Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cool. I'm 51 with several divorced friends who have met and got engaged to 50-60 y.o. divorced men they met via dating apps.

None of these men are the least bit appealing to me — distracting OCD tendencies, troubled and dramatic teens, saggy man bits-meets-financial problems, etc.

However, all of the guys *seem* decent on paper. Like if I were to describe them to you differently, it would sound like I'm making OP's point for her. (in-shape, successful architect! funny, charming professor!)

But they'd still be OCD saggy b@ll$ in the poorhouse underneath.

The balls are not materially different in the 50s. Even 60s.

PP here. I beg to differ. Both as a woman who dates and sees them on occasion and as a healthcare provider who sees them weekly.

Skin is skin. Some ppl's skin ages more slowly than other ppl's skin, I'll grant you that.

Mine certainly aren’t any different. Mid 50s. I’d notice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cool. I'm 51 with several divorced friends who have met and got engaged to 50-60 y.o. divorced men they met via dating apps.

None of these men are the least bit appealing to me — distracting OCD tendencies, troubled and dramatic teens, saggy man bits-meets-financial problems, etc.

However, all of the guys *seem* decent on paper. Like if I were to describe them to you differently, it would sound like I'm making OP's point for her. (in-shape, successful architect! funny, charming professor!)

But they'd still be OCD saggy b@ll$ in the poorhouse underneath.

The balls are not materially different in the 50s. Even 60s.

PP here. I beg to differ. Both as a woman who dates and sees them on occasion and as a healthcare provider who sees them weekly.

Skin is skin. Some ppl's skin ages more slowly than other ppl's skin, I'll grant you that.

Anonymous wrote:Cool. I'm 51 with several divorced friends who have met and got engaged to 50-60 y.o. divorced men they met via dating apps.

None of these men are the least bit appealing to me — distracting OCD tendencies, troubled and dramatic teens, saggy man bits-meets-financial problems, etc.

However, all of the guys *seem* decent on paper. Like if I were to describe them to you differently, it would sound like I'm making OP's point for her. (in-shape, successful architect! funny, charming professor!)

But they'd still be OCD saggy b@ll$ in the poorhouse underneath.

The balls are not materially different in the 50s. Even 60s.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:46 with teenagers. Never had a problem finding 30-something men for fun or men closer to my age for LTR. And in case anyone is wondering, I am not a perfect 10 and could stand to lose a few pounds. I am, however, very happy and comfortable with who I am.

I run away from women like that. I don't find anything appealing about a mid-40s mom who liked to be made airtight by young dudes every other weekend.

Guy here. Same.

Cool. I'm 51 with several divorced friends who have met and got engaged to 50-60 y.o. divorced men they met via dating apps.

None of these men are the least bit appealing to me — distracting OCD tendencies, troubled and dramatic teens, saggy man bits-meets-financial problems, etc.

However, all of the guys *seem* decent on paper. Like if I were to describe them to you differently, it would sound like I'm making OP's point for her. (in-shape, successful architect! funny, charming professor!)

But they'd still be OCD saggy b@ll$ in the poorhouse underneath.

Anonymous wrote:It's because you're not looking to remarry. You're looking to have a good time.

Very different than women in your situation who are looking for a long-term life partner.

Really? I divorced at 47 with kids and got remarried at 49.

I am a 55 YO divorced father and have enjoyed dating single moms in their late 40s and early 50s.

They are usually in one of two groups:

Only looking to date - Most women in this group had younger children (e.g., kids from 7th to 10th grade) and were not looking for an LTR. Instead, they wanted a steady guy for the days when they did not have physical custody. They were tremendous fun and, by far and away, the most adventurous lovers since they wanted to make the most of the time they had when their kids were not around.

Looking for an LTR - Most women in this group and older children (e.g., kids who could drive or were in college). They had fewer restrictions on their time since, even when the kids were with them, the kids could drive themselves to their events.

I think that the women who were only looking to date would be open to LTRs once their kids were out of the house, but they did not want to add the complexity of a step-parent when their kids were close (i.e., less than five years) to leaving for college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:46 with teenagers. Never had a problem finding 30-something men for fun or men closer to my age for LTR. And in case anyone is wondering, I am not a perfect 10 and could stand to lose a few pounds. I am, however, very happy and comfortable with who I am.

I run away from women like that. I don't find anything appealing about a mid-40s mom who liked to be made airtight by young dudes every other weekend.

You are not what she is looking for but thank for your thoughts.

Anonymous wrote:46 with teenagers. Never had a problem finding 30-something men for fun or men closer to my age for LTR. And in case anyone is wondering, I am not a perfect 10 and could stand to lose a few pounds. I am, however, very happy and comfortable with who I am.

I run away from women like that. I don't find anything appealing about a mid-40s mom who liked to be made airtight by young dudes every other weekend.

Good news ladies — women of any age will never have a problem finding guys who want to have sex with them!

Anonymous wrote:I used to believe women in their 30s had a hard time dating. That thinking and social pressure is what made me get married at 32. Stupid.

Now all I hear is no one wants to date a woman in her 40s with kids. I am early 40s now with kids. I have had no problems at all. In fact, with dating apps it is easier than in my 20s! I wish people would stop saying these things to women. I am not looking to remarry ever.

Are other women my are having the same experience? It is like I want to yell at people to stop with the outdated thinking. I never would have entered the wrong marriage to begin with if I knew how it would actually be.

I had no trouble dating, except my own attitude which was “Do I really want to do this?”. I met DH during a break from dating.

There are a lot of men out there who are happy to date women in their 40s with kids. Many different types of men. If a specific man isn’t interested, there are plenty others who are.

I’m 44, two elementary school kids and I dated. It wasn’t fantastic but now I’m happy in a ltr. It is possible!!!

I agree op. I am 43 and childless and now in an LTR but from 40-42 met and dated lots of great guys with the help of online dating. Had several short term relationships until I met my current bf. I stayed in a mediocre relationship for years of my thirties for fear of dismal prospects.

46 with teenagers. Never had a problem finding 30-something men for fun or men closer to my age for LTR. And in case anyone is wondering, I am not a perfect 10 and could stand to lose a few pounds. I am, however, very happy and comfortable with who I am.

I’m 40 with three kids. No problem finding a LTR either.