OP it sounds like your baby is doing amazing, especially with night sleep!

Both my boys didn't take consistent naps until 6 months, though I hear from others that theirs started as early as 4 months.

It's a good lesson to learn now, OP, to drop the rope a bit. Lower your expectations, and if your baby is doing well, enjoy it.

No, this is not the right age for a schedule. You're just going to make yourself crazy. You can have a ROUTINE, but not a schedule. Just hold out a little bit longer (maybe til 4 months?) and your baby will take fewer naps and they'll be more consistent. But really, there will be some days where the morning nap is 2 hrs, and some days where it's 35 minutes, and you'll just have to adjust.

Agree with PP that you might be happier if you do some babywearing naps at this age. You can successfully do babywearing naps for another month, if not two. That way you can get out a little, at least take a walk around the block, or maybe bounce on a ball and do some work on the computer or something while your baby sleeps.

It changes constantly. Have a schedule, but don't obsess over getting it "right" all the time. In two months his sleep is going to change again so learn to take all the changes in stride.

My 3 yo is now going through some other type of change to her sleep, so there's still a while before all this calms down.

Ignore the "developing countries" stuff. Experts make recommendations for a reason. As long as the baby is safe, don't fret about whether you're doing things perfectly. This early madness passes.

The trouble I've always found is that with babies that small, as soon as you get him on one schedule, he develops out of it. So its a constant frustration. Babies that small are meant to be carried around while you go about your business - if you look at developing countries, that's what they still do. I'm not suggesting that you carry him around all the time, obviously, but put more focus on the things you want/need to get done and the baby will work around you.

I would really just follow his cues. At that age, mine nursed to sleep, napped on me in a carrier/sling, etc. We also co-slept. I did not stress about a schedule. Everyone is different, but I found parenting this way so much easier. Kids are now in elementary school— no ill effects evident.

At that age, ours followed a “schedule” for about 3 days and then went on to another one and then another one. When I say “schedule”, I mean a similar pattern. When growth spurts happen, all bets are off.