Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a mistake, OP.

As pp mentioned above, the big thing will be child support. There is a formula to follow -- with a child, it will be 28% of the higher earner's spouse minus 58% of the lower earning spouse's income, and it will be due until the child is 18 or finishes high school (and in some states it is higher). You will need to file several affidavits attesting to certain things (you're of age, you're of sound mind, you're not in the military [unless you are, in which case the filing gets a little more complicated].) As pp notes above, you will need a witness.


Another thing to consider: You may come up with all kinds of things your MSA that are not enforceable in court. And in 5 or 6 years, you won't be the same people you are now and you or your spouse may want different things. My girlfriend's ex, for example, decided this week to sue her for full custody of their 13 year old (they have been separated for 10 years and divorced for 7). Why? Because he wants to move into a new house and doesn't want to pay child support anymore. He'll probably lose, but it's still going to be a nasty and expensive fight. I realize you're sitting there going, "oh, we would never do that." And maybe you won't. BUT, maybe you will.

Nearly everyone in this process says something like I don't want to involve lawyers. But they know the law -- you don't. And there is a lot of misunderstandings out there. For example, you need to ensure an equitable division of assets including any home, retirement assets, pensions, etc.

Nice try dummy, that's the formula for pedente lite support as set forth in VA Code § 16.1-278.17:1.(C). Reason #5,555,555 not to take legal advice from DCUM.

It's also the formula typically used throughout Virginia now, due to standardized adoption of it in Fairfax. So it has nothing to do with "nice try."

That's for spousal support, not child support. *facepalm*

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a mistake, OP.

As pp mentioned above, the big thing will be child support. There is a formula to follow -- with a child, it will be 28% of the higher earner's spouse minus 58% of the lower earning spouse's income, and it will be due until the child is 18 or finishes high school (and in some states it is higher). You will need to file several affidavits attesting to certain things (you're of age, you're of sound mind, you're not in the military [unless you are, in which case the filing gets a little more complicated].) As pp notes above, you will need a witness.


Another thing to consider: You may come up with all kinds of things your MSA that are not enforceable in court. And in 5 or 6 years, you won't be the same people you are now and you or your spouse may want different things. My girlfriend's ex, for example, decided this week to sue her for full custody of their 13 year old (they have been separated for 10 years and divorced for 7). Why? Because he wants to move into a new house and doesn't want to pay child support anymore. He'll probably lose, but it's still going to be a nasty and expensive fight. I realize you're sitting there going, "oh, we would never do that." And maybe you won't. BUT, maybe you will.

Nearly everyone in this process says something like I don't want to involve lawyers. But they know the law -- you don't. And there is a lot of misunderstandings out there. For example, you need to ensure an equitable division of assets including any home, retirement assets, pensions, etc.

Nice try dummy, that's the formula for pedente lite support as set forth in VA Code § 16.1-278.17:1.(C). Reason #5,555,555 not to take legal advice from DCUM.

It's also the formula typically used throughout Virginia now, due to standardized adoption of it in Fairfax. So it has nothing to do with "nice try."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a mistake, OP.

As pp mentioned above, the big thing will be child support. There is a formula to follow -- with a child, it will be 28% of the higher earner's spouse minus 58% of the lower earning spouse's income, and it will be due until the child is 18 or finishes high school (and in some states it is higher). You will need to file several affidavits attesting to certain things (you're of age, you're of sound mind, you're not in the military [unless you are, in which case the filing gets a little more complicated].) As pp notes above, you will need a witness.


Another thing to consider: You may come up with all kinds of things your MSA that are not enforceable in court. And in 5 or 6 years, you won't be the same people you are now and you or your spouse may want different things. My girlfriend's ex, for example, decided this week to sue her for full custody of their 13 year old (they have been separated for 10 years and divorced for 7). Why? Because he wants to move into a new house and doesn't want to pay child support anymore. He'll probably lose, but it's still going to be a nasty and expensive fight. I realize you're sitting there going, "oh, we would never do that." And maybe you won't. BUT, maybe you will.

Nearly everyone in this process says something like I don't want to involve lawyers. But they know the law -- you don't. And there is a lot of misunderstandings out there. For example, you need to ensure an equitable division of assets including any home, retirement assets, pensions, etc.

Nice try dummy, that's the formula for pedente lite support as set forth in VA Code § 16.1-278.17:1.(C). Reason #5,555,555 not to take legal advice from DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a mistake, OP.

As pp mentioned above, the big thing will be child support. There is a formula to follow -- with a child, it will be 28% of the higher earner's spouse minus 58% of the lower earning spouse's income, and it will be due until the child is 18 or finishes high school (and in some states it is higher). You will need to file several affidavits attesting to certain things (you're of age, you're of sound mind, you're not in the military [unless you are, in which case the filing gets a little more complicated].) As pp notes above, you will need a witness.


Another thing to consider: You may come up with all kinds of things your MSA that are not enforceable in court. And in 5 or 6 years, you won't be the same people you are now and you or your spouse may want different things. My girlfriend's ex, for example, decided this week to sue her for full custody of their 13 year old (they have been separated for 10 years and divorced for 7). Why? Because he wants to move into a new house and doesn't want to pay child support anymore. He'll probably lose, but it's still going to be a nasty and expensive fight. I realize you're sitting there going, "oh, we would never do that." And maybe you won't. BUT, maybe you will.

Nearly everyone in this process says something like I don't want to involve lawyers. But they know the law -- you don't. And there is a lot of misunderstandings out there. For example, you need to ensure an equitable division of assets including any home, retirement assets, pensions, etc.

This is good advice OP. It really depends on how amicable you are with your soon to be ex I guess, but a friend of mine divorced fairly amicably about 5 years ago and now the dad is remarried since last year and suing the mother, my friend, for custody of their 12 yo and 9 yo because he doesn't want to pay child support anymore. You just don't know how things can change in the later years.

Probably a stupid question, but: if the spouse gets full custody of the children isn't he still paying to support them? Are child support payments more than the actual cost of supporting the children?

Anonymous wrote:This is a mistake, OP.

As pp mentioned above, the big thing will be child support. There is a formula to follow -- with a child, it will be 28% of the higher earner's spouse minus 58% of the lower earning spouse's income, and it will be due until the child is 18 or finishes high school (and in some states it is higher). You will need to file several affidavits attesting to certain things (you're of age, you're of sound mind, you're not in the military [unless you are, in which case the filing gets a little more complicated].) As pp notes above, you will need a witness.


Another thing to consider: You may come up with all kinds of things your MSA that are not enforceable in court. And in 5 or 6 years, you won't be the same people you are now and you or your spouse may want different things. My girlfriend's ex, for example, decided this week to sue her for full custody of their 13 year old (they have been separated for 10 years and divorced for 7). Why? Because he wants to move into a new house and doesn't want to pay child support anymore. He'll probably lose, but it's still going to be a nasty and expensive fight. I realize you're sitting there going, "oh, we would never do that." And maybe you won't. BUT, maybe you will.

Nearly everyone in this process says something like I don't want to involve lawyers. But they know the law -- you don't. And there is a lot of misunderstandings out there. For example, you need to ensure an equitable division of assets including any home, retirement assets, pensions, etc.