Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot easier to go out and travel when you only have 1 child and a willing baby sitter. I don’t think I would use my mom if she was 70 though until my child could creep through the night. When you have multiple and early wake up times, it’s tough. Our biggest issue with 2 is who will wake up with the kids the next morning after partying all night. It’s not fun.

So what you are saying is you don’t prefer going out since you don’t want to be up the next morning with kids or the dog or any number of things. That’s ok but when I was in similar stage with young kids we went out and I didn’t mind one bit waking up early the next morning such is life once we had a child My DH is a home body so him just coming out was a win in my book and I didn’t expect him to be up early next day.

Our kid was already almost one this NYE (stayed home), but a couple of years ago friends had a 5 month old at NYE, and they invited us (one couple) over to hang out, watch movies and the ball drop, and have a toast. It was low key and fun, no sitter required since she went down around 7.

I think it is important to see your friends and have fun, but the idea that you phrased it as he wants to continue our ‘single’ life is ... well he either needs a come-to-Jesus or this is a huge red flag. He's not single at all. Life changes.

Most importantly - you get input into what you want to do, too. Compromise.

Anonymous wrote:We had our first in our mid 20s and still went out all the time. But the important part is, we both wanted to. Or we took turns. Now that our friends have started to catch up, we just naturally have a more kid friendly social life.

Your DH isn’t wrong, but neither are you. The problem is simply that you don’t agree about what this chapter of your life should look like.

This. Both my husband and I were happy to stay in when we had a child, perhaps bc were were older? So we agreed.

Op, your situation sounds like that of my sister and her (ex) husband.

Two points, if I may:

Don’t be afraid to rely on your mom, as long as she really wants to help. Seventy is not that old, and she may actually really enjoy taking care of the baby!

You and your DH should perhaps think twice or three times before having a second child.

It’s a lot easier to go out and travel when you only have 1 child and a willing baby sitter. I don’t think I would use my mom if she was 70 though until my child could creep through the night. When you have multiple and early wake up times, it’s tough. Our biggest issue with 2 is who will wake up with the kids the next morning after partying all night. It’s not fun.

We had a great NYE! We have a 1yo and my est friend from college has a 5 month old. We had a family sleepover. My family went to their house at 5pm. We played on the floor with the kids, gave them dinner, put their pjs on, book and bed. Then us adults ordered Thai food, had 2-3 drinks each, played cards, and went to bed at 12:30am. We all woke up at 7:15am and my friend and I cooked a big breakfast together. We all ate and we went home and took a 1.5 hour family nap.

Anonymous wrote:We went out! Have 3 under 3.

Who signed up to watch that NYE????

Helllll to the no. I have an infant and a toddler and we were in bed at 11.

We had our first in our mid 20s and still went out all the time. But the important part is, we both wanted to. Or we took turns. Now that our friends have started to catch up, we just naturally have a more kid friendly social life.

Your DH isn’t wrong, but neither are you. The problem is simply that you don’t agree about what this chapter of your life should look like.

We went out! Have 3 under 3.

Uhh no I was working when the ball dropped and after as well. Thanks big law!

We have a 2 year old and an 8 month old. They stayed the night at our parents who live close by and we had about 20 people over. It was fun! We had friends attend with kids younger than ours who had sitters.

We have always had neighbors over with kids. Early on no one stayed till midnight. Now the kids are teens. Parents leave at 12:15...kids stay on till they are ready to walk home.

Anonymous wrote:We had friends over for dinner. No way was I going out.

OP, to be clear, we went to a house party downtown, just like 40 friends all hanging out. Not like we are clubbing or something, so we were essentially your dinner guests.

We had friends over for dinner. No way was I going out.

Ha e an almost 4 yo and a almost 4 month old. Did not go out. We were both passed out by 10 pm. Officially old.