Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 11:37     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Since marriage doesn’t actually resolve their immigration status I wouldn’t personally worry about them using me. But I would worry about our future.


Is this true. I’ve know four people who overstayed their visas and then got married. Two are now divorced. No one is ruined financially and they all got greek cards and/or citizenship. None were using the citizen for a green card.


Two divorces where no one was ruined financially? That's virtually mathematically impossible.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 08:02     Subject: Re:Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not care. Would you date somebody who was arrested for stealing a loaf of bread to eat?

Driving aggressively would bother me way more.



No I would not date a common thief. You would?


Eh, people date thieves all the time. They just wear white collars.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 07:58     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:Ghetto fab OP


Great! The ghetto fab poster is back. Hey! Can you go check out Urban Dictionary? There have been some new entries since you last logged on a decade ago.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 07:56     Subject: Re:Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't speed, steal bread, enter countries illegally, or "break rules" or laws, so it would not work for me on an emotional level. I would be constantly worried. For me, if his parents brought him in illegally, I would find it hard to trust people that have different values from my own immigrant family, who entered the US legally and became citizens, legally.

But, if you are willing to accept all of the possible risks (financial, emotional, legal, etc), & you feel he is really "the one", you should go for it. Life is short


You don't speed. Sure thing, sunshine.


I truly feel for the people who are illegal because their parents put them in such a bad position as children.

They are in a much different class than people who make a conscious decision to travel here illegally.

Have you heard their stories of what they were trying to escape? If you had dead, rotting bodies outside of your house frequently, wouldn’t you try to get your kids to a safe place?
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 07:54     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:Since marriage doesn’t actually resolve their immigration status I wouldn’t personally worry about them using me. But I would worry about our future.


Is this true. I’ve know four people who overstayed their visas and then got married. Two are now divorced. No one is ruined financially and they all got greek cards and/or citizenship. None were using the citizen for a green card.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 02:35     Subject: Re:Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:I would not care. Would you date somebody who was arrested for stealing a loaf of bread to eat?

Driving aggressively would bother me way more.



No I would not date a common thief. You would?
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 01:53     Subject: Re:Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't speed, steal bread, enter countries illegally, or "break rules" or laws, so it would not work for me on an emotional level. I would be constantly worried. For me, if his parents brought him in illegally, I would find it hard to trust people that have different values from my own immigrant family, who entered the US legally and became citizens, legally.

But, if you are willing to accept all of the possible risks (financial, emotional, legal, etc), & you feel he is really "the one", you should go for it. Life is short


You don't speed. Sure thing, sunshine.


I truly feel for the people who are illegal because their parents put them in such a bad position as children.

They are in a much different class than people who make a conscious decision to travel here illegally.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 01:51     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
It is very possible but is not a sure thing.

Because simply marrying a U.S. Citizen is not an automatic trail to full citizenship.

If a person was truly using you - you likely would be able to tell.
They would treat you like a meal ticket.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 21:13     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Watch 90 day fiance then run.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 21:09     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally

As a long-term visa holder, who has gone through multiple rounds of applications and stress over deadlines, and moreover experienced how immigration lawyers’ mistakes can put my entire life in jeopardy...

I would be shocked that someone would just disclose this.

I would stay well away from him. There is a problem here and you don’t want to get involved.


Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 21:07     Subject: Re:Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:I don't speed, steal bread, enter countries illegally, or "break rules" or laws, so it would not work for me on an emotional level. I would be constantly worried. For me, if his parents brought him in illegally, I would find it hard to trust people that have different values from my own immigrant family, who entered the US legally and became citizens, legally.

But, if you are willing to accept all of the possible risks (financial, emotional, legal, etc), & you feel he is really "the one", you should go for it. Life is short


You don't speed. Sure thing, sunshine.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 21:01     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here, I ask because I was surprised when a guy admitted his status so nonchalantly.


Maybe he was trying to be honest with you.

S/he certainly has nothing to lose and everything to gain. Au pairs are fast to attempt to marry once here.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 21:00     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Ghetto fab OP
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 17:40     Subject: Re:Dating someone not in the country legally
I don't speed, steal bread, enter countries illegally, or "break rules" or laws, so it would not work for me on an emotional level. I would be constantly worried. For me, if his parents brought him in illegally, I would find it hard to trust people that have different values from my own immigrant family, who entered the US legally and became citizens, legally.

But, if you are willing to accept all of the possible risks (financial, emotional, legal, etc), & you feel he is really "the one", you should go for it. Life is short
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2020 16:03     Subject: Dating someone not in the country legally
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Since marriage doesn’t actually resolve their immigration status I wouldn’t personally worry about them using me. But I would worry about our future.


It can. And it can destroy you financially if you are part of getting someone permanent status and they later divorce you.

Other than that, I keep people out of my life who casually violate the law.


It really can’t if they’re already here illegally.


If she sponsors him as a permanent resident, then any government benefits he subsequently files for she can be on the hook for.

She can but most likely won't. I haven't.If you are in DC you are in luck. DC government can't put 2 and 2 together.