Anonymous wrote:Thanks to DCUM, I started prepping my NF for CV a month ago. I stocked up on tp and sanitizer and meds. I made sure to have all the food we could need for my nanny kids. I bought some extra gross motor toys for the backyard. I bought some indoor art supplies. I researched a homeschool curriculum and bought math games and new workbooks and journals and a reading curriculum (they are 4.5yo twins) and a butterfly kit and gardening supplies so that our science lessons can be focused around nature since we’ll be playing in the yard mostly. Normally they attend preschool 5 mornings a week and their parents have regular sitters who come every Saturday and Sunday, so I cleared my schedule so that I could cover all the childcare they usually have as well as living in if it comes to that.
I work 6:30am to 8 pm 5 days a week with no break anymore and the kids have a full day of positive and enriching activities all prepped to fill that time. I make 100% of the kids’ food and do all their laundry and make some meals for the parents as well and do all the dishes for them too now that they are home all day.
The parents work from home but they sleep in until about 7:30, then come downstairs and have breakfast then work but pop in throughout the day as they feel like it and then usually pop in to put the kids to bed around 7:00, and I go downstairs to do the dinner dishes and vacuum and prep for the next day.
The feedback I have gotten from DB this week:
Annoyance that I didn’t stock up on all the perishables he wanted (not that he asked for, just things he wanted privately in his head)
Annoyance that the kids are making messes (which I always clean up. He’s just annoyed that I am letting them make a mess to begin with now that he’s here to see it)
Annoyance that I load the dishwasher “wrong”
Interruptions during the 20-minute break I scheduled myself when both kids watch one episode of tv so that I can lay down and rest
Pushback on getting the kids to bed a little earlier since they just dropped nap and everyone is ALREADY HOME
The cherry on top is that yesterday morning as I was working with one kid on journaling about the weather. We are using “inventive spelling” and the whole point is to avoid correction or rebuke and instead just focus on letting the child listen for the phonemes that make up the word so that they can build their instinctive knowledge of phonics. The kid spelled “cloudy” “CLDE” which is totally appropriate in this context. DB came in and started to correct the spelling and I said (in a low voice with my back to the kid, and neutrally with no attitude) “Hey don’t correct his spelling.”
DB was FURIOUS that I was “undermining his parenting” and stormed off. He avoided me most of the day and then approached after my 13-hour shift to ask for an apology.
I am so done with him.
Nannies are in very high demand now as daycares and schools are closed. Are you in DC? I would poach you from this family in a second