Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 13:17     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A couple of years into our marriage, I ended up switching to the same schedule and get up at the same time. We go to bed at 9pm, and I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning.


This post confused me. ... "I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning? Have sex? Shower? Read? Clean the kitchen? How is this even related to the questions?


Well, I don’t have sex since my husband is gone. But yes, all of the rest of it. We pretty much go to bed when the kids go to bed. He wakes up at 5:00 to go to work. So instead of staying up until 11 and waking up at 7 to get kids to school and myself to work, I wake up with him at 5am.

So I shower, read, clean the kitchen, fold laundry, watch TV, etc. in the morning.


And it’s related to the questions because this is how we handled the different wake ups.


But you don't have different wake ups. You get up at the same time. Am I missing something?


We have different times that we need to wake up, but choose to wake up at the same time. There is very likely no reason OPs wife can’t wake up when he does. She just chooses to keep sleeping. She could make a different choice.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 11:22     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
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This would kill the spontaneous middle of the night and early morning sex.


Spontaneous middle of the night what now? I understand all of those words individually, but jammed altogether like that I get confused.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 11:02     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A couple of years into our marriage, I ended up switching to the same schedule and get up at the same time. We go to bed at 9pm, and I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning.


This post confused me. ... "I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning? Have sex? Shower? Read? Clean the kitchen? How is this even related to the questions?


Well, I don’t have sex since my husband is gone. But yes, all of the rest of it. We pretty much go to bed when the kids go to bed. He wakes up at 5:00 to go to work. So instead of staying up until 11 and waking up at 7 to get kids to school and myself to work, I wake up with him at 5am.

So I shower, read, clean the kitchen, fold laundry, watch TV, etc. in the morning.


And it’s related to the questions because this is how we handled the different wake ups.


But you don't have different wake ups. You get up at the same time. Am I missing something?
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 10:31     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:I just set my alarm and turn it off as soon as it goes off. Then, I slip out of bed and into the bathroom. I don't think he wakes up.


This is my husband and I. He wakes up at 4:30, I don’t have to wake up until 7. He doesn’t snooze it multiple times and he’s quiet about getting out of bed. At first I used to wake up when his alarm went off but now I barely notice it.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 10:02     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:Great example of why sharing a bed is dumb. Good sleep is way too important. If you have the space, sleep in separate bedrooms. Then when you're feeling amorous, you can be like: "My place or yours?"



This would kill the spontaneous middle of the night and early morning sex. Not to mention requiring planning sex at bedtime rather than letting chemistry do it’s thing while I am half asleep next to DH. No thanks.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 10:01     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:Sleep in different bedrooms.


This. We work very different schedules and our light sleepers. Works well for us. We have sexy time during mid-day when both of us are working from home.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 09:53     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:Great example of why sharing a bed is dumb. Good sleep is way too important. If you have the space, sleep in separate bedrooms. Then when you're feeling amorous, you can be like: "My place or yours?"


This only makes sense if you have a DCUM relationship and only have sex three times a year.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 09:51     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A couple of years into our marriage, I ended up switching to the same schedule and get up at the same time. We go to bed at 9pm, and I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning.


This post confused me. ... "I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning? Have sex? Shower? Read? Clean the kitchen? How is this even related to the questions?


Well, I don’t have sex since my husband is gone. But yes, all of the rest of it. We pretty much go to bed when the kids go to bed. He wakes up at 5:00 to go to work. So instead of staying up until 11 and waking up at 7 to get kids to school and myself to work, I wake up with him at 5am.

So I shower, read, clean the kitchen, fold laundry, watch TV, etc. in the morning.


And it’s related to the questions because this is how we handled the different wake ups.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 09:49     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A couple of years into our marriage, I ended up switching to the same schedule and get up at the same time. We go to bed at 9pm, and I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning.


This post confused me. ... "I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning? Have sex? Shower? Read? Clean the kitchen? How is this even related to the questions?


Well, I don’t have sex since my husband is gone. But yes, all of the rest of it. We pretty much go to bed when the kids go to bed. He wakes up at 5:00 to go to work. So instead of staying up until 11 and waking up at 7 to get kids to school and myself to work, I wake up with him at 5am.

So I shower, read, clean the kitchen, fold laundry, watch TV, etc. in the morning.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 09:16     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
We do shift work. I get up at 5am. I am a light sleeper but set my alarm on a low volume for the radio and as soon as it goes off I turn it off and get up. I lay my clothes out the night before so I can get dresses in the barely lit room. OUr bathroom has a dinner switch so I have that on low so I can get dressed but its not fully on in the bedroom.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 09:14     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
I sleep with my phone under my pillow so that I can hear it but my husband can't. So far, so good.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 09:10     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:A couple of years into our marriage, I ended up switching to the same schedule and get up at the same time. We go to bed at 9pm, and I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning.


This post confused me. ... "I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning? Have sex? Shower? Read? Clean the kitchen? How is this even related to the questions?
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2020 07:09     Subject: Re:Different Wake Up Times
A couple of years into our marriage, I ended up switching to the same schedule and get up at the same time. We go to bed at 9pm, and I do whatever most people do before bed in the morning.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2020 22:33     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Great example of why sharing a bed is dumb. Good sleep is way too important. If you have the space, sleep in separate bedrooms. Then when you're feeling amorous, you can be like: "My place or yours?"

+1. You can have a very strong marriage and still sleep in separate rooms. There are so many reasons why having separate rooms is a good idea. It works great for me and DW.


I always thought having separate rooms was bazaar. However, my boyfriend wakes up at 5 am sometimes even on weekends for work. So I understand it now.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2020 22:29     Subject: Different Wake Up Times
Anonymous wrote:Great example of why sharing a bed is dumb. Good sleep is way too important. If you have the space, sleep in separate bedrooms. Then when you're feeling amorous, you can be like: "My place or yours?"

+1. You can have a very strong marriage and still sleep in separate rooms. There are so many reasons why having separate rooms is a good idea. It works great for me and DW.