Anonymous
Post 03/19/2020 08:37     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The Great Recession made me one. My entire industry went away. I am still a SAHM now.

Economically, this week reminds me so much for late 2008 only worse. There is no bottom this time.


This has a cause, and it will end.
You not working for 12 years isn’t due to the economy.


+1. People go back to school and switch professions all the time. It’s possible if you’re motivated. Don’t blame the economy for your permanent unemployment. Also, I have no idea what “there is I bottom” means, but given her likely level of knowledge about how the economy works, I’ll take that assessment with a giant grain of salt 😀
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2020 07:38     Subject: Re:Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Your post should say... is anybody going to be a SAHP because their H is incompetent.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2020 07:13     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:The Great Recession made me one. My entire industry went away. I am still a SAHM now.

Economically, this week reminds me so much for late 2008 only worse. There is no bottom this time.


This has a cause, and it will end.
You not working for 12 years isn’t due to the economy.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2020 06:03     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
OP, you asked if this is covered by leave. Yes, this is the exact situation covered by the coronavirus relief bill passed by Congress and signed by Trump on Weds.

The bill covers paid family and sick leave, but the devil’s in the details. If your hospital employs more than 500, you’re not eligible.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/time.com/5803671/paid-leave-imminent-coronavirus/%3famp=true
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2020 00:01     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
The Great Recession made me one. My entire industry went away. I am still a SAHM now.

Economically, this week reminds me so much for late 2008 only worse. There is no bottom this time.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 23:07     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:F— no! My DH is a physician and yes, I do make less than him but I’m never going back to being a SAHM and the dependence and inferiority that comes with it.


DP here. I would never be without my own income, but in OP's situation I would likely quit that job, ride out this current emergency (possibly with some from-home gigs) and then find a new job that's more flexible. Inflexible hours is tough with little kids.


That's a terrible idea. She earns TWICE what her husband earns. Where do you think she's going to find another job anytime soon?

Everyone who works somewhere will be running out of personal leave and employers will have to deal with it. Restaurants might (will) close, but healthcare industries will have to figure out flexibility for their employees.


No, she earns half what her husband earns.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 21:45     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Yes, this happened to us. DH laid off before CV was an issue, landed a new job then they retracted the offer due to CV (and had to lay-off their own employees), I am the only breadwinner.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 16:50     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:I would make your dh cut back his hours or start working after the kid goes to sleep. This can't all be on you.

Don't quit your job. You don't know what's coming economically.


This is idiocy.

Her DH makes TWICE her salary. If he loses his job the family is screwed. If she loses her job, the family still has 67% of their HHI. That’s manageable especially since they would also have no childcare expenses.

Be realistic!
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 16:46     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:F— no! My DH is a physician and yes, I do make less than him but I’m never going back to being a SAHM and the dependence and inferiority that comes with it.


There's no inferiority in being a SAHM.


If there is in PP's mind, then she's not mentally suited to the role.


True. Having mental problems would be a barrier to quite a few roles including paid ones.

Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 16:37     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:F— no! My DH is a physician and yes, I do make less than him but I’m never going back to being a SAHM and the dependence and inferiority that comes with it.


There's no inferiority in being a SAHM.


Love that you can't even try to argue about the dependence part...

Hey, aren't we all tired of the nonstop coronavirus talk, can we get back to the eternal SAH/WOH battles that usually keep DCUM hopping?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 14:27     Subject: Re:Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Finding a new job now or anytime soon may not be very easy. I wouldn't give up what you have now. Do your best to spread out some leave and have both you and your husband ask for some concessions. Perhaps he can work earlier in the morning and later at night?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 14:01     Subject: Re:Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
My daycare isn't closed. Maybe you can find one that is open and has space since a lot of folks are keeping kids home.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 13:21     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Given the economic uncertainty, I would hold on to any job I have right now.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 13:18     Subject: Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:F— no! My DH is a physician and yes, I do make less than him but I’m never going back to being a SAHM and the dependence and inferiority that comes with it.


DP here. I would never be without my own income, but in OP's situation I would likely quit that job, ride out this current emergency (possibly with some from-home gigs) and then find a new job that's more flexible. Inflexible hours is tough with little kids.


That's a terrible idea. She earns TWICE what her husband earns. Where do you think she's going to find another job anytime soon?

Everyone who works somewhere will be running out of personal leave and employers will have to deal with it. Restaurants might (will) close, but healthcare industries will have to figure out flexibility for their employees.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2020 11:23     Subject: Re:Anyone going to become an accidental SAHP because of corona?
Anonymous wrote:Don’t quit. Just keep taking leave and wait for them to fire you. Most companies are extending leave policies and they won’t fire otherwise good workers who have been having childcare issues.


+1.