Anonymous wrote:I've learned this week that my DH, and his colleagues, do about an hour of work, and seven hours of talking about work.

OMG I've said this about my husband for years and he always calls it "working"! Talking *about* work (i.e. complaining to coworkers) isn't work!

Worry about yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Op, What do you do for work?

OP here. Not sure why so many people asked this on the thread or how it is relevant? I am a software engineer.

Anonymous wrote:I've learned this week that my DH, and his colleagues, do about an hour of work, and seven hours of talking about work.

So true needed this humor today

Op, What do you do for work?

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Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

Why do all wives need to be naggy like this? Let him chill. Why don't YOU do the personal projects? You and my wife may be in cahoots!

Why do all husbands have to treat their wives like sh*t when they carry 90% of the load?

Why do all women pretend they are abused and that they carry 90% of the load?

Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

It's a tough time. I am like you - productive, finishing projects, keeping busy. But, I've been slow this week. I'm worrying about so many things- older family members, my special needs child, whether one or both of us will get furloughed, whether the school year will be a bust. So much more. The weight of it has made it difficult to be myself. I think your expectations are too high. You do you and accept your spouse doing him.

Anonymous wrote:What kind of work do you do?

+1

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Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

Why do all wives need to be naggy like this? Let him chill. Why don't YOU do the personal projects? You and my wife may be in cahoots!

Why do all husbands have to treat their wives like sh*t when they carry 90% of the load?

Some husbands are awesome. Mine is.

I know that - was responding to the a$$wipe above.

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Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

Why do all wives need to be naggy like this? Let him chill. Why don't YOU do the personal projects? You and my wife may be in cahoots!

Why do all husbands have to treat their wives like sh*t when they carry 90% of the load?

Some husbands are awesome. Mine is.

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Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

Why do all wives need to be naggy like this? Let him chill. Why don't YOU do the personal projects? You and my wife may be in cahoots!

Why do all husbands have to treat their wives like sh*t when they carry 90% of the load?

Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

I carefully prepped for the family, buying extra toilet paper in the beginning of February. I told my husband to continue to get more when he did the grocery shopping as 'I think that we would be in for a ride.' He ignored me, sneering at me when I discovered that he had used 1/2 our stock and questioned him. About a week ago said to me "well, you might want to get more toilet paper". I laughed and said "There IS NO MORE ON THE SHELVES". To prove it, my son sent him photos. I did have some stockpiled downstairs but no way it's going to last us until end April or later (I ordered some and they only say "April shipping". I called and they said no guarantees on that either.

While he apologized, this has been a constant problem in 22 years of marriage - undermining everything I try to accomplish, sneering arrogantly at me, calling me crazy, etc. Kids are grown, parents are moving East in October, and I'm OUT!

Anonymous wrote:He has been “working” about 2 hours per day and watching crap TV. I see this as a huge opportunity to so some personal projects. It’s a real turn off to watch someone just waste away. Anybody relate?

Could you imagine if a DH said this about a dw?

You sound exhausting, OP.

I’m kinda having a hard time as well, OP. I’m usually very energetic. I feel sluggish and tired. My body is telling me to rest.