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Anonymous wrote:We do the gratitude etc type conversations at dinner already. He often chooses not to participate, however, as it rubs him the wrong way. He also does not like it when I thank him for what he does around the house and with kids and for me, and doesn't count that as a positive interaction. I do thank him amd the kids for the work they do. I know Gottman reccomends 5 positive interactions for every negative one, and turning toward rather than away. I try to follow both of those principles.

I'm really wondering what I must be doing that is coming off as complaining; I'm generally an optimistic person.

I do tend to avoid conflict, but I've been trying not to do that as much, although not aggressively. More like coming back to a conversation later on to say how it made me feel (not blaming). But there isn't much conflict in general right now (or simply ever).

Anti depressants is a thought.

You need to ask your husband exactly what he wants from you then because he's not willing to accept what most people would consider positive interactions. Make him be more specific. Honestly, he kind of sounds like a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:13:50 here.

It looks like the link I posted is broken - sorry.

Try this one.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj4ch0I70Yg

Anonymous wrote:hmmm... YOU may not be the one in need of anti depressants.