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Anonymous wrote:You are not alone. A bunch of my friends have this issue. If it is bothering your sleep then work on correcting it but I don't think it is something awful or that you have to change if you are ok with it. Your child will eventually want to sleep in their own bed.

Can you elaborate on this because I find it baffling. A baby has to sleep in a separate crib. Presumably at some point when they start walking, the crib is converted into a child bed or a new bed is purchased. At what point does a child suddenly start sleeping in the parents' bed and why? And why would the parents ever let this happen? I'll jump off my roof if one of my kids were to sleep in my bed

Co-sleeping. Ever heard of it? Happens all around the world that's not the US of A.

No I haven't but now I will google it. And, my kids are all one half european, so, it doesn't happen all around the world.

You sound... dumb.

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone. A bunch of my friends have this issue. If it is bothering your sleep then work on correcting it but I don't think it is something awful or that you have to change if you are ok with it. Your child will eventually want to sleep in their own bed.

Did you even read the original post? OP explicitly said she is NOT okay with it anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:Bribe and sticker chart. She stays in her own bed for a night and she gets a sticker. X number of stickers she gets a toy or more screen time. Whatever her currency.

There has to be something she wants.

Did the opposite here. She wants an xyz and it costs $50. The pot starts with $50 and time limit so she's aware of when she'll get the xyz. When you have an unsuccessful night a dollar or two is removed. After a successful night you talk about what a great job she did.

Do not listen to this poster. Removing the earned reward when there’s a slip up is so demoralizing. Zero sum reward systems are not appropriate.

Worked for us.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone. A bunch of my friends have this issue. If it is bothering your sleep then work on correcting it but I don't think it is something awful or that you have to change if you are ok with it. Your child will eventually want to sleep in their own bed.

Can you elaborate on this because I find it baffling. A baby has to sleep in a separate crib. Presumably at some point when they start walking, the crib is converted into a child bed or a new bed is purchased. At what point does a child suddenly start sleeping in the parents' bed and why? And why would the parents ever let this happen? I'll jump off my roof if one of my kids were to sleep in my bed

Co-sleeping. Ever heard of it? Happens all around the world that's not the US of A.

No I haven't but now I will google it. And, my kids are all one half european, so, it doesn't happen all around the world.

Personally not a fan of co-sleeping but what does the fact that your kids are half European have to do with anything. This happens all around the world no matter what your kids are.

Anonymous wrote:Bribe and sticker chart. She stays in her own bed for a night and she gets a sticker. X number of stickers she gets a toy or more screen time. Whatever her currency.

This. Be very consistent with it.

When my older DD was 3 I’d set a timer for 1 minute. She’d know I’d be back when it went off. I’d sit just outside the door. Then 2 mins so on and so forth until we got to 20 mins. She was afraid to fall asleep by herself but did fine once she was asleep. These days she’s 7. I wish her goodnight and tell her I’ll check on her in 20 mins. Rarely she’s awake, I give her a kiss and walk away. Usually she’s asleep.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bribe and sticker chart. She stays in her own bed for a night and she gets a sticker. X number of stickers she gets a toy or more screen time. Whatever her currency.

There has to be something she wants.

Did the opposite here. She wants an xyz and it costs $50. The pot starts with $50 and time limit so she's aware of when she'll get the xyz. When you have an unsuccessful night a dollar or two is removed. After a successful night you talk about what a great job she did.

Do not listen to this poster. Removing the earned reward when there’s a slip up is so demoralizing. Zero sum reward systems are not appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bribe and sticker chart. She stays in her own bed for a night and she gets a sticker. X number of stickers she gets a toy or more screen time. Whatever her currency.

There has to be something she wants.

Did the opposite here. She wants an xyz and it costs $50. The pot starts with $50 and time limit so she's aware of when she'll get the xyz. When you have an unsuccessful night a dollar or two is removed. After a successful night you talk about what a great job she did.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone. A bunch of my friends have this issue. If it is bothering your sleep then work on correcting it but I don't think it is something awful or that you have to change if you are ok with it. Your child will eventually want to sleep in their own bed.

Can you elaborate on this because I find it baffling. A baby has to sleep in a separate crib. Presumably at some point when they start walking, the crib is converted into a child bed or a new bed is purchased. At what point does a child suddenly start sleeping in the parents' bed and why? And why would the parents ever let this happen? I'll jump off my roof if one of my kids were to sleep in my bed

You're kidding, right? Not everyone uses a crib (which, especially in a separate room, is dangerous).

I would bring out the big guns in this case—a reward each morning if she goes to bed (easily!) and sleeps the night in her own bed and own room. Like a sHopkins or other trinket she wants. Buy 10 days worth of prizes and forget the sticker chart. By day 10 she’ll realize she’s fine.

Agree with PP. Put a mattress or sleeping bag on the floor. She has to sleep there if she comes in. That way she can come in if she’s scared. She will choose her own bed after a while.

If she insists on sleeping in your room, can you put a blanket/sleeping bag and pillow at the foot of your bed, and let her sleep there? Just the reassurance that she *can* come in if she needs it, may help her choose to stay in her own bed. Like having a safety net.

Sometime kids want to be close. And I'm fine with that. As long as they don't wake me up and get in my bed because then I can't sleep.