1,800 a month PLUS paying our nanny generously to watch two children instead of one. It is most definitely tough on our finances. We have paid for March and will be paying for April, and are happy our teachers are getting paid, but don't make it sound like just it's that easy.

The elites rage on.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still paying but I understand the viewpoint. You are paying for a service you aren't receiving and the virus may bring about a lot of financial stress even for those who remain employed.

I am working 12-14 hour days with 3 kids at home to support the support staff in my small office. I'm also paying tuition for a closed daycare. This isn't financial hardship but it also isn't sustainable.

You are making the same salary. How is that financial stress?
Working longer hours at home with 3 kids around is emotional stress, not financial.

Consider that you don't know my circumstances before judging. My salary is usually 50/50 salary and profit-sharing at the end of the year. There is no way we're making a profit since I'm killing myself just to keep people employed. So, yes, a virtual certainty of losing 50% of my usual income is financial stress.

I could ease that stress a lot by laying people off and not paying daycare. Again, I haven't done that, but I'm about to have a nervous breakdown to keep it going. Again, let's all try to be kinder and less judgmental.

It's not a few hundred. It's close to $4000 for us for 2 kids. I mean, think about it. Would my boss pay me for sitting at home doing 30 minutes of Zoom meeting each day? Full salary with full benefits? No. Preschool teachers are no different from the rest of us who work.. we are all employees working and getting paid for delivering goods or services. Don't put them on this high pedestal. Think about it this way. If you were to lose your job tomorrow, can your kid continue to go to the school without you paying full tuition? Remember how much the same teachers love and care for your kid? They aren't doing it for free, my dear.

Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! OP, we are currently paying FULL tuition, 1,800 a month PLUS paying our nanny generously to watch two children instead of one. It is most definitely tough on our finances. We have paid for March and will be paying for April, and are happy our teachers are getting paid, but don't make it sound like just it's that easy.

Anonymous wrote:Omg I’m not whining about it. I know this situation sucks for a lot of people. I started this thread to point out that childcare providers have options other than requiring full payments from families to run their business. I think there are a lot of angry childcare providers on here who are absolutely rabid at the thought that there are other people beyond them who are being hard hit by this pandemic and that not everyone is morally bound and obligated to deplete their savings to pay them.

Whoops sorry, I didn’t mean to say I started this thread. I’m not the OP of this one.

Omg I’m not whining about it. I know this situation sucks for a lot of people. I started this thread to point out that childcare providers have options other than requiring full payments from families to run their business. I think there are a lot of angry childcare providers on here who are absolutely rabid at the thought that there are other people beyond them who are being hard hit by this pandemic and that not everyone is morally bound and obligated to deplete their savings to pay them.

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Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! Try a few thousand. A few thousand that was already a stretch for us each month and that we can no longer pay because we are losing some of our income. Stop with the holier than thou preaching about how families are “quibbling” if we don’t go broke keeping other people employed. I feel awful about this situation, I do. But fixing this should not be put on the backs of working families, many of whom were already struggling to afford childcare in order to keep two parents in the workforce.

Good luck getting a spot when you decide you want to pay. I guess you will understand then.

Yep. Fine not to pay if you're not getting the service, but then your slot won't be held--you'll be scrambling for care when you need it. And if I were the head of the school, I wouldn't be favoring those who abandoned ship when it's time to award spots.

That’s fine. Right now my options are to deplete savings while losing income and potentially go into debt to pay for childcare I’m not receiving or potentially lose my spot. Neither are great options, but going into debt during a pandemic seems like a much bigger risk. I don’t like either option. Stop acting so gleeful that some of us are in crappy situations that we didn’t create.

You didn't create it, but thousands are in the same situation, so don't whine about it! You're not special.

OP, you are really crazy and self centered.

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Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! Try a few thousand. A few thousand that was already a stretch for us each month and that we can no longer pay because we are losing some of our income. Stop with the holier than thou preaching about how families are “quibbling” if we don’t go broke keeping other people employed. I feel awful about this situation, I do. But fixing this should not be put on the backs of working families, many of whom were already struggling to afford childcare in order to keep two parents in the workforce.

Good luck getting a spot when you decide you want to pay. I guess you will understand then.

Yep. Fine not to pay if you're not getting the service, but then your slot won't be held--you'll be scrambling for care when you need it. And if I were the head of the school, I wouldn't be favoring those who abandoned ship when it's time to award spots.

That’s fine. Right now my options are to deplete savings while losing income and potentially go into debt to pay for childcare I’m not receiving or potentially lose my spot. Neither are great options, but going into debt during a pandemic seems like a much bigger risk. I don’t like either option. Stop acting so gleeful that some of us are in crappy situations that we didn’t create.

Who cares if they lose spots. Many fish in the sea. You do you

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Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! Try a few thousand. A few thousand that was already a stretch for us each month and that we can no longer pay because we are losing some of our income. Stop with the holier than thou preaching about how families are “quibbling” if we don’t go broke keeping other people employed. I feel awful about this situation, I do. But fixing this should not be put on the backs of working families, many of whom were already struggling to afford childcare in order to keep two parents in the workforce.

Good luck getting a spot when you decide you want to pay. I guess you will understand then.

Yep. Fine not to pay if you're not getting the service, but then your slot won't be held--you'll be scrambling for care when you need it. And if I were the head of the school, I wouldn't be favoring those who abandoned ship when it's time to award spots.

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Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! Try a few thousand. A few thousand that was already a stretch for us each month and that we can no longer pay because we are losing some of our income. Stop with the holier than thou preaching about how families are “quibbling” if we don’t go broke keeping other people employed. I feel awful about this situation, I do. But fixing this should not be put on the backs of working families, many of whom were already struggling to afford childcare in order to keep two parents in the workforce.

Good luck getting a spot when you decide you want to pay. I guess you will understand then.

Anonymous wrote:how can you say you love the teachers and support them all throughout the year, but once adversity hits your school you quibble over a few hundred dollars to ensure they get paid? I understand if someone is in true financial distress, but if you are still working, how can you do that?

A few hundred?! Try a few thousand. A few thousand that was already a stretch for us each month and that we can no longer pay because we are losing some of our income. Stop with the holier than thou preaching about how families are “quibbling” if we don’t go broke keeping other people employed. I feel awful about this situation, I do. But fixing this should not be put on the backs of working families, many of whom were already struggling to afford childcare in order to keep two parents in the workforce.