Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:43     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
She’s a snob but she’s not doing it right.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:43     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

? Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom


"or his jewelry." ?? Doubt Mandela would have made his life's work about a man's right to wear jewelry without some judgmental MIL making a comment about it. I think he was interested in way more important things.


He was talking about judging people for superficial inconsequential nonsense. No one is born giving a crap abut wearing jewelry. It is learned behavior.


It is also learned behavior to wear jewelry. No one is born wearing it. Obviously people wear jewelry because they want to influence how others see them. Do you really think the reaction will be the same to everyone?


Of course it is learned behavior. But it is of little consequence either way. Spend your judgmental energy on more important issues like is this person of good character.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:41     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

? Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom


"or his jewelry." ?? Doubt Mandela would have made his life's work about a man's right to wear jewelry without some judgmental MIL making a comment about it. I think he was interested in way more important things.


He was talking about judging people for superficial inconsequential nonsense. No one is born giving a crap abut wearing jewelry. It is learned behavior.


It is also learned behavior to wear jewelry. No one is born wearing it. Obviously people wear jewelry because they want to influence how others see them. Do you really think the reaction will be the same to everyone?
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:38     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

? Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom


"or his jewelry." ?? Doubt Mandela would have made his life's work about a man's right to wear jewelry without some judgmental MIL making a comment about it. I think he was interested in way more important things.


He was talking about judging people for superficial inconsequential nonsense. No one is born giving a crap abut wearing jewelry. It is learned behavior.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:35     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mother in law says “NOKD,” meaning “Not our kind, dear.” Men with Jewelry are NOKD. Las Vegas? NOKD. R
Hip hop music? Definitely NOKD. Is that still an expression?


Wow, Hope your kids aren’t listening to that because it’s horrible.


Why is it so horrible? The world is filled with people. If she doesn't think men who wear jewelry are her type, who cares.


It is like any other superficial blanket prejudiced statement. Some where along the way she was taught that men who wear jewelry are unworthy. I mean suit yourself but she has just lost access to thousand of people and their potential contributions to her life over nothing. at all
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:34     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
I always heard NQOCD - not quite our class, dear. And yes, it is obnoxious.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:33     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

? Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom


"or his jewelry." ?? Doubt Mandela would have made his life's work about a man's right to wear jewelry without some judgmental MIL making a comment about it. I think he was interested in way more important things.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:31     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Lame
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:31     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow she’s a blatant bigot.


It isn’t about being bigoted, it is about avoiding vulgarity. Anyone can have class, though few do.


+ 1
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 09:30     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mother in law says “NOKD,” meaning “Not our kind, dear.” Men with Jewelry are NOKD. Las Vegas? NOKD. R
Hip hop music? Definitely NOKD. Is that still an expression?


Wow, Hope your kids aren’t listening to that because it’s horrible.


Why is it so horrible? The world is filled with people. If she doesn't think men who wear jewelry are her type, who cares.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 08:46     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:It’s not about hate. It does sound cringe-worthy when you say it out loud, but it’s a thing. Look at Harry and Meghan. My own brother is on his second NOKD, with disastrous outcomes (obviously we are not bigoted enough not to mary NOKD)...

There's a reason it sounds cringe-worthy when you say it out loud. In fact, let that be your guide: if you aren't able to say it aloud, it's not an appropriate thing to believe.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 08:46     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
Anonymous wrote:Wow she’s a blatant bigot.


It isn’t about being bigoted, it is about avoiding vulgarity. Anyone can have class, though few do.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 08:43     Subject: Mother in Law says “NOKD”
It’s not about hate. It does sound cringe-worthy when you say it out loud, but it’s a thing. Look at Harry and Meghan. My own brother is on his second NOKD, with disastrous outcomes (obviously we are not bigoted enough not to mary NOKD)...
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 07:29     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

? Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 07:28     Subject: Re:Mother in Law says “NOKD”
She was taught to think that way. Can you try to teach her differently? I think this would be the best approach for bigot of all kinds. Ignorance.