Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I am this mother but I swear I thought I had really invited the child and just spaced. When I was reviewing the RSVPs I realized she never made it on the evite list. So, she could be telling the truth.

Are you really trampoline park mom? Why not just tell the truth instead of saying it's a last minute party?

She was speaking metaphorically. She’s not really the exact mother in this thread. She’s saying she has done this too. Duh!

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I am this mother but I swear I thought I had really invited the child and just spaced. When I was reviewing the RSVPs I realized she never made it on the evite list. So, she could be telling the truth.

Are you really trampoline park mom? Why not just tell the truth instead of saying it's a last minute party?

Anonymous wrote:And for a positive spin, they did a good job of keeping your son in the dark when he WASN'T invited so there were no hurt feelings. Goodness knows that comes up frequently. She tried to smooth things by blaming herself rather than someone dropped. Just stick with all the social niceties and go.

Well, I have been the mom who really DID mess up and meant to invite people I had left off the list.

Maybe she really did not have it together on this. Hope you went!

My focus would be on what my child wanted. I would not care about what was going on on the other end. I'd just be happy it wasn't something I screwed up on this time.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, would you rather she come right out and say your son was on the b list?

That's more like the D list.

No, because reality is they only invited you as someone dropped out.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah you’re probably right. I’m just annoyed because in know this woman’s husband has my contact information. I received texts from him almost daily during the season he coached DS. Plus, I hate that my kid is the last minute invitation because someone else couldn’t go. I mean, you don’t reserve the trampoline park if you actually dropped the ball. But yeah, I know these are my issues- not DS’s. I’m just cranky and annoyed by it all right now, that’s all!

So you’re cranky and annoyed that these people want to host you?

Say no, decline. Point blank.

They’re enjoy asking you to host. They’re asking you to attend. If that’s a burden, then say no. It’s that easy.

I know, it’s hard to imagine, but the party will go on without you.

For various reasons, we are hosting a sleigh ride on Sunday. While we had a tentative date, we solidified yesterday with the venue.

I’m inviting people last minute. That includes, by your standard, the “A” list.

Your son wants to go so I wouldn’t over think it. It’s hard to keep track of all your kids friends.

If you have no pressing plans, why not? It makes your son happy.

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I am this mother but I swear I thought I had really invited the child and just spaced. When I was reviewing the RSVPs I realized she never made it on the evite list. So, she could be telling the truth.

+1. I do stuff like this all the time. And my DH does not save contacts! He could be emailing someone for months, like during the sports season, and just use the number in his recent list, then when the temporary thing is over, loses track of the whole thing. That’s completely believable to me. And even if your kid was on the B list - so what? I’m sure your kid didn’t consider this kid a best friend either; you were close enough for them to think of him when they had a spot. It’s not an insult at all. So I’m glad you put aside your petty feelings and let your son go and regifting a target card seems like a perfect idea to me.

Do you want to?

-that's all that matters. Learn to trust your gut. It will make your life so much easier.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, would you rather she come right out and say your son was on the b list?

Nope. It would’ve been better if she had just let it go. They are at the age where it’s understood that not every friend is invited to an expensive party. My DS only knew about it because the kid opened his mouth. They don’t see each other out of school (and are no longer on he same sports team) so his birthday was never on our radar. I think it just puts us in an awkward position.

Ok, I am this mother but I swear I thought I had really invited the child and just spaced. When I was reviewing the RSVPs I realized she never made it on the evite list. So, she could be telling the truth.

If the kids are texting each other, they’re older. When my kid was in early elementary school I knew who was in each class, etc. Now that my child is in middle school, I only know who to invite if they tell me. I have no idea if someone is being left out. Last year my child wanted to invite someone to their party and I asked them to get contact information so I could add them to the invite. My child never did, even with repeated reminders. So I can totally see the last minute “hey mom, let’s invite Larlo!”.

I mean, would you rather she come right out and say your son was on the b list?