Anonymous wrote:We had sex multiple times a day for a week. This quarantine days reminded me of that. We lived in NY. Take out galore. We married within the year. Ten years since and three kids later, we haven’t had sex since I gave birth, four years ago! But somehow we are really happy!

Ummm...he's probably not.

It's not difficult. That's it. You don't wonder if they're going to call or wonder how they feel about you or wonder anything. You just are.

We had sex multiple times a day for a week. This quarantine days reminded me of that. We lived in NY. Take out galore. We married within the year. Ten years since and three kids later, we haven’t had sex since I gave birth, four years ago! But somehow we are really happy!

Anonymous wrote:I love this thread, always wondered what this must be like. OP, big fights before you are engaged are a bad sign. They increase over the years and indicate profound incompatibility. Just run now. It should be like PPs describe: nearly effortless joy in being together. It is a myth that true love is a second career. It only takes your everything when the basics are not in line.

+100

Different, in a good way.

Anonymous wrote:Now DH and I has been good friends for a few years when one day he told me he was considering a new job halfway across the country. Stunned, without thinking I blurted out something like "you can't leave me, I think I might be in love with you!". Well, that got his attention and led to a very long conversation as you might imagine. He didn't take the job and things progressed wonderfully from there and those first few months were very special. We got engaged about 8 months later and married 6 months after that. I'm a very cautious, thoughtful person so what I blurted out was so unlike me but I'm sure glad I did or he might have taken the job.

I think this post wins the thread folks.

Now DH and I has been good friends for a few years when one day he told me he was considering a new job halfway across the country. Stunned, without thinking I blurted out something like "you can't leave me, I think I might be in love with you!". Well, that got his attention and led to a very long conversation as you might imagine. He didn't take the job and things progressed wonderfully from there and those first few months were very special. We got engaged about 8 months later and married 6 months after that. I'm a very cautious, thoughtful person so what I blurted out was so unlike me but I'm sure glad I did or he might have taken the job.

I love this thread, always wondered what this must be like. OP, big fights before you are engaged are a bad sign. They increase over the years and indicate profound incompatibility. Just run now. It should be like PPs describe: nearly effortless joy in being together. It is a myth that true love is a second career. It only takes your everything when the basics are not in line.

We worked for the same company so we kept it very quiet for the first couple of months. We had known each other for awhile which made things easy. We often spent nights together but always drove to work separately. When we'd pass each other in the hall we'd just say hi like business friends do. We were finally "outed" when someone from work saw us walking hand-in-hand in a different city we were visiting. So for the first couple of months it was very low key and secretive even from our work colleagues so we mostly just spent time together which was really nice. We'd spend weekends and a couple of nights during the week together which was great. We've been married a long time and we are very happy but I do miss those early, carefree days with sex 4-5 nights a week.

It was easy and comfortable and exciting. I wouldn't say I knew he was the one early on but we had been friends for a couple of years and I was recently out of a horrible relationship so I kind of thought it was going to be a rebound. And I was his first so I thought he would want to sow his wild oats.

But it was always good. We're both pretty slow risk averse people so we didn't get married for a few years but we have basically never had a very bad period. Occasional disagreements, but we've been comfortable and happy basically every day since our first date.

- married 7 years, together 11

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Anonymous wrote:It was awesome. I've never felt so comfortable dating someone before. It was so nice not to be stressed and trying to make myself into someone I thought he wanted me to be. I didn't have to put a huge effort into it, being with him was just easy and happy. 15 years later, we are still very happy. We are just a good match. It sounds silly but we complement each other so well.

This was us too. Just more comfortable than I’d ever experienced. We both kept commenting that we were more ourselves than ever before in a new relationship.

Agree on this. Just natural, easy, and we can't get enough of each other, then or now.

21 years together

Same here and together for 25 years. Having such fabulous memories of our first few years really helped us through the rough patches we had after kids. I can still get butterflies if I think about it enough.

Thank you. Loving this thread!!

Similar to above.

First real boyfriend (we met at 18 in college). Lots of crushes, but first to go beyond simple dates (kissing only).
Just a pleasure to be together - true then (@18/19 and now (@50).
We treat each other with care and make each other laugh and I am ever so grateful. I still think he’s sexy.
Not that we don’t Pisa each other off!!
Those positives let you work through the crap and joy of life: kids, siblings, in-laws, death illness etc
Wish the same for everyone.

Amazing. DH asked me to marry him after 3 months of dating. Together for 18 years.

Knew each other for over a year, before we dated, slept with each other on the first date, and engaged six weeks later with marriage a year after. Thought I was nuts at the time but it has worked out.

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Anonymous wrote:It was awesome. I've never felt so comfortable dating someone before. It was so nice not to be stressed and trying to make myself into someone I thought he wanted me to be. I didn't have to put a huge effort into it, being with him was just easy and happy. 15 years later, we are still very happy. We are just a good match. It sounds silly but we complement each other so well.

This was us too. Just more comfortable than I’d ever experienced. We both kept commenting that we were more ourselves than ever before in a new relationship.

Agree on this. Just natural, easy, and we can't get enough of each other, then or now.

21 years together

Same here and together for 25 years. Having such fabulous memories of our first few years really helped us through the rough patches we had after kids. I can still get butterflies if I think about it enough.

It was fun and exciting. He was the best boyfriend ever. He's a wonderful husband.