Anonymous
01/10/2020 12:32
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Does anyone want to commiserate anonymously about the experience? I have shown as much restraint as I can muster and let DD lead the discussion which has been minimal before she intentionally shits it down. I sincerely hope she keeps an open mind after the last cut from 11 sororities down to 3 today. My only information is that these are not the 3 where she thought she had the best connection. One friend thinks there were computer-generated GPA cuts last PM which could partly explain the outcome. I have friends whose daughters are also rushing but we are avoiding the details this week as the results are all over the place.
Experienced parents, will you share advice for parenting through the next cuts and likely disappointments?
I know that DD and others will need to dig into and develop their resilience and this is just a life event and not the goal. Still, hearing your thoughts and experiences would be helpful for me.TIA!
In regards to GPA cuts, that can definitely be true. While the school can set a minimum GPA, the sorority can as well.
One thing your DD has to keep in mind is that some chapters are just really good at Rush and marketing themselves. Their goal is to make girls feel a "connection". Suggest that your DD step back and think "ok did I really, really have some connection with that girl or was she just super social, very outgoing and made it easy to be in what is usually a somewhat uncomfortable social situation?"
She should definitely go to the chapters who invited her back. They like her and want to get to know her and likely she made a connection there with someone and might not even be realizing it.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 12:17
Subject: Re:Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why you think OP is nuts. Her DD is going through what I know can be a crappy experience, and is definitely emotionally stressful. OP is venting here instead of to her daughter, because it sounds like DD wanted to rush and OP isn’t so into it. I didn’t get helicopter vibes from OP’s post. Are we now saying parents are crazy if they care about their kids’ experiences and feelings? Smh.
This. Calm down folks. Sometimes a vent is just a vent.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 12:14
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:A mother of a freshmen at a school found out a person was in the desired sorority at the school she attended. She asked that she be her sponsor and said ok and sent over her resume to submit with the recommendation seeing she had known the student for many years.
Sounds pretty simple and easy.
After glancing at the resume, she noticed a lot of made up stuff, specifically number of years on varsity sports, teams the student was never on number of years as captain, choral performances etc
The mother kept asking if the recommendation was sent yet and she was told no, asked why and she was told that she won't recommend someone who is not properly representing themselves, she padded her resume and she won't do it. To which the mother said, fine we will just get someone else.
Then she finds out that the mother submitted a letter on behalf of the person who said no but that is where they screwed up because the recommendation was to be submitted via the sorority portal under the persons account who was submitting the recommendation.
Int he end, the person was not selected by any sorority, when THE MOTHER asked she was told due to circumstances that they can't discuss her daughter was not invited to join a sorority.
There's a zero percent chance, based on this gibberish, that you attend any university, much less UVa.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 12:09
Subject: Re:Rush at UVA
My wife was in a sorority at Maryland. Would our daughter get any legacy status for the same sorority at Virginia Tech?
Anonymous
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:26
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can someone help me understand the rush process? DD is a senior now and is interested in going through rush next year (not at UVA though). When she signs up, it is then on her/me to find alumnae to sponsor her? Are you at a big disadvantage if you don’t know anyone?
The panhellenic process at each university or college is pretty well spelled out. As for recommendations your daughter should try to find alumnae, although it really varies how much it matters. What can matter more, again depending on the school or chapter, is knowing someone who is an active member, such as from your high school.
Here is the UVA info page as an example. There will be variance by school but the process is pretty much the same. The biggest difference, IMO, are between schools where rush happens in August, before first-years have even taken a class, and winter rush.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:24
Subject: Rush at UVA
OP and other moms: at the end of the day it only takes ONE. Wishing your DDs the best!
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:24
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Can someone help me understand the rush process? DD is a senior now and is interested in going through rush next year (not at UVA though). When she signs up, it is then on her/me to find alumnae to sponsor her? Are you at a big disadvantage if you don’t know anyone?
The panhellenic process at each university or college is pretty well spelled out. As for recommendations your daughter should try to find alumnae, although it really varies how much it matters. What can matter more, again depending on the school or chapter, is knowing someone who is an active member, such as from your high school.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:16
Subject: Rush at UVA
Can someone help me understand the rush process? DD is a senior now and is interested in going through rush next year (not at UVA though). When she signs up, it is then on her/me to find alumnae to sponsor her? Are you at a big disadvantage if you don’t know anyone?
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:12
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not according to the Pan Hell 2020 calendar
Please stop. UVA sorority rush is definitely occurring right now. I have a 2nd Year daughter in it right now.
My error. I was looking at the men's calendar. https://virginiaifc.com/spring-2019-schedule/
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:11
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Not according to the Pan Hell 2020 calendar
Please stop. UVA sorority rush is definitely occurring right now. I have a 2nd Year daughter in it right now.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:11
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:09
Subject: Rush at UVA
A mother of a freshmen at a school found out a person was in the desired sorority at the school she attended. She asked that she be her sponsor and said ok and sent over her resume to submit with the recommendation seeing she had known the student for many years.
Sounds pretty simple and easy.
After glancing at the resume, she noticed a lot of made up stuff, specifically number of years on varsity sports, teams the student was never on number of years as captain, choral performances etc
The mother kept asking if the recommendation was sent yet and she was told no, asked why and she was told that she won't recommend someone who is not properly representing themselves, she padded her resume and she won't do it. To which the mother said, fine we will just get someone else.
Then she finds out that the mother submitted a letter on behalf of the person who said no but that is where they screwed up because the recommendation was to be submitted via the sorority portal under the persons account who was submitting the recommendation.
Int he end, the person was not selected by any sorority, when THE MOTHER asked she was told due to circumstances that they can't discuss her daughter was not invited to join a sorority.
Sounds pretty simple and easy.
After glancing at the resume, she noticed a lot of made up stuff, specifically number of years on varsity sports, teams the student was never on number of years as captain, choral performances etc
The mother kept asking if the recommendation was sent yet and she was told no, asked why and she was told that she won't recommend someone who is not properly representing themselves, she padded her resume and she won't do it. To which the mother said, fine we will just get someone else.
Then she finds out that the mother submitted a letter on behalf of the person who said no but that is where they screwed up because the recommendation was to be submitted via the sorority portal under the persons account who was submitting the recommendation.
Int he end, the person was not selected by any sorority, when THE MOTHER asked she was told due to circumstances that they can't discuss her daughter was not invited to join a sorority.
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:02
Subject: Rush at UVA
Not according to the Pan Hell 2020 calendar
Anonymous
01/10/2020 11:01
Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:I call anti-UVA troll. I have a fourth year student at UVA sleep upstairs. The students don’t return until Jan 12. I checked the Pan-Hell calendar. there’s no activity right now. Bids don’t even go out until Jan 23.
What? UVA sorority rush is happening right now. Very easy to verify that. Bid Day is Sunday.