Anonymous wrote:Someone mentioned "the rules" on here 6 months ago, and I had a vague recollection from a million years about it. So I googled it and ended up on Amazon and could "look inside" the book.... and holy mother of god I can't believe that book was 25 years ago and not 80 years ago. And I can't believe that was passed off as a viable life strategy in the 90s. I remember being in High School and watching Oprah after school one day with my mom, and this was the subject, and somehow it was just a regular subject for discussion. It is horrifying in hindsight. OP, if that's your thing, fine. But i'd guess that system is going to statistically lead you to failed or shitty relationships. But you do you.

GenX was subjected to so much trash. (Not that we're unique in this.) I hope we're raising our kids with better perspectives on how to interact with people.

Keep in mind The Rules is female version of Red Pill, and some claim Red Pill mentality is a direct response to Rules. Do either of these still sound like a good idea?

OP, we are probably about the same age. My dear friend went through a nasty divorce last year of her (now ex) husband with whom she had been together since freshman year of college. Point being that not only was she back on the dating scene after a long while, she had not even been on it very long in the first place before she partnered up. What she was most surprised and upset by at first was that she would seem to make a connection with a guy, have sex, and then he would ghost her. This happened to her twice and she was devastated all over because it re-ignited her insecurities that the divorce caused. Anyway, she developed a thicker skin and decided to mentally treat those as necessary flings and to be very slow with future dates. That is what works for her and you will figure out what works for you.

I’m a millennial and I was a “rules girl.” The rules still apply. User men hate high expectations women. Be demanding and screen them out.

Everyone said I was “high maintenance.” Fine with me. All the “cool” girls got treated like garbage by men.

There are no rules. Just do what you are comfortable with.

Someone mentioned "the rules" on here 6 months ago, and I had a vague recollection from a million years about it. So I googled it and ended up on Amazon and could "look inside" the book.... and holy mother of god I can't believe that book was 25 years ago and not 80 years ago. And I can't believe that was passed off as a viable life strategy in the 90s. I remember being in High School and watching Oprah after school one day with my mom, and this was the subject, and somehow it was just a regular subject for discussion. It is horrifying in hindsight. OP, if that's your thing, fine. But i'd guess that system is going to statistically lead you to failed or shitty relationships. But you do you.

The rules have been around forever

I've never heard of "The Rules," and after looking at the Wiki link someone posted I'd say if that's what you want to stick with then go for it. You're grown, do what you want!! You're also older and wiser so take all that with you on these dates.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s a “rules girl”

Ok, Millenial.

Ha ha good one!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rules

Anonymous wrote:What’s a “rules girl”

Ok, Millenial.

If a woman sleeps with you on the first date it doesn’t mean she’s a slut but it might mean she’s not taking you seriously.

What’s a “rules girl”

Anonymous wrote:3rd date rule has changed to a 2 date rule

I agree. Most women I've been with in the last ten years had sex with me on first date, the rest were second date if the first date went well. It's been a long time since a woman explained to me about the not-before-3rd-date rule to not look like slut, or something. And she rushed through those first dates as fast as she could. Seriously, I was willing to wait a bit longer and expected to wait until after a few more dates.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe a fun fling could be nice after a horrible marriage/divorce

+1. Why aren't you looking at THEM as a nice fun fling?? Fling it, baby!

Maybe a fun fling could be nice after a horrible marriage/divorce