Anonymous
01/25/2020 23:13
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
What were you doing before you married him? Why no retirement savings or any savings from before this marriage?
Anonymous
01/25/2020 23:12
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Did you sign a prenup? If he wants a divorce and you haven’t been working, you will still be getting a lot of his money.
Anonymous
01/25/2020 23:05
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
I can’t believe how nice everyone is being to this. why do you feel entitled to his money anyway? You’ve been married 8 years, sounds like he had money before you met, He’s been supporting you and you’ve lived a good life. So now he’s a jerk, and you want half his stuff? What makes you so special? Grow up OP and start taking care of yourself. If he wants to give you gifts, fine. Get a job and start saving some cash.
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:56
Subject: Re:Rich husband always threatens divorce
No I don’t have a retirement and not working for the last 9 years hasn’t done much for my social security either. I will have to start selling all the things he’s given to me . Few vehicles, jewelry, handbags etc.. Having to sell stuff is so cringeworthy. Maybe if I was 75 and really unhealthy I wouldn’t feel so vulnerable. ???
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:28
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No was an answer to the question re: greed.
Ty.. He just always makes it about the money and I feel I would feel so much more valuable having some sort of stake in this house especially since I’m the one spending so much time decorating and making it beautiful for us . The fact that he can just kick me out is so depressing. When I refer to the house as “his”, or “yours” etc. Oh boy he gets furious with me . I really have to bite my tongue..
Maybe while you are figuring out your exit strategy it would be a good choice to NOT say things that could end up robbing you of time that you need, kwim?
He does not have you on the house, that is unlikely to change. Comments about it will not cause him to change that recent decision. You need to be realistic. Agree that it is depressing but why make it more likely that he will take other steps in the near term?
Do you have a career that you could restart? Perhaps look to find something PT? How likely is the study that you are considering going to result in a job that will support you? Do you have retirement savings?
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:20
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Do you have any money stashed away?
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:20
Subject: Re:Rich husband always threatens divorce
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you looking for advice or just to blow off steam?
Probably a little of both . But I did apply today at the local college and I’m meeting with guidance counselor.
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:16
Subject: Re:Rich husband always threatens divorce
OP, are you looking for advice or just to blow off steam?
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:13
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Anonymous wrote:No was an answer to the question re: greed.
Ty.. He just always makes it about the money and I feel I would feel so much more valuable having some sort of stake in this house especially since I’m the one spending so much time decorating and making it beautiful for us . The fact that he can just kick me out is so depressing. When I refer to the house as “his”, or “yours” etc. Oh boy he gets furious with me . I really have to bite my tongue..
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:13
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Abuse comes in many forms...in your case, it's financial! Plan your escape and leave within the next 90 days
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:02
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
No was an answer to the question re: greed.
Anonymous
01/25/2020 22:02
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
No.
Staying in the marriage may not be up to you. Sounds like he may be getting ready to file.
Getting a job at 60 is not all thatk easy. See if you can work towards that. In the meantime, I would not rock the boat until you have an exit strategy.
Staying in the marriage may not be up to you. Sounds like he may be getting ready to file.
Getting a job at 60 is not all thatk easy. See if you can work towards that. In the meantime, I would not rock the boat until you have an exit strategy.
Anonymous
01/25/2020 21:57
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Anonymous wrote:who cares what people think, it’s your life. I’m sorry OP, but it’s a tough choice either way, what are you willing to live with and at what cost is up to you, no one can can answer that for you. Take charge of your life, it’s the only one you have.
Yes you are absolutely correct! I’ve always worried about money and when we met I was really in a bad place financially where I even needed to drop my health ins. He paid all my debt off, bought me fancy cars, took me on fancy trips and always so generous, kind and loving. I never really saw this controlling monster. Btw last threat of divorce was because we bought a beautiful beach home & he said both of our names wld be on the deed and my realtor told me it’s in his LLC only. So I questioned that and was very angry he lied to me. he turned it into I’m just about the money etc.. FYI my name being on the deed wld only give me half of the home in the event he proceeds me but zero in the event of divorce.. So basically the home is his in any situation which makes me feel like a tenant.. Am I being greedy?
Anonymous
01/25/2020 21:34
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
who cares what people think, it’s your life. I’m sorry OP, but it’s a tough choice either way, what are you willing to live with and at what cost is up to you, no one can can answer that for you. Take charge of your life, it’s the only one you have.
Anonymous
01/25/2020 21:27
Subject: Rich husband always threatens divorce
Anonymous wrote:Ummm get a job?! Do you have kids? [/quote
I’m almost 60 and I know I can go back to work. I’m just so embarrassed and humiliated to go thru a second divorce.