Anonymous
Post 01/31/2020 10:49     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote: I finally remarried after 25 yrs. First husband was a nightmare(cheater, verbal physical abuse, stingy, controlling, super jealous etc etc etc).. My DH now is generous to a fault, very considerate(wears earbuds if he wants to watch a movie in bed so not to disturb me etc..) , fuels/washes my car, cuz he knows gas stations are my nemesis, I only need to ask him once to do something for me and it’s done asap, not at all jealous( I can wear whatever I want), I don’t have to work but he’s fine if I wanted to work, helps my grown son out financially while he’s in school, (I told him my son got a flat tire & he ordered a new one and had it delivered few days later). These are just a very few examples of how good he is to me, not to mention he’s not a cheater. I trust him implicitly and I don’t trust anyone! We are going on 10 yrs now and I would say we’ve had about 5 major fights and argue every few months if that . But when we have major fights he is such an jerk and blames me for everything and won’t let me get a word in and I pretty much have to be the one to backdown and bring us back to peace because the tougher I get the worse he gets. It just makes me wonder about most relationships and how good or bad are they really? I would say my DH is about 92% great & 8% asshole. What’s really going on behind closed doors in relationships out there??? This is anonymous so please all you women out there tell me the truth of how much of an asshole your man is .. Should I be counting my blessings or what?!


OP, that's awesome! I also have a lousy first husband and an angel of a second husband. I'm so lucky and I love him like nobody's business.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2020 10:48     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are you WEARING at age 60+ that could make somebody jealous?


This made me laugh! Hey I’m not 60 yet and have a damn good figure (37-25-38) that I work hard for at the gym 5 days a week so I’m able to wear sexy clothing still and my DH loves when men trip over themselves staring at me. Where as in past relationships I had to wear a burka to keep the peace! Even to the beach

I'm not doubting OP's fabulous figure! I hope it is awesome. But not sure about the "I can wear whatever I want" comment ... It makes me uncomfortable to think that OP would consider this a selling point on her DH, not a baseline bit of decency.

Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 23:22     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:30% asshole
30% lame
30% gem
10% overweight


Damn. He doesn’t even have a 50% passing grade.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 23:14     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:30% asshole
30% lame
30% gem
10% overweight


This is silly and it made me laugh.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 19:54     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
30% asshole
30% lame
30% gem
10% overweight
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 19:23     Subject: Re:Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:My DH is 50% jerk and 50% good guy. He is totally oblivious to many things that need to get done, he basically expects me to do all childcare and be the maid. However, if he never complains about how I spend my time, or how I spend money. He lets me do whatever I want. I am considering leaving him because I’m basically a single mom, but people think he’s great because he will “support” me in whatever I want to do.


But does he provide all of the income? So he is basically a "single provider." If the spouse spends 60 hours a week working outside the h ome, you should spend roughly that inside the home. Fair is fair.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:02     Subject: Re:Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:There are many thing amazing about my husband. He works 60+ hours a week. Makes very high income. Allows me to stay at home to raise our kid. We have two weekend homes. We drive decent cars. We live in a nice school area. He is a better cook than me. He doesn't complain about work, doing chores around the house, cooking, cleaning, etc. He prides himself on being "an adult" (he's been independent since 18 and we're in our 40s).

But, he can be annoying at times because when he thinks he's right - he's right. I will admit he's very intelligent and smart. But, at times it gets annoying


Yes! That’s exactly where we have a lot of conflict because when he thinks he’s right you might as well give in . Ugh
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:00     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:Maybe YOU'RE the a hole?[/quote


Omg I never thought of that ! Guess I should reassess..
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 16:18     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Maybe YOU'RE the a hole?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 16:04     Subject: Re:Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
There are many thing amazing about my husband. He works 60+ hours a week. Makes very high income. Allows me to stay at home to raise our kid. We have two weekend homes. We drive decent cars. We live in a nice school area. He is a better cook than me. He doesn't complain about work, doing chores around the house, cooking, cleaning, etc. He prides himself on being "an adult" (he's been independent since 18 and we're in our 40s).

But, he can be annoying at times because when he thinks he's right - he's right. I will admit he's very intelligent and smart. But, at times it gets annoying
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 15:32     Subject: Re:Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:My DH is 50% jerk and 50% good guy. He is totally oblivious to many things that need to get done, he basically expects me to do all childcare and be the maid. However, if he never complains about how I spend my time, or how I spend money. He lets me do whatever I want. I am considering leaving him because I’m basically a single mom, but people think he’s great because he will “support” me in whatever I want to do.


Mine is 50/50 too. And for same reasons.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 14:21     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Anonymous wrote:"Can wear whatever you want?" This is weird.


Well it’s just meaning that he doesn’t try and control me and isn’t jealous. My first husband wld get furious if I wore heels that made me taller then him and I had a bf that would get furious if I wore something a little sexy so I guess I have PTSD. It’s nice not to have to bring a measuring tape when shoe shopping and worrying if a blouse is too low. I know I know , I’ve been with some real pips.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 13:58     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
"Can wear whatever you want?" This is weird.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 13:54     Subject: Re:Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
My husband can be closed up and not want to talk to me once in awhile but he is never an asshole. Most of the time he is very loving and he lets me do my own thing. He will say stupid things in front of others that make my eyes roll but that’s just him.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 13:33     Subject: Honestly how much of an Ahole is your man?
Mine is probably about...70% a-hole. I'm doubtful we'll make it, but I always say that and here we are, still together. Partly because I'm a doormat, partly exhaustion because of our small kids, partly delusional hope something will change. And the 70% bad makes the 30% good so, so good.