Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 22:35     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I will tell you this. You have not got it bad. Try doing this with twins or three under three.

Your husband has a job that pays for you and the baby to stay home and be sick. Let him sleep and work.

Seriously.

And yes, I'm a mom who had 2 under 2 and all 4 of us vomiting at once!


I think you must’ve vomited up your compassion as well while you were at it.


The thing is that pp sort of has a point. There are plenty of times where a sick parent has to take care of sick kids. OP only has 1 baby.


OP is sick, and her husband is laying around doing nothing to help her or her baby. What kind of a human being acts that way?
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 22:34     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I will tell you this. You have not got it bad. Try doing this with twins or three under three.

Your husband has a job that pays for you and the baby to stay home and be sick. Let him sleep and work.

Seriously.

And yes, I'm a mom who had 2 under 2 and all 4 of us vomiting at once!


I think you must’ve vomited up your compassion as well while you were at it.


The thing is that pp sort of has a point. There are plenty of times where a sick parent has to take care of sick kids. OP only has 1 baby.


Yes, but "has to" is the operative word here.

OP should not "have to". Because there is another present healthy parent.

Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 22:24     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Your husband sounds like a selfish asshole.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 22:11     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I will tell you this. You have not got it bad. Try doing this with twins or three under three.

Your husband has a job that pays for you and the baby to stay home and be sick. Let him sleep and work.

Seriously.

And yes, I'm a mom who had 2 under 2 and all 4 of us vomiting at once!


I think you must’ve vomited up your compassion as well while you were at it.


The thing is that pp sort of has a point. There are plenty of times where a sick parent has to take care of sick kids. OP only has 1 baby.


OP WORKS too and her husband is not sick! team OP!


I know. How did this thread devolve in to suffering Olympics. The point is that she’s married and her husband isn’t helping even though he’s just fine. She should not suffer like many here claim as badge of honor.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:54     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 16 years of this

You will get stronger than you ever knew

My kids- lots of illness, chronic disease, adhd, dyslexia, other learning issues, one serious mental health and substance abuse. I was a damn good mom but there’s only so much you can do in your own. Be clear. What you need and when. Leave him with children for weekend away with friend it’ll help perspective. Do twice a year. Cultivate amazing friends. Don’t expect anyone to ever change. Decide to be happy


Honestly why did you get married?
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:47     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
What the heck is going on with this thread. It seems to have people all ready to try out for The Suffering Olympics.
Are you people actually implying that OP shouldn't expect anything from her DH?
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:43     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 16 years of this

You will get stronger than you ever knew

My kids- lots of illness, chronic disease, adhd, dyslexia, other learning issues, one serious mental health and substance abuse. I was a damn good mom but there’s only so much you can do in your own. Be clear. What you need and when. Leave him with children for weekend away with friend it’ll help perspective. Do twice a year. Cultivate amazing friends. Don’t expect anyone to ever change. Decide to be happy


Decide to be happy is what I do too. It makes for an easier life.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:41     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:Try being a single parent

You’ll be fine

Trust me

- signed single parent mom


Unless your husband died, you chose to be a single parent.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:39     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:What's with the hate on OP. She doesn't have to be strong, or go it alone. She has a partner! WTF! OP, go rest! Give the baby and the laundry to your husband. You Don't have to do it all. You can't do it all! Take care of yourself right now!


This! I thought the whol post of marriage was to have a partner for life to share the happy and the crud with and make it easier. I'm sorry OP that hours is clearly not stepping up. Napping when you're dealing with a sick baby is ridiculous. Get through this and start scheduling time when your dh has to take care of baby and household on his own at regular intervals. Go to a workout thing or a weekend away or a work trip. He won't figure it out until he has to.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:36     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Sorry OP, your DH sounds somewhat like mine. Hope your DC gets better soon and that you don't get the same bug.



Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:30     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
What's with the hate on OP. She doesn't have to be strong, or go it alone. She has a partner! WTF! OP, go rest! Give the baby and the laundry to your husband. You Don't have to do it all. You can't do it all! Take care of yourself right now!
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:11     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I will tell you this. You have not got it bad. Try doing this with twins or three under three.

Your husband has a job that pays for you and the baby to stay home and be sick. Let him sleep and work.

Seriously.

And yes, I'm a mom who had 2 under 2 and all 4 of us vomiting at once!


I think you must’ve vomited up your compassion as well while you were at it.


The thing is that pp sort of has a point. There are plenty of times where a sick parent has to take care of sick kids. OP only has 1 baby.


She doesn't have to and that's the point.

H has been OOT when the kids & I were sick. I mustered through. That is not the same thing as a healthy parent being in the house not picking up the slack.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:11     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I will tell you this. You have not got it bad. Try doing this with twins or three under three.

Your husband has a job that pays for you and the baby to stay home and be sick. Let him sleep and work.

Seriously.

And yes, I'm a mom who had 2 under 2 and all 4 of us vomiting at once!


I think you must’ve vomited up your compassion as well while you were at it.


The thing is that pp sort of has a point. There are plenty of times where a sick parent has to take care of sick kids. OP only has 1 baby.


OP WORKS too and her husband is not sick! team OP!
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:09     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Pp here abs crazy travel on his part thankfully we had money so I slowly learned to outsource as needed
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 21:08     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
I’ve had 16 years of this

You will get stronger than you ever knew

My kids- lots of illness, chronic disease, adhd, dyslexia, other learning issues, one serious mental health and substance abuse. I was a damn good mom but there’s only so much you can do in your own. Be clear. What you need and when. Leave him with children for weekend away with friend it’ll help perspective. Do twice a year. Cultivate amazing friends. Don’t expect anyone to ever change. Decide to be happy