Anonymous wrote:Can I ask how many people ask what gift a kid wants for their birthday? Last year I had several parents reach out to me about what my child wanted before her birthday and I felt REALLY awkward answering. I almost felt like this was their way of looking for me to respond that no gift was necessary. Why don't people just get whatever they think the kid would want? I don't get it.

Because they might not know your kid? Even if I'm just getting your 3yr old art supplies, if he'll be more excited that it's a Spiderman coloring book than a Paw Patrol coloring book, I'm going to do that.

I keep a wish list for DD, but don't full-on send it to the parent of a classmate. My response is usually "DD loves to read, so books are always a good choice. Otherwise she is really into dress-up and pretend play with her baby doll these days. So glad Larla can join us for the celebration."

I would find an Amazon list helpful. Gives you an idea of what the kid likes.

Hint: you are not required to buy anything on the list.

Anonymous wrote:OP asked what the kid would like. OP did not ask for a list in the 35-50 dollar range. That's tacky.

Dp. Maybe the list is mainly for family but since op asked they thought it ok to share. OP does not have spend that much money or even choose anything on the list. Just say your kid picked it out. OP is making a big deal out of nothing.

Can I ask how many people ask what gift a kid wants for their birthday? Last year I had several parents reach out to me about what my child wanted before her birthday and I felt REALLY awkward answering. I almost felt like this was their way of looking for me to respond that no gift was necessary. Why don't people just get whatever they think the kid would want? I don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Get with the times OP. You asked her for a wish list so she sent it to you. Did you expect her to have to tell all of the guests, individually, what the kid wanted. She already made a list to why not just send it to you?

If this type of thing bugs you, then parenting is going to be very difficult for you.

Get over yourself!

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+2 A list are suggestions, not mandatory purchases. Use it or don't, no need to complain.
Personally, we love wish lists - no duplicates (leading to returns); and they get the gift (or something similar) that they're hoping for, efficiency win-win for kid and parent.

Anonymous wrote:Get with the times OP. You asked her for a wish list so she sent it to you. Did you expect her to have to tell all of the guests, individually, what the kid wanted. She already made a list to why not just send it to you?

If this type of thing bugs you, then parenting is going to be very difficult for you.

Get over yourself!

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Anonymous wrote:I would pick two of the cheaper items on the list and send those as ideas, along with “or anything! We’re just excited to see you.” I would never in a million years send an Amazon. List to non-family. Tacky.

That is still a list. If an Amazon list is tacky, any list is tacky.

PP here. When DD turned one, one person gave us a baby blanket. Another gave us a 6m dress (probably re-gifted)

Anonymous wrote:I bet this person is from another culture, where people actually buy nice gifts and not some cheap plastic stuff.

Really? I am from another culture and we receive cheap stuff all the time from family and friends. I received expired pasta sauce as a hostess gift. I could not believe it and even started a thread here. I complain and move on. Kind of used to it now since it is always the same people. Cheapness is not based on culture.

I bet this person is from another culture, where people actually buy nice gifts and not some cheap plastic stuff.

I would pick two of the cheaper items on the list and send those as ideas, along with “or anything! We’re just excited to see you.” I would never in a million years send an Amazon. List to non-family. Tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:OP asked what the kid would like. OP did not ask for a list in the 35-50 dollar range. That's tacky.

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-1 OP asked what the kid would like and the parent sent her a lost of what the kid would like. If OP doesn't want to spend $35-50, then she can give a gift card or choose something cheaper that's not on the list. Either way, OP got what she asked for...a list of what the kid wanted.

Since most of the big toy stores are now closed, most people give Amazon (or Target) gift cards anyways. My DS is 10 and for the last 3 years, that's pretty much all he's gotten...aside for re-gifted lego sets.

It works great for us since his birthday is in January and there's usually a pile of Xmas gifts still sitting around mostly unopened. Gift cards let him spread out the gift receiving throughout the year.

My point is...if you don't want to buy from the list, just give him an Amazon gift card.

Anonymous wrote:OP asked what the kid would like. OP did not ask for a list in the 35-50 dollar range. That's tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:OP asked what the kid would like. OP did not ask for a list in the 35-50 dollar range. That's tacky.

Kids like everything, this is not rocket science. Go find a gift for $20 if that's what you want to spend. A game, a few books, whatever. But if you ask, don't turn around and bitch that the price range isn't perfect for you.