I think my wife feel like this now. I have been swamped at work and (to be honest) have not pulled my weight at home. My last day off was the last weekend in Jan.; since then I have been doing 7x14 hrs. We are working on a huge proposals (I am the lead), which will provide 5 years of employment and probably some nice bonuses. And it ends soon (this will be the last weekend of the killer load). But, I am working these extra hours with no extra pay.

I get home, eat, sleep, get up, shower, go to work. (usually I get dressed).

Typical unhappy WOHM with a DH who resents her!

Look deeply at your own behavior. Why would your DH be so disrespectful to you?

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha sometimes but when I feel that way I just drink a bottle of wine by myself and let him deal with the kids for the rest of the night. Like tonight. Cheers!

You’re just killing your own self there sweetie. Baby that liver, it’s priceless.

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone here ever want to murder their husband? I get so mad with his bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into his head. He is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because he is stressed and unhappy about his work, belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (i also work full time) .... and he knows it and does it on purpose. that's the worst part - i am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack him physically. it will go away but he can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

Just know that 48 Hours will one day have this thread running as a highlight on your episode

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone here ever want to murder their husband? I get so mad with his bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into his head. He is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because he is stressed and unhappy about his work, belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (i also work full time) .... and he knows it and does it on purpose. that's the worst part - i am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack him physically. it will go away but he can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

My spouse got like this as life responsibilities and demands increased. His response was to shut down, not do things, then get mad at me when he let everyone down. He got diagnosed with asd, bipolar, anxiety and depression, but disagrees with all of it. He’s just fine... yeah...

Maybe you make him ill?

Nice try. Unf ASD has ruined many lives in his family and the diagnoses all came crashing together after a terrible accident. Up until then we both thought he was just too stressed at work and maybe had attention issues.

Sounds like the problem runs both ways. He belittles you, and you want to smash bricks into his head and call him an asshole. There is no respect on either side.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone here ever want to murder their husband? I get so mad with his bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into his head. He is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because he is stressed and unhappy about his work, belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (i also work full time) .... and he knows it and does it on purpose. that's the worst part - i am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack him physically. it will go away but he can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

My spouse got like this as life responsibilities and demands increased. His response was to shut down, not do things, then get mad at me when he let everyone down. He got diagnosed with asd, bipolar, anxiety and depression, but disagrees with all of it. He’s just fine... yeah...

Maybe you make him ill?

If your partner belittles you and is passive aggressive that is not a healthy relationship and you need to fix it even if you love him.

This is not ok. Is your husband mentally unstable?
If you think your husband is doing all of this deliberately then you need to ask him why. There must be a reason why he feels that you deserve this kind of behavior from him? This is not normal behavior for a married father.

Does anyone here ever want to murder their wife? I get so mad with her bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into her head. She is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because she is stressed and unhappy about her work, and belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (I also work full time) .... and she knows it and does it on purpose. That's the worst part - I am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack her physically. It will go away but she can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

I know a few husbands who feel the same way about their wives. I'll mention to them the advice about telling their wives to check their life insurance policies.

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone here ever want to murder their husband? I get so mad with his bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into his head. He is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because he is stressed and unhappy about his work, belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (i also work full time) .... and he knows it and does it on purpose. that's the worst part - i am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack him physically. it will go away but he can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

In real life - bad luck is pretty universal.

In DCUMland - a WOHM is a superwoman, whose kids are high achieving, husband is appreciative of her equal contribution, job is intellectually stimulating, marital life is amazing, and household is better run than of a SAHM's.

I really hope that everything else is going smoothly for you. Please take a moment to ponder why you are accepting this behavior and what steps you can take to make your marriage better.

Ask him about his life insurance next time he pushes your buttons.

Chris Rock talk about this in his stand-up comedy show.
You should watch it.

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone here ever want to murder their husband? I get so mad with his bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into his head. He is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because he is stressed and unhappy about his work, belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (i also work full time) .... and he knows it and does it on purpose. that's the worst part - i am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack him physically. it will go away but he can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

My spouse got like this as life responsibilities and demands increased. His response was to shut down, not do things, then get mad at me when he let everyone down. He got diagnosed with asd, bipolar, anxiety and depression, but disagrees with all of it. He’s just fine... yeah...