Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:35     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:OP said the parents asked if it was a no gift party.

The answer is "please do what you are comfortable with."

They did not ask for gift suggestions.



No, OP said they asked if they could bring some food and she interpreted that as a demand that she renounce the concept of gifts. OP is socially awkward at best; nutty as squirrel poop at worst.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:34     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you feel guilty asking people to bring a gift for your child. (Which you should... because no one has time to buy more crap for your kids) But you're also not interpreting their questions correctly at all.


No one has time to read more crap on DCUM and yet you post it.

No one needs to feel guilty for the expectation that their children will get gifts at a birthday party. That is a societal norm. Hence "no gifts" must be specified, since it's not the societal norm.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:31     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


You say, no, just yourselves. Then, like any proper guest, they bring a GIFT for the birthday child.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:31     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
I always ask what their kids are into so I know what to get. And I am team gifts.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:29     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
It sounds like you feel guilty asking people to bring a gift for your child. (Which you should... because no one has time to buy more crap for your kids) But you're also not interpreting their questions correctly at all.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:29     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
I hate that question too. Obviously they want to get your kid something they will like, but I think getting something that another kid likes or something I never thought of or heard of makes it so much more exciting for my kid.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:29     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


Seriously?

"Thanks, we've got the food covered, we'll be providing some drinks and snacks/pizzas!"


No one offers to bring food to a party. The question was is this a no gift party. Answer the question.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:28     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
OP said the parents asked if it was a no gift party.

The answer is "please do what you are comfortable with."

They did not ask for gift suggestions.

Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:28     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


It sounds like this person wasn't even asking about gifts in the first place. If someone asks if they need to bring food to your party, you can say "no, we're providing pizza and cake!" If they have a question about gifts they'll ask it. Asking any question at all about your party is not begging you to say "no gifts." You have a really noticeable chip on your shoulder and it's clouding your perception.

Other parent: "Is it okay if we come a little late, we've got a soccer game first?"
OP: "FINE, NO GIFTS, MAKE MY KID MISERABLE YOU JUDGMENTAL HARPY!"


she said "anything".. then proceeded to offer food. who brings food to birthday parties? these are not young adults but little kids.


She wasn't asking about gifts. I don't know how else to explain that to you other than: it's not what she said, meant, or implied. You just have some kind of hang up and are projecting.


100% this. OP, you're imagining things.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:27     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


Seriously?

"Thanks, we've got the food covered, we'll be providing some drinks and snacks/pizzas!"
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:26     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
"OP, is there anything we should bring to Larlo's birthday? What is he into these days?"

"Larlo loves to read and enjoys doing puzzles."

There, was that so hard?
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:23     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


It sounds like this person wasn't even asking about gifts in the first place. If someone asks if they need to bring food to your party, you can say "no, we're providing pizza and cake!" If they have a question about gifts they'll ask it. Asking any question at all about your party is not begging you to say "no gifts." You have a really noticeable chip on your shoulder and it's clouding your perception.

Other parent: "Is it okay if we come a little late, we've got a soccer game first?"
OP: "FINE, NO GIFTS, MAKE MY KID MISERABLE YOU JUDGMENTAL HARPY!"


she said "anything".. then proceeded to offer food. who brings food to birthday parties? these are not young adults but little kids.


I know at least one person who has so much of the (Midwestern?) compulsion to never show up empty handed that she was very uncomfortable being told not to bring food to a birthday party. So it’s not out of the question that they were really asking about food
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:22     Subject: Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
What? You sound nuts.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:21     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


It sounds like this person wasn't even asking about gifts in the first place. If someone asks if they need to bring food to your party, you can say "no, we're providing pizza and cake!" If they have a question about gifts they'll ask it. Asking any question at all about your party is not begging you to say "no gifts." You have a really noticeable chip on your shoulder and it's clouding your perception.

Other parent: "Is it okay if we come a little late, we've got a soccer game first?"
OP: "FINE, NO GIFTS, MAKE MY KID MISERABLE YOU JUDGMENTAL HARPY!"


she said "anything".. then proceeded to offer food. who brings food to birthday parties? these are not young adults but little kids.


She wasn't asking about gifts. I don't know how else to explain that to you other than: it's not what she said, meant, or implied. You just have some kind of hang up and are projecting.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2020 14:20     Subject: Re:Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?


It sounds like this person wasn't even asking about gifts in the first place. If someone asks if they need to bring food to your party, you can say "no, we're providing pizza and cake!" If they have a question about gifts they'll ask it. Asking any question at all about your party is not begging you to say "no gifts." You have a really noticeable chip on your shoulder and it's clouding your perception.

Other parent: "Is it okay if we come a little late, we've got a soccer game first?"
OP: "FINE, NO GIFTS, MAKE MY KID MISERABLE YOU JUDGMENTAL HARPY!"


she said "anything".. then proceeded to offer food. who brings food to birthday parties? these are not young adults but little kids.